Yes, relationships can get boring and mundane. If you dwell on what isn't happening, I think, that is where cheating becomes a thing that might happen. Once you realize you are thinking that way, you have to change your mind set and spice things back up.
No. I'll have the moment of looking at actors etc, but never more than "Oh he's pretty good looking" If I wanted anyone else, it's not fair for me to stay with my partner.
If you mean fantacize about someone else sure. But if you mean thinking of being with someone more romantically or more than just fantacizing, in that case never. That would be clear sign there is something wrong with relationship.
its wrong to do so while in a healthy relationship. It shows disrespect towards your partner and immaturity. I have never dont that while in a relationship with someone who treated me right, whats the point? But i have been in a very unhealthy relationship where i ended up thinking about dating other people because i was so unhappy.
yes. not proudly though. i never cheated nor intended to start this connection with this new person, but things kinda happened naturally. when i realized i had a crush on him i backed off respecting my boyfriend at the time.
and when i and my boyfriend at the time got to a dead end in our relationship, i approached that guy again.
Every relationship I have been in. Every time I walk down the road and see another woman. I think to myself I would like to be with her. And so does everybody else in the world straight, lesbian, bisexual or gay. we are all human and we all are here for the same reason procreation and to do so, that means looking, thinking and doing what it takes to make another human as many times as each of us want. I wish everybody could be hornet within themselves because you aren't lying to anyone apart from yourself and everyone else on here. Lol
Women are the sexual gatekeepers in our society. This is notable in the responses-about 2/3s of men answered yes as opposed to a similar number of women answering no.. Women select from all comers while men select from among women who have selected him
Nope. When I'm with someone i only have eyes for them nobody else. If somebody wants to be with someone else and they in a relationship then time to break up.
Okay, so we had sex, I was drunk/high/something and dozed off for a bit half dreaming or imaging erotic things in my mind... comes to again and the things in my mind actually involved her, my wife aka. the one I was having sex with... really weird, but kinda cool :-)
Efore getting together eith ex, i was attracted to a former colleague. Whilst with ex i saw the ex colleague a couple of times socially, the attraction was still there. After ex i've seen ex colleague socially, we have spoken about hanging out without rest of group, never came to fruition. I've met someone new, at the moment i'm only thinking bout them, but ex colleague will seem like the forbidden fruit
This usually means the relationship isn’t strong enough to keep building on and you ahould move on.
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Anonymous
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I’m going through this right now but I’ve gone through it before once. So yes. I think it’s normal and okay as long as you don’t act on it! Right now there’s this guy who has been so sweet to me and it’s something I don’t get very often from my boyfriend. So what do I do? I just fantasize being w him lol that’s it because at the end of the day, I love my boyfriend. He’s just imperfect but that’s okay and I’m human and can feel this way so that’s okay too.
I think it's normal to think about other people, or wanting to fuck other people. It's not normal CONSTANTLY dream of being in another relationship though, that's typically a sign that you're dissatisfied.
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Anonymous
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I have dreamed about sleeping with everyone from porn stars to next door neighbors. But, the hallmark of a mature relationship is that you can have these fantasies but not act on them in real life. These are fantasies left for my masturbation time and left there.
Never cheated, never thought about it. I am with the one I want to be with. Maybe because I am picky anyway, so I am focused on them. In my eyes and mind, no one else is worth a first or second look.
Yes, I love my wife and i am faithful to her but there are always desires which can not be fulfiled in your relationship which you migth see in other persons. For me it is important at these moments to look what i have with my wife and not what I am missing to get the right focus. But that is sometimes easier said then done.
Yes, but I think it's normal now and then to find someone sexually attractive, which to me is equal to wanting sex with someone else. But I don't think it's very important as long as you don't act on it.
Yes. Humans by nature are not monogamous. Dating is a lie and everyone should just sleep around, it's what we are meant to do. Everyone should cheat really. It's natural and healthy to cheat, also sex is not bad, it;s a good thing so you're not doing anything bad. I don't know why people get mad when their partner cheats when sex is a menaingless thing and most people treat it as a meaningless thing but when they get in a relationship they change their mind.
I've been married for a decade. Never wanted to find another girlfriend/spouse person. But I've been interested in being with someone sexually. It's more of a fantasy than reality thing. Meet someone and think she could be really fun in bed and then just let it drop.
i've wanted to be with someone else but not necessarily wanted to have sex with them. like basically i was in a relationship with a person i no longer was into and was interested in someone else.
As far as I every got to acting on it was a single masturbation session. I then feel so guilty I have never acted on attraction whole in a relationship in and way since, with any girl.
physical attraction is linked to the basic instinct so yah sure all men would want "many" not only "someone" but it doesn't mean they would actually go for it or consider it necessarily ! "wanting" isn't a choice but "doing" is !
Yah, and when that happened I began to think hard about my current relationship and realized I wasn’t happy and I was only wasting her time and my time. So I broke up with her
No. I'm superselective when it comes to guys. When I am in a relationship with someone, it means that they 100% match all my criteria, which are a lot.
@mo_adams Maybe, but the relationships I had were all very well and very long lasting, and never ended badly or for a non-external decision (except for the first, but I was 14 when it was over). So it works.
Complitely normal, but if u want someone doesn't mean u have to do it. After all if u find that someone more atractive that ur curent partner, break up and go be with someone else.
Smh... Don't assume because of a response... I'm as loyal as they come but I'm just speaking in general... Most of my responses won't be about me but in general... A good 90 - 95% of men cheat anyway...
Agreed but one quote I will always remember “a man will truly be loyal for someone he loves and cherishes as his own” so yes they cheat but they will change for “the one”
Yes, of course. There is no law of nature that says you can't love more than one person at a time. Mature adults don't act on every impulse or feeling however.
Um... yeah duh, of course. Extremely normal. I really like my girlfriend and enjoy my time with her and enjoy sex with her, but I constantly want other girls too. Pretty much just how it is being male, for most of us.
The downvotes are amusing, but they really don't matter; fake Internet points don't change real-world truth. If you don't like how guys think, you can either get mad and start shouting at the sky like a crazy person, or you can just learn gradually to accept it. Downvotes don't change that.
@Anon-ymous1 Females simply don't like the idea that their man probably prefers to think of and look at other women when he jerks it. The dudes here that claim they would never are just virtue signaling or else they have the sex drive of a panda bear... they want to look like they're better than guys like me (I bluntly tell my wife I'd love to bang her new friend).
Two types of guys in this world, guys that jerk off and liars... because I know some liar is going to say they don't. Personally I think it's the 'Coolidge effect' that makes a different girl the prefered source to play the skin flute to. ... and I know damn well a woman flicking the bean isn't thinking about their man either, but the question about women is if she will flick the bean at all. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
No. When i was in a relationship, it was like she was the only girl in the world, i saw other girls as just people
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Anonymous
(25-29)
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While the relationship works, no. And it doesn't matter how hot other girls are, when I have a girlfriend and I love her I don't want other girls. Wanting someone else is the first sign that the relationship doesn't work anymore
No, I would never want someone else over the person I chose. I chose them for a reason and I would not turn my back on them. Whether the other is better in other aspects it wouldn't be the same.
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Anonymous
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Yup, it happened and that how I ended up with my 3 year old.
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Anonymous
(25-29)
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yes only because i knew the person i was with wasn't the one for me.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
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I don't know any way to phrase it other than: My penis has, but my mind hasn't.
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