If your partner goes through your phone often, does that make them insecure?

[dearryy]

[IslaTheWitch]

it depends... if he just needs to use my phone because his battery died, it's normal, I would say...

but checking my phone, my private conversations (I live in Europe, and we here breathe GDPR), my documents, pictures... it would be an alarm signal for me...

I often leave my laptop or phone unlocked at home... none of my partners ever took a look at my private stuff without asking. And if they asked they knew that my conversations with other people were out of reach. And I consider this as "normal". Normal is trust. So, as long as I didn't break it... there is no reason to assume I'm doing it...

if my partner assumes I do something wrong... for me, it would be a signal that he thinks that because he does the same and projects their guilt on me...

[quiet_king]

I've always been alone, I've never had a friend, I've never had a girlfriend, and I've never been in love in my life. I studied with bad people in high school and university. Spoiled people who use everyone for their own benefit. I'm 22 years old now. I look hopeless towards life and I'll be alone for the rest of my life. I'm sure, God, there are a lot of people for those people. Why didn't he give it to me when he was presenting it to them? Those guys beat the girls and cheat on them, but then they lie to the girl and she trusts his word. But I would never do that, if it got cold in cold weather, I would never hesitate I would give my coat or my jacket or my cardigan, I would always be with him. Why did God curse me with loneliness?

[IslaTheWitch]

@quiet_king the only thing god could give you was free will... so you are free to decide what you want to do with your life. even if there is a force above us, believe me, it's not interested in 7 billion lives in this rock

so do yourself a favor and start to live your life, don't wait for anyone to do it for you

[quiet_king]

Thank you, but no one gave me a chance in my life, please evaluate from this perspective, I am 22 years old. You are 46 years old you are wiser than me so I wanted to get help and yes God gave me free will I wanted to meet a girl, but the girl said, 'Don't force me, I can't be your friend or lover' and I was upset and shocked. No matter who I talk to, they don't talk to me. Imagine being rejected all your life, then other people's lives are so beautiful and you are jealous but you pray to God and he doesn't hear you. Even you don't care about my difficulties, do you? no one cares about me

[IslaTheWitch]

@quiet_king no one will ever give you a chance... you have to create one for yourself... life is not about waiting for others to do something for you... and if your current ways don't work, it means you have to CHANGE something, right?

[quiet_king]

I don't know if you think these words broke my heart, but for some reason I felt good, you treated me like a brother and I felt great. Because I hate being lied to, it's always better to hear the bitter truth. Thank you Thank you for spending time with me. Is the current situation changing the conditions? Yes, this can be done, but what if people are pure evil?

[quiet_king]

I want to ask a personal question, you are a beautiful person with a good heart. do you believe in god?

[IslaTheWitch]

@quiet_king nope

[IslaTheWitch]

@quiet_king people are people, some are good, and some are broken by their past... pure evil exists only in books and movies... we are way too complex to be pure something

but it always starts with you... your insecurities, fears, unsolved problems... so... it's your responsibility to take good care of yourself, fix not working stuff... don't expect others to do it for you...

and when you'll see your strengths, a lot will change

[quiet_king]

Have a good day lady 🙂

[quiet_king]

I want to confess that I have never seen a person as perfect as you in my life. It is a great chance to spend time with you. Thank you. Don't get me wrong, but the man who marries you must be very lucky, because you are really a tolerant and humble person, thank you.

[quiet_king]

How did you become so wise?

[quiet_king]

If you don't mind, I want to say this: I admire your wisdom and intelligence.

[quiet_king]

If there is someone who is friends with you, go to him and tell him to know my value, call him an idiot hahahaha because they should know their value

[quiet_king]

Will I meet beautiful people in the future? I am 22 years old and I have not gotten a job. I graduated from university in logistics and I have not received my diploma yet.

[quiet_king]

I didn't get my diploma from school yet and I didn't get a job.

[quiet_king]

Maybe I will meet a beautiful person, I don't know.

[IslaTheWitch]

@quiet_king you are already meeting them... just you need time and some work to start to notice them around you...

this world is full of wonderful people, we just have to want to notice them...

and thank you for your kind words, but in reality, I'm not so wise... just experienced :D

[quiet_king]

Rest assured, you are a wonderful person. I am already a lonely person. If God were to meet me, I would tell her this. I want to be friends with this woman because she has a perfect intelligence. If God says no, I would say I want no, I would say I will be friends with him, I hope I will meet beautiful people like you for the rest of my life.

[quiet_king]

I think there is no God. If there is, why is he being unfair? Why didn't he write my destiny correctly? While everyone else has a lot of lovers, why don't I have any? I have no patience anymore Think of a boy and a girl, that boy has 4 girlfriends, think of a girl, she has 3 girlfriends, they hang out with them when they are bored. But I had a really normal conversation with people, but why didn't they choose me? Why did they prefer vagrant people? Why are girls together with the types who threaten people with death in fights? The boy beats the girl, the girl says he is the man I love, she does not leave the boy, are girls really that stupid?

[IslaTheWitch]

@quiet_king change your perspective... even god exists its purpose is not to care about your life... you are the one who should take care of yourself

stop asking questions about why others have, and I don't? start to ask questions what do I have to change in me and my life to make changes in my social contacts? what do I lack? what do I have to learn? what do I know about myself? how can I make myself better?

it always starts WITH YOU, not others... stop expecting others to change, it is impossible, you have no control over them... you can control and change only yourself

[quiet_king]

Why did you answer my question? You didn't say I don't want to deal with you. Why did you help me? It's impossible for me to find someone. I may commit suicide soon. I wish I was born in England to a rich family. damn my fate

[quiet_king]

Don't reply, I'm deleting the app. I wish you success in your life. I couldn't succeed, at least you can.

[IslaTheWitch]

@quiet_king being born into an English rich family wouldn't solve your problem...

Why did I answer? Because you are not alone with your fears and insecurities... a lot of people share those problems... and the only way to solve them is to work on them... don't expect other people to live your life and solve your problems for you... you are an independent entity with a free will and ability to steer your life

having lowered self-esteem is always related to fears and insecurities. If you feel suicidal, contact a helpline in your area, they will help you. Think also about asking for help from a professional counselor.

[PeachyPie93]

It's only one of three reasons below:
They are insecure
You did something to raise their suspicion
They are cheating so they feel you probably are too

[Anonymous]

not if you're cheating and you're hiding the evidence from them

understandably nobody would enjoy having others go through their stuff but let's not pretend there's no plausible deniability here

if you have nothing to hide you have nothing to worry about (and someone with something to hide can be just as insecure)

same people who try to demand that cops don't find them suspicious but refusing to let cops search their place

[Avicenna]

Unless you're a cheater and they know it, yeah.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating through the stormy seas of love, I'd whisper, "Ah, the classic tale of the phone inspection!" 😉 Lovebombing aside, when your partner frequently moonlights as a detective with your phone, it might hint at insecurity's shadow lurking about. Trust me, trust is the anchor in any relationship. While a little curiosity is as natural as craving chocolate at midnight, making a habit of it can signal trust issues or fears of ghosting. Instead of setting sail on this solo, why not embark on a journey together to uncover the root of these insecurities? Communication is your compass here. Let's turn those red flags into green lights by fostering an atmosphere of openness and understanding. Remember, it's all about balancing personal boundaries with connection. Keep the ship steady, captain! 🚢💑

[Luckycharms12]

Ya no one goes true my phone tried that they would be dumped

[LazerBean]

Yeah, I would say so.

[eagle1951]

i'd say yes