Sounds like he is insecure about his hold on you, which shouldn't be your problem to deal with. You should be able to act and dress the way you want, even in a relationship. If he trusts you, he'll know you wouldn't cheat. If he doesn't, that's his problem (unless something happened in the past to make him not trust you ofcourse).
Even if you think you know where a conversation is going, doesn't mean you have to skip the intro and go there right away. It sounds like you were picking a fight just a much as he did. Nothing is going to change unless one of you takes a more peaceful approach. And it's clearly not going to be him, so you be the better one. But you should tell him that the physical thing scares you. Not that you should play the victim, but let him know you don't accept things like that. Like I said, it sounds like he is afraid of losing you, but doesn't realize that his actions are exactly what's pushing you away. Let him know that!
Good luck!
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OH EM GEE. You WROTE A STORY.. I JUST READ THE BEGINNING THE VERY BEGINNING.. AND LET ME TELL You THAT UR DATING A FREAK AKA FAG.
ANY MAN THAT DOES THAT SHIT SHOULD GET THERE BALLS CUT OFF.
MY MOM GOT BEAT FOR 8 YEARS.. HOMIE IS NOW IN PRISON FOR 3 YEARS.
THATS PART OF MY LIFE.. BUT LET ME TELL You JUST LIKE I TOLD MY MOTHER...
IF You WANT HELP, HELP URSELF.
ITS BETTER TO BE ALONE THAN IN BAD COMPANY.
MY SHIT IS THAT MY MOM STILL LOVES THIS BEATER AND IT JUST TURNS MY TUMMY... BUT GOD WILL DEAL WITH HIM.
AS FOR MY MOTHER... SHE HAS BATTERED WOMEN SYNDROME.. CUZ B4 THEY GET PHYSICAL THE GET VERBAL AND IT SOUNDS LIKE HE ALREADY DOES THAT... THERE STEPS TO ABUSE. AND REALLY GET OUT B4 You CANT AND IT GETS WORST. GOOD LUCK MY FRIEND. OH I GLIMPS UP AT UR STORY AND IT SAYS "MY BABY" -- GET OUT HOMEGURL.
I am a mother and am no longer with the biological father..actually I haven't be scince I was still pregnant so it may be a little different... but I can tell you for sure that it doesn't mean you can't find another... a better... man. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and he is amazing wih my daughter. you don't deserve to be treated like that from anybody. It's your choice, but coming from a similar experience, you can do way better and desevre better as well... and your son needs you to be happy for his own well being. Keep your head up! Trust your instinct. If you are scared to leave, I am sure there are people you can contact for help out.
tell him strait up, I don't even dress the way I used to, I do love you, I want to be with you and be respected by you I would never cheat, why can't you trust me?
the other BIG thing is communication. how many hours did you two spend talking to each other when your baby was conceived? how bout now?
But in the end if this guy stays abusive, he isn't worth the dust on your shoes. your in a relationship try to work it out, but if he's to self centered to care about you and treats you like he owns you, there will be a guy who will love you... and your baby, he will respect you and only want what's best for the both of you,
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