Girls, Would You Feel Ok With Your Boyfriend Hanging Out With Women You Don't Know?

[Anonymous]

I am in a situation I am uncomfortable with. I'm just curious; if your boyfriend was going to dinner and having drinks with females you never met and have never been invited to meet, would you be bothered? What if he also seems to have an issue with you even asking who they are?

"They are old friends from high school" - but he and I went to the same high school so who is to say I don't know them, too? What is the secret? My now ex (broke up with him last night) went beyond defensive like I accused him of cheating - no - I want to know why if I'm his best friend since high school, why does he need them so bad? What is their friendship offering that mine is not? I'm not jealous of women and have no issue with him having these friends but is it too much to ask that I be invited or he at least tells me when he's meeting a friend that is is a woman? What are your thoughts? Mind you, he would freak if I did that - I don't even hang out with male friends no matter how long we were friends because he would give me hell for life. It seems like his friendships with them meant more to him - it hurts. We were supposed to move in together in a few months.

[Twat_Twig]

No that's not cool, at all. And I would expect that he wouldn't be cool with me hanging out exclusively with males.

[Asker]

Bingo! It's one on one meetups. No groups. I'm at home alone when this happens. I was up all night the other night crying and I told him through text it was over. I broke it down and he insulted my intelligence as if I accused him of cheating - never gave my feels validation especially after saying he would trip had I done that. My love will not blind me but we were to get married one day and as I mentioned, move in together in March :'( I'm shattered, Twat (lol)

[Twat_Twig]

He's a hypocrite. Why is it ok for him to hang out exclusively a with girl you've never even met and yet it's not ok for you to hang out with another guy? That's fucked up

[Twat_Twig]

He doesn't sound like someone who wants to be equal with you which is the whole point of being in a relationship with someone.

[Asker]

I know, right? He would admit he'd feel weird about it. This has happened sveral times. I spoke up because on FB I saw a pic of him taking a shot of his meal with a girl on the other side of the table but all I could see was a long necklace. I asked where it was, and it was at a Peruvian place he knows I never been to ( I LOVE Peruvian food), then he told me. I asked when it was, he said he didn't remember, maybe weeks ago. I then asked who was that in the picture. He says "My friend Danna" then puts a raised eyebrow emoji. So, I said I never heard of a Danna and he fucking says "Well I never knew about people like Matt either" - Matt is my ex from over 10 years ago who lives in fucking Canada! He knows about him because I told him I thought I knew what true love ws back then but with him, I know this is the real deal. So, I was like, is Danna your ex? He says "The point was that you have people in your life that you don't talk about either..." then accuses me of over-reacting and that if I am going to keep being mad, don't bother calling, then he said we need to separate. He stopped responding and right before he was to go to work, I ended it for good. He still fought and told me as usual that I never "listen". I hate him!!! He was the only person I trusted in my life...

[Asker]

*wouldn't admit

[Twat_Twig]

Yeah you're better off without him honestly. You need someone who RESPECTS you. That picture you were talking about sure sounds like a date. The guilty dog barks the loudest.

[Asker]

Damn right! Thank you - I thank you and the other ladies on here on my side because he really made me feel like I was trippin. He was like " I can't believe you think I'm cheating with a married pregnant chick. Un fucking believable" - I was like, "you don't get the fuckin principal. I never called you a cheater, are you blind? I never want to talk to you again." I am