The straight answer to "why do some men find me intimidating?" "Patriarchy". Interactions between men and women have traditionally been from a position of strength for the man, with the woman relegated to the position of suplicant. That's why mansplaining exists. When interactions break from this script, men (and sometimes women too) feel awkward and confused. Not all men are still struggling with this, but scripts like this are hard to rewrite. Hence why you have less female CEOs, and physically fit women are considered too masculine and intimidating for many men's dating taste. Like I said: patriarchy.
I don't mind. I don't have a fit/athletic body - while I am not fat and exercise a bit (bike to work a few days a week), I do have love handels. Probably dating a girl that hits the gym a lot would motivate me. While I don't think a girl like that would be interested in me, for sure it wouldn't intimidate me. I don't get intimidated easily.
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For me, I'm not attracted to a woman like that. As a guy I naturally become protective of those I love. I pride myself on my strength and my ability to defend my loved ones.
A girl who is fit and in better shape than me, stronger than me, etc is unattractive to me because I feel robbed of my instinctive purpose. "She doesn't need or want me to defend her"... that's what typically goes through my mind.
There's nothing wrong with these women at all; it's entirely an issue with ME.
If a man finds a fit woman intimidating then he is easily emasculated. Being fit and athletic is amazing. It's what I'm aiming for.
They have a weakness themselves but won't admit to themselves. Losers are posers.
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No, I find them very attractive.
Hell no! I honestly love physically fit and highly toned women so fucking attractive. Its honestly one of my top 2 turn ons ever. I have been a wrestler for 14 years and still am after high school. One of my most difficult matches my entire high school career was my semi-final match at sectionals to go to State my freshman year. I beat her by pinning her at the end but I was exhausted. We legitimately ended up talking after the match because I commended her for such a great match that went into overtime. We ended up dating till my junior after it because I had to ask her out after that. I found her being in shape like that and being that fit. So fucking attractive. I never held the loss against her at all either because I did go on to qualify for state all 4 years and placed in the top 3, 3 times. I wish I had a girl that I was with now that would train with me outside of my practices and was fit. Dont let them say shit to you. Fit girls, at least to me, are the most beautiful and sexy.
It's not intimidating as long as you don't get steroids. That's a big nono.
That being said, the way you asked it tells me you and me wouldn't work out for example. I have tried it with "strong" girls before - athletes, soccer players, crossfitters, etc.
I came to the conclusion that the MOMENT a girl does something REMOTELY impressive physically, her demands become sky high, and she becomes self-centered and entitled.
I have been literally told my what I would call "stick figures", or not in the least impressive girls that I look skinny, and they are probably stronger than me. Now, it's one thing if you pursue whatever makes you happy. I'm all for it. Do whatever sport you like to do. But if you feel the need to compare yourself to me, have a really safe bet that you really are stronger than me. Hint: Ya ain't.
For the record, one girl, a good head taller than me, playing handball, challenged me to an armwrestling match, saying she can beat me, because I am scrawny. She uh... well, let's just say she was really far away from beating me. Like, fall flat on your face at the start of the race away.
So yeah. The fact that you feel that you have to compare yourself to us, and question whether we are intimidated tells me you aren't doing this for yourself, to feel better about yourself, but to be better than men. And that's YOUR problem. Not mine. I don't feel attracted to people with so low self-esteem.Look Bran... the world.. ie... the so called perfectionists create a series of premade thoughts that make people believe this is right and this wrong. But literally... there’s is nothing right or wrong... we’re all relative to one another.
For eg: you’re strong to some... or say most men... and you have a fit body... BUT you might be just the average girl to someone who’s way fit and stronger than you. And besides.. you say you’re 100% happy with how you are... trust me.. that’s all the confidence you need...I have no problem talking to them, but I wouldn't ask one out.
It's got nothing to do with my bodytype being different from hers. It's that a body type like that one allows you to tell a LOT about a person - about how they eat and drink, about how they spend their spare time, and what is important to them.
She could be a wonderful girl and a dynamite lover, but she's not going to veg on the couch while Game of Thrones is on, and eat pizza with me. She's never going to order the cheese cake and watch me try to steal a piece of it. She's never read Tolstoy or Tolkien. Or spent 60 hours getting rained on at a music festival.
I know the sort of partner I want. She isn't it. But I have no problem talking to women like that, and I don't find them intimidating.No. There are a lot of questions like this but the answer is usually the same because the main thing that causes a man to be intimidated by a woman is the fear of rejection, which is intensified by the level of attraction he feels for a woman. It doesn't matter whether he plans on asking her out - even if he doesn't he's afraid that his sexual interest in her might be obvious and is afraid of what she might think of that.
So really, what intimidates a man is a woman he finds very attractive. None of these other things such as fitness, intelligence, confidence, any other thing that women think makes them intimidating to men actually have anything to do with it. It's mainly just her physical appearance, how physically attractive she is.WHAT? NO! i love it!
