She likes me but doesn't want a relationship..

[lillucchesi21]

This girl and I have been talking for about 3 weeks. We hangout a lot and we kiss and make out like we like each other. I like her a lot and she said she likes me too, but here’s the thing. She just told me how she really likes me and doesn’t want to hurt me because she doesn’t want a relationship because she had just got out of a 2 year relationship not that long ago. That guy cheated on her and controlled her but she knows that I would never do that to her. She said she still wants to hangout and stuff and she wants to consider us talking I guess. But what is the point if she doesn’t want to date? I really like her and I don’t want to get screwed over :\ She might come over tonight.. what should I do? What should I say? Is there a way to change her mind? She also said something about going to college after this year. We are both seniors by the way but college isn’t right around the corner. I just need some advice…please help

[last-rolo]

I'm just about to do this to a guy who I made out with at a party, and have a date with tomorrow, but I've also just come out of a two year relationship, so I get where she's coming from.

You have to respect that she is being honest and up front with you, so it's not like she's leading you on.

Two years is areally long time to be with someone, especially when you're so young so she probably just wants to enjoy being herself for a while, not half of a couple.

Just enjoy what time you do have with her, and take it lightly. And if that's not enough for you then move on, because she's made it clear what she wants.

[Anonymous]

You've got to take her words to heart. She's still trying to get over her last relationship and that takes time. A lot of it. There's no way to change her mind and you'll only be hurt more if you continue on in this quasi-relationship. Find a girl who wants to be your girlfriend and in a relationship.

[lillucchesi21]

but the thing is.. I don't want to hurt her because she likes me and I know she will be hurt. Her and her ex broke up about 3 or 4 months ago and that should be enough time I would think. It took me about a month when my ex and I broke up of a year and a half. I'm just gonna go with the flow and whatever happens happens. There is just something about this girl that makes me not want to let her go..

[Opinion Owner]

Yes but she's already hurting you by stringing you along with no prospect for a real relationship. You owe it to yourself to be happy and you're not in this situation. If you want to go with the flow that's fine but you must realize that nothing is going to change any time soon.

[Dibiticus]

Best thing you can do is let it go, it happens, and it'll happen again. I just don't see why people choose to tell someone that they like them and show feeling towards them when they say they aren't ready for it. It's worse than being rejected I think, at least it hurts more. Sorry man.

[Anonymous]

Dude... same exact senerio is happening to me right now... Actually right now I'm giving her space so she can get over the hurt of her last relationship and decide what she wants to do. I like her a lot but she's afraid to get in another relationship... it sucks :(

[lillucchesi21]

I know bro it sucks bad :\ You think to yourself.. what's the point in even trying

[Opinion Owner]

I know. It's like.. right now I still like her and I want to talk to her but I don't want to bother her because what she's going through and she likes me... (at least I think she still does... she use to be all open and what not but now she's all distant because the pain from her past relationship came back) and we aren't even talking right now... Its like.. should I wait and keep liking her and then risk getting hurt from her if she doesn't want to be with me or just forget about her now...

[Anonymous]

Continue to hang out with her . Her saying she doesn't want a relationship means she doesn't want to go out with you on the rebound hope this helped.