Is it possible for a friendship to turn into a relationship?

Question

Can a guy and girl be friends first then enter a relationship? How common is this?

SammyGurl · Accepted Answer

I married my best friend (he's almost the boy next door too)!! I met my best friend when I was five, he was six. We discovered we lived on the same street and became playmates, friends, best friends, BFF's!! Before my sixteenth birthday I realized I had some pretty serious feelings for him, I know now that I really loved him probably long before I ever realized what it was. One day as I was talking to my Mom, it just kind of slipped out that I loved him. I'm so glad she didn't tell me something like, "you're only 15 how can you know you love someone like that?" She didn't though, she just listened. Then she told me, "He feels the same about you, you know..." I had no idea, I just thought he felt like he was my best friend!

A few weeks before my sixteenth birthday he and I were talking, I came right out and asked him about it! For once I found him without words, until I told him I felt the exact same way about him. Then he admitted that he did and had feelings for me for a long time. He was afraid to say anything because he never wanted to hurt our friendship. It made our friendship even better!

The day after my sixteenth birthday, (when my parents allowed me to date) we went on our very first date! We would have gone out on my birthday but my parents insisted on throwing a "Sweet Sixteen" birthday party! I did get my very first kiss before the party. He told me he had something in the back yard to give me for my birthday. Boy did he ever!! I wasn't expecting a kiss, I really thought he had hid a present out there for me! We came back in, I was all flushed, my Mom teased us a little too!

After I turned 18, he told me he had something to show me in our backyard. I should have known something special was up. I was clueless until he brought out a blue velvet box, got down on one knee and asked me if I would marry him? It took a second to register just what was happening before I could get Yes!! out! We were met by both our parents with a champagne toast to celebrate.

We knew we were getting married sooner or later like before or after university. We chose sooner, before my first year and after his first year! It's been three years and my best friend and I are still closer than ever!!

So yeah, it's quite possible for a friendship to turn into a romantic relationship. Maybe it won't work out as well as ours, but it is possible though!

AlienParasite · Accepted Answer

All my boyfriends started being my friends. So I would say is very common. However I don't know how common would be for a long lasting friendship, cause I haven't experience that, neither I know too many people who have gone through that (just some aquitances).

I think it's easier for a short friendship to end like a couple. For a long friendship, specially if it's started during childhood, might be difficult because sometimes a kind of siblinghood is developed, so it's like that person is a brother or sister and would feel like incest. However, they are not real siblings so wouldn't be impossible, only less common than when it's a shorter friendship.

jss123 · Accepted Answer

Yes. Just be wary though. You don't always know them as well as you think you do. Tread carefully. Mine had a completely fake personality that cracked after we got married. I had known her for 10 years first as my best friend. She was a complete narcissist underneath. It was like living with a monster.
I'm now seeing another friend. She's the real thing. I observed her showing a lot compassion to someone the other day without her being aware I was there. I wasn't sure if I was in love with her until that moment. She's an amazing woman.

Frankenstein99 · Accepted Answer

It's possible but it's not likely if you're a guy. Women put guys into 2 category's guys they like as friends and guys they don't. If you want a relationship with a woman you need to always keep in mind the way she's perceiving you and always be working to that end.

Logorithim · Answer

Possible, but I've never known anyone that this happened to. It's probably relatively rare.

devilish-cutie · Answer

personally i have never fallen for any of the guys i considered to be just friends
i either liked the guy immediately or after a couple of the times i saw him
i also had to think he was good looking
I dont find it aplicable to me that if I hang out with the guy, that i just see as a friend, that i might fall for him - it has never happened
however other people say it happened to them so i think it may happen depending what kind of person you are
personally i have a good intuition and am very much aware of who i find romatically/sexually appealing right away

Anonymous · Answer

I think it all depends on how things develop. I think the first 2-3 weeks are crucial because during that time of “let’s get to know each other better” is when one of the parts decide if it’s “friend zone” relationship, friendship, friends with benefits relationship...

Salsacumbia · Answer

Yes. Most definitely, if you're both into each other, and have things in common it can work. But be sure you both want to take it next level, other wise itll be very bad at ending your friendship in a very awkward way. My own opinion.

Itsjustvic · Answer

Yes sometimes the best relationships start off as friendship first. This only happens if they both were initially attracted to one another but for whatever reason dating initially wasn't possible and a friendship evolved instead.

Kimrav1988 · Answer

Absolutely people can be friends first before they date. My sister has only dated guys who she’s been friends with first for some reason. Everyone is different though.

Anonymous · Answer

When I broke up with my ex he started dating a friend of his he had previously friend zoned because she’s extremely ugly. At first I thought he was desperate and she was just a sad rebound but they’ve been datin for one year, meaning he likes trolls. So yes it can happen.

SNIPESS · Answer

Really common, I feel like starting off this way is better. You already have a good foundation of some trust and if the friendship is strong, with a relationship things will move smoother. But that's just in my opinion 😁

energyjunkie · Answer

All good relationships start with a base of friendship. Depends on the girl as well and the timing has to be perfect

toby7116 · Answer

yes very common, as a girl I've had this and i personaly lik ethis because you get close and really get to know someone and often taht akes a person more attractive

MimiHashima · Answer

Yes it’s possible; I’m in one with my current boyfriend. Though, as to how common it is, every area and individual is different, it seems common from my personal point of view.

