Is it possible for a friendship to turn into a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Can a guy and girl be friends first then enter a relationship? How common is this?

[SammyGurl]

I married my best friend (he's almost the boy next door too)!! I met my best friend when I was five, he was six. We discovered we lived on the same street and became playmates, friends, best friends, BFF's!! Before my sixteenth birthday I realized I had some pretty serious feelings for him, I know now that I really loved him probably long before I ever realized what it was. One day as I was talking to my Mom, it just kind of slipped out that I loved him. I'm so glad she didn't tell me something like, "you're only 15 how can you know you love someone like that?" She didn't though, she just listened. Then she told me, "He feels the same about you, you know..." I had no idea, I just thought he felt like he was my best friend!

A few weeks before my sixteenth birthday he and I were talking, I came right out and asked him about it! For once I found him without words, until I told him I felt the exact same way about him. Then he admitted that he did and had feelings for me for a long time. He was afraid to say anything because he never wanted to hurt our friendship. It made our friendship even better!

The day after my sixteenth birthday, (when my parents allowed me to date) we went on our very first date! We would have gone out on my birthday but my parents insisted on throwing a "Sweet Sixteen" birthday party! I did get my very first kiss before the party. He told me he had something in the back yard to give me for my birthday. Boy did he ever!! I wasn't expecting a kiss, I really thought he had hid a present out there for me! We came back in, I was all flushed, my Mom teased us a little too!

After I turned 18, he told me he had something to show me in our backyard. I should have known something special was up. I was clueless until he brought out a blue velvet box, got down on one knee and asked me if I would marry him? It took a second to register just what was happening before I could get Yes!! out! We were met by both our parents with a champagne toast to celebrate.

We knew we were getting married sooner or later like before or after university. We chose sooner, before my first year and after his first year! It's been three years and my best friend and I are still closer than ever!!

So yeah, it's quite possible for a friendship to turn into a romantic relationship. Maybe it won't work out as well as ours, but it is possible though!

[SammyGurl]

Thank You!!

[AlienParasite]

All my boyfriends started being my friends. So I would say is very common. However I don't know how common would be for a long lasting friendship, cause I haven't experience that, neither I know too many people who have gone through that (just some aquitances).

I think it's easier for a short friendship to end like a couple. For a long friendship, specially if it's started during childhood, might be difficult because sometimes a kind of siblinghood is developed, so it's like that person is a brother or sister and would feel like incest. However, they are not real siblings so wouldn't be impossible, only less common than when it's a shorter friendship.

[jss123]

Yes. Just be wary though. You don't always know them as well as you think you do. Tread carefully. Mine had a completely fake personality that cracked after we got married. I had known her for 10 years first as my best friend. She was a complete narcissist underneath. It was like living with a monster.
I'm now seeing another friend. She's the real thing. I observed her showing a lot compassion to someone the other day without her being aware I was there. I wasn't sure if I was in love with her until that moment. She's an amazing woman.

[Frankenstein99]

It's possible but it's not likely if you're a guy. Women put guys into 2 category's guys they like as friends and guys they don't. If you want a relationship with a woman you need to always keep in mind the way she's perceiving you and always be working to that end.

[Logorithim]

Possible, but I've never known anyone that this happened to. It's probably relatively rare.

[devilish-cutie]

personally i have never fallen for any of the guys i considered to be just friends
i either liked the guy immediately or after a couple of the times i saw him
i also had to think he was good looking
I dont find it aplicable to me that if I hang out with the guy, that i just see as a friend, that i might fall for him - it has never happened
however other people say it happened to them so i think it may happen depending what kind of person you are
personally i have a good intuition and am very much aware of who i find romatically/sexually appealing right away

[Anonymous]

I think it all depends on how things develop. I think the first 2-3 weeks are crucial because during that time of “let’s get to know each other better” is when one of the parts decide if it’s “friend zone” relationship, friendship, friends with benefits relationship...

[Salsacumbia]

Yes. Most definitely, if you're both into each other, and have things in common it can work. But be sure you both want to take it next level, other wise itll be very bad at ending your friendship in a very awkward way. My own opinion.

[Itsjustvic]

Yes sometimes the best relationships start off as friendship first. This only happens if they both were initially attracted to one another but for whatever reason dating initially wasn't possible and a friendship evolved instead.

[Kimrav1988]

Absolutely people can be friends first before they date. My sister has only dated guys who she’s been friends with first for some reason. Everyone is different though.

[Anonymous]

When I broke up with my ex he started dating a friend of his he had previously friend zoned because she’s extremely ugly. At first I thought he was desperate and she was just a sad rebound but they’ve been datin for one year, meaning he likes trolls. So yes it can happen.

[SNIPESS]

Really common, I feel like starting off this way is better. You already have a good foundation of some trust and if the friendship is strong, with a relationship things will move smoother. But that's just in my opinion 😁

[energyjunkie]

All good relationships start with a base of friendship. Depends on the girl as well and the timing has to be perfect

[joshdunn]

Absolutely your partner should be your best friend

[toby7116]

yes very common, as a girl I've had this and i personaly lik ethis because you get close and really get to know someone and often taht akes a person more attractive

[MimiHashima]

Yes it’s possible; I’m in one with my current boyfriend. Though, as to how common it is, every area and individual is different, it seems common from my personal point of view.

[Poppykate]

I think this is the best possible way for a relationship to start. If you both have real physical chemistry, it isn’t going to go away by becoming friends, it will only become stronger.

[TheyCallMeTayTay]

That's exactly what's happening to me. I haven't been avoiding in nor trying to open it because it's her decision. I don't mind either way. I just don't think she's ready for a relationship with me.

[andreasderjuengere]

I don't think, it's uncommon. I had it a few times like this. However - in case that a relation ends, it might be very difficult to keep up the initial friendship.

[IlyaTheImpaler]

Yes but there must be initial sexual attraction too, so they might be "friends" or "a cute friend of a friend" but not that kind of friends most people tend to think of lol

[luvstoned4him]

Yes very possible but it needs a little bit of tending to for it to bloom.

[Jackieboi]

Why couldnt they? Dont think its as common as the dating way or in-same-social-group way but still common. Best relationship i ever had started out that way

[Jemini_Crocket]

Actually, most pairs I know were friends first before getting together.

[rose004b]

Sounds unlikely. The "friend zone" is well known for a reason.

[ChronicThinker]

It's POSSIBLE, but highly unlikely. Not without ruining the friendship.