Honestly, I keep saying this, I love girls who ar fit, healthy and very well toned. I try to keep in shape myself, but I'll admit, I have a tough time with it. But I have ALWAYS had a thing for tomboys, or girls who could probably beat me up...
I just imagine the perfect future wife being someone who will spar with me on the mat every now and then...
To answer your question though, I think it has to do with a masculinity thing?
Most guys have a hard time going up to a girl as is. It doesn't help that there are some girls who are psychos ot there, so if a girl is really fit and well toned, most guys will get scared. I'm 100% secure with my masculinity, and know it has nothing to do with other people but how I see myself, so i have no problems with it. But even in that typical "guy" logic, in my head, if I can get an awesome, fit girl to hang out with and date, that'd be the ultimate proof of me being a man. No idea why guys are intimidated though.as a powerlifter and athlete, whenever i see another person regardless of their gender, who is also an athlete, very knowledgeable, and in good shape, actually knows what they're doing with good techniques, and is not just some gym bro with chicken legs that just ego lifts, or just some girl who never works their upper body crying about getting bulky, then i have this respect for them, and i acknowledge their hard work, time, and effort put into training and researching for information rather than feeling intimidated.
I find fit, strong, athletic women to be incredibly sexy and attractive. In fact my crush for the longest time was Michelle Jenneke and I thought she was the beautiful. I personally think you're a very attractive woman and it's pretty mean that people say those things to you. I hope you find someone soon who loves you.
I think that some people say stupid stuff like that to try to hold others back. They can see everything that they have wanted a could never have because they didn't want to put in all that work. When you get down to it I think its mainly a jealousy issue. It don't matter to me what you look like compared to the way you act. If I see you and you look stunning and beautiful then you turn around and treat someone badly because you could. You may as well in my opinion not even exist. But if your kind to people when you don't have to be. That's the type of person that is attractive to me. It may sound stalkerish but if I am interested in you I will have observed you to the point that I feel like I know you. I don't like just walking in to something I know nothing about.
I couldn't date a body builder, but I actually really like the physique of female mma fighters. I wouldn't mind dating a muscular woman. Some men even prefer/fetishize muscular women, so it's not like you have no chance to find anyone. Stay hopeful and confident, I'm sure that if you're a good person then you can find someone who loves you regardless of what you look like.
The biggest, strongest girl I've ever seen, if I had to, I could pick her up by the crotch and hoist her up on my shoulders and slam her headfirst into a mirror or a television if I had to.
And I say that out of respect, because 99% of women wouldn't require anything near that level of barbarism, most would go down from one stiff jab to the nose.
Probably less than 5% of all women globally would necessitate me using my rear hand.
And those are just facts.99% of males are weak and skinny or fat, so yes they will be intimidated by you, because you are in better shape than they are. You will also intimidate other girls, because they will be jealous of you.
Men who are muscular themselves will find you really attractive.
I wouldn't make much of it. A man being sacred of a girl just because she has some little muscle... its pathetic in my eyes.I am the opposite
I admire that, sure I believe in gender roles and I am to be the man of the house
But I need a strong lady, that will keep up with me and never break down anywhere else other than my arms.
I am her only safe place, as it is the same for me.I think fit women look great, but it’s not healthy or wise to overdoing it in the context of fertility options. Women with a certain percentage of fat are more likely to conceive and successfully carry a baby full term. So it’s something worthwhile to be aware of.
Why would I find her intidimating? It's a great quality to have, but it's not what I'm attracted to. I like women who are more vulnurable and sweet rather than "strong", and when it comes to physical appearence, I prefer a more petite figure, and that's fine. Your value doesn't rely on whether or not you're attractive to someone else.
Your body type has nothing to do with it. The fact that you've said, "I don't mind being alone and I am 100% happy with my life the way it is", is a big fat red flag for any decent guy looking for a long term relationship. If I were seriously looking right now, I'd pass over you just based on that one thing that you said about yourself. Not to worry though. I feel the exact same way about my own situation. But in my case, I really don't care what the opposite sex thinks about me. Can you say the same?
Nope! I'm sometimes a bit intimidated if she's beautiful, confident, and has a bit of wealth, but not so much that I find her unapproachable. It's more of a healthy flutter, which I find appealing, and makes me thirst for more.
I'm also likely to be rougher in the bedroom, which is fun.No I don't, I would say (while I plan to work on it myself here soon) SHE might be off put by my physical appearance, muscle wise. I'm not muscular by any means and for a girl who works out that might be an instant deal breaker. Like I said though I do plan to go to the gym here soon and fix that.
It can be intimidating for several reasons...
No.1 being insecurity. People who are not enthusiastic as you about fitness will look at you differently always. Most of them feel like they can't keep up with you.
Another reason is when people look at a fitness person they appreciated the effort bit also fear the consequences of being in a relationship with such a person... think about too many restrictions... as they see it.
But if its a concern, dont judge urself, be patient, someone will come along who will accept you for you
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