It's not just immature, it's illegal. You're invading someone else's privacy. If it's gotten to the point where you feel compelled to look through their phone, why not just either talk to them about it or break up? What's the point of being in a relationship with someone if you can't trust them? Or communicate with them? Honestly if my partner went through my phone, he better have a really fuckin good explanation or we're breaking up. I have nothing to hide, but I won't tolerate him going behind my back and looking through my things instead of being straightforward with me. No relationship is perfect and everyone goes through rocky periods, but that's not an excuse to just stop all forms of communication and relying on shady tactics to check on your partner. At that point, the relationship might as well be over.
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It isn't immature in my opinion. I don't think it signifies a good bond since there is some lack of trust. Perhaps someone has been betrayed before and just doesn't want to be hurt like that again. Getting caught looking through the phone could stir some upset feelings, though.
I don’t think so. If I discovered my partner looking through my phone, I’d think she just wanted to see if I was faithful and/or flirting or sexting with some people I shouldn’t be. Generally speaking, it’s a trust issue and she’ll probably stop once she realizes she can trust me. I don’t see it as a immature thing, but more of a NATURAL thing. Think about it, almost everyone has social media and you can literally send pics and talk to hundreds of people in just a few mins. Wouldn’t you be curious to know if your partner, one whom you’ll be investing years of your life with, is possibly being disloyal or doing things he or she shouldn’t be doing?
It's worse than just immature, it's an invasion of privacy and shows zero trust in your partner. No trust means no relationship. You can't have a relationship if you don't trust them.
I don't snoop on my wife's phone and she doesn't do that to me. It's not that she or I have something to hide, it's the principle of giving each other some space and a little bit of privacy. It's not healthy to know every single possible detail of someone's life and what they do in their life at every minute.
That's not trust and that's not love, that's just being insecure and controlling.
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Yeah, unless maybe you have really good reason to suspect cheating.
You should only do that if you already have probable cause to think he’s cheating.
Yes and it shows you have trust issues!
If you have no reason not to trust them then I suppose it could be. Regardless of weather you have reason or not- it's important to be aware of the circumstances that will almost always follow... It opens the door to the idea your partner is not trusted, it will encourage your partner to the same to your phone and privacy and it will allow invasiveness to become a part of your relationship.
Sometimes it is necessary I believe to seek the truth for yourself when you have that intuitive feeling that something is not right.. there is a possibility that if your partner is hiding something it could be something that has nothing to do with you or your relationship. In any case, take everything into consideration before doing so. And don't forget about the guilt you may feel towards yourself for acting upon this temptation. Once you allow yourself to break a boundary of any kind- It usually is not the only time or the only boundry that gets broken...Why be secretive? I would just ask for the phone and do what I want with it Or just take in from of her directly just because. She can do the same to me no problem. I got nothing to hide and neither should she. The only thing I'd feel a bit uncomfortable with is her searching my internet history and watching the porn I'm into. Thats about it. I don't believe in keeping secrets from each other and believe in complete openness and trust. The only ones that don't like this are those that probably that have something to hide. That's what I would question if she or he was being defensive about you not going on their phone... Unless they have some like high profile government job with like top secret Info which is probably unlikely.
No. I can be very entertaining, I did it to a g/f of mine. I felt very haughty. And I got on to her text page. She sent some really erotic texts to a friend of hers she being a female. Laid there in bed feeling very horny, reading them got so engrossed she is stood there at the door, she said what are you doing. Sheepish I said I couldn't help myself , I didn't know you felt like this towards her. Does it change anything no why should it. Then I begin to tell her about my late second wife, she was very much the same !!!
Great question. I understand the whole trust issue, but should you be so naive to simply "trust" someone just because they said? I think it is foolish to just stand there and assume you are being told the truth. Is it not better to have everything out in the open and be transparent? People lie, cheat and steal all the time. If you aren't/don't, then what do you have to hide?
if they gave you the password they entrusted you to act responsibly, but if you are snooping it shows them how little you respect or trust them, whether or not that is not your intention or whether or not you do trust them it is the message that that kind of action shouts out
Nope, I do it in front of him and while he is doing something. At first, He wasn't too fond of me going through his phone, but I do it because of my past relationship with a guy who I was dating. I found out after our break up that I was the other chick on the side. Anyway I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5yrs and we are pretty open and comfortable with looking through each others phones and all.
See in the past, if I've had his passwords and he has mine, then there's not even a point in being invasive. If it's hidden then I would wonder. In my opinion, unless someone has given you a reason to distrust them, then you should trust your partner without question. Your current partner should never pay for the sins of a previous partners.
If you do it constantly that’s bad. If you’re in longterm and look one time in years I don’t see the big deal. As long as they gave you blanket approval to look in their business.
If you really trust each other you don’t care if the other person looks & they also (almost ) never lookIt is immature on every level. It's like reading some else's diary or opening their mail, or reading their mind. It can be frustrating, if you feel like they're hiding something or lying to you, but that doesn't give you the right to go through their things - privacy is literally protected by law and for good reason.
Work out trust issues. Start by being trustworthy. A person who spies on others for any reason is not someone who is trustworthy.It depends on the circumstance and whether you have a reason to. In most cases it is. But there are a few cases where I would say its permissable, like if you're married/living together/ extremely serious and you have good reason to believe they might be hiding something important.
It's not immature, but it is an invasion of privacy. Unless married and given permission. NEVER do this to somebody if you expect to have trust. If you can't trust them, don't date them. Period.
I have my fingerprint on my gf's phone and she has hers on mine, I really have nothing to hide and I don't think she does, but I still got a bit disappointed in her the few times that she went through my chats. I mean yeah it might be fun to read what someone else is talking to another person maybe but I've never done it. Or the few things that I've done is maybe reading 2 or 3 bubbles. I think trust is important, and so is privacy. And if done secretly, even worse..
It is a violation of trust and shows the individual is insecure. If you suspect your partner is being unfaithful, watch their patterns and keep note of what they do and where they are going.
If they are cheating, signs will begin to show because they will either become very suspicious of you nor get lackadaisical and not cover their tracksNot necessarily.
I've never searched my partner's messages because I never felt reason to not trust her, but I looked through her shopping wishlist for gift ideas. I've also opened up Snapchat to take selfies on her phone because I thought it was funny.It is!!! But to hell with it... if you can do it and not get caught. Trust is a hard thing to have in 2018... and it’s only getting worst as everyone is getting bored quicker in relationships, wanting to commit less, or just thinking it’s more exciting to cheat and get away with it, like some b words I knows lol.
It's disrespectful in my opinon and shows lack of trust. However, if you have a gut feeling, don't ignore it.
This isn't my partner (lol)... but I looked through my dad's phone once because every time I would come near him and his computer to ask him a question, he would seem very gaurded and almost nervous. When I checked his phone while he was sleep, I found he was talking to numerous women (women he met online) and he was having sex with them and getting nude pics from them.If one is doing it, there must be a motive. Why "secretly"? Do you believe they have done something wrong? I think it's improper to privately snoop through people's belongings.
However, if they are present there with you and it's just messing around, then that is different. I do not have a problem with that.
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