Poppykate · Answer

I think this is the best possible way for a relationship to start. If you both have real physical chemistry, it isn’t going to go away by becoming friends, it will only become stronger.

TheyCallMeTayTay · Answer

That's exactly what's happening to me. I haven't been avoiding in nor trying to open it because it's her decision. I don't mind either way. I just don't think she's ready for a relationship with me.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I don't think, it's uncommon. I had it a few times like this. However - in case that a relation ends, it might be very difficult to keep up the initial friendship.

IlyaTheImpaler · Answer

Yes but there must be initial sexual attraction too, so they might be "friends" or "a cute friend of a friend" but not that kind of friends most people tend to think of lol

luvstoned4him · Answer

Yes very possible but it needs a little bit of tending to for it to bloom.

Jackieboi · Answer

Why couldnt they? Dont think its as common as the dating way or in-same-social-group way but still common. Best relationship i ever had started out that way

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Actually, most pairs I know were friends first before getting together.

rose004b · Answer

Sounds unlikely. The "friend zone" is well known for a reason.

ChronicThinker · Answer

It's POSSIBLE, but highly unlikely. Not without ruining the friendship.

Massageman · Answer

A friendship IS a relationship, (probably) just not a sexual one. But, I digress- yes- I've seen it happen with a young couple I know.

Didja_Like_That · Answer

Yes it is and would say pretty common. The real question is the reverse possible? Mostly no.

Anonymous · Answer

At first, you should be friends and know each other then you can turn into relationship. of course it's impossible.

Anonymous · Answer

My parents were just friends when they met. They didn’t enter a relationship until 4 years after they met.

ATuairiscean · Answer

Yes - In a very close friendship probably quite common

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

That’s how most relationships develop, yes. You can be a friend first and then a boyfriend as long as you’re not friend zoned.

Imeanwell · Answer

A meeting of minds can, and usually does, lead to a meeting of bodies... unless there are other factors to prevent it happening.

sh_awesome · Answer

Relationships begin with friendship and if a guy and girl are really into it then it can definitely become more than friendship

LucasLeBinoclard · Answer

I got my only girlfriend ever like that, but there was always mutual attraction ig

opurba · Answer

Everyone is not that much lucky but u can wait n see till it happens.

Smith_RK · Answer

I would say it's most beautiful thing to happen, only question is were you ever friends?

VixenRach · Answer

Yes, my SO and I were friends for over a year before we started dating.

Northern_star · Answer

should be possible, but most of the times: nope. once ur a simp there's no goin back from the legendary friendzonnneeee.

AoiKaito · Answer

Random guys and girl don't meet and decide to enter into a relationship on the spot... Why are you anonymous?

jeremythedrummer · Answer

Yes. That was me and my ex. didn't do well though. Cause my parents forced us apart.

genericname85 · Answer

If there's mutual attraction, it is possible. If she doesn't like you like that, it isn't.

hellacray · Answer

Ugh... I think that's how most relationships start.

xTishax · Answer

yeah my two best friends went out. they were: Friends, dating, Friends

ROCKS128 · Answer

My girl was my classmate, later friend, then close friend, then girlfriend.

WildNekoWolf · Answer

It happened to me. Me and my ex girlfriend were friends for a few months until I asked her out.

Hopelover_2_Shelby · Answer

Yes it can and its not extremely common but not rarely common but honestly its probably great

_teddy_ · Answer

Yes that's actually pretty common. And a relationship is friendship. Team work.

clampfan101 · Answer

Friendship is the first level of a true relationship in my opinion.

ashish2912 · Answer

It is very possible and common. i mean you date someone who is your friend first. Dating random stranger is risky.

lynn0707 · Answer

Yes! I think it’s important to be best friends with the person you’re dating.

Stallion_Post · Answer

Yup... if both are ready for it... otherwise it ends up being a one sided affair

abwrto3 · Answer

It doesn't work the up losing their friendship at the end

blockhamster · Answer

Sometimes of he likes you to but of you breakup don't make a fight try to keep a friend

MrLouise · Answer

Well, yeah, its common thing even though it doesn't end up well always

Anonymous · Answer

It definitely is... It happened to me. Friends for 2 years; then made 3 years together. ♡

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes. In my opinion, this is a better start for a relationship becuz u two know each other well

CarpetDenim · Answer

That’s probably how most relationships happen tbh

Drener · Answer

Yes it is very possible

fauchelevent · Answer

Of course, I think that happens a lot

Chanel1981 · Answer

Sure, I think this is pretty common

NineBreaker · Answer

It's possible, but rarely happens passively.

Cosytoasty · Answer

Most of the time this is how it’s gone for me.

Iron_Man · Answer

Of course it's very possible

sunofdavis · Answer

Quite rare and not worth the wait

Knowbetternow1 · Answer

That’s the best kind of relationship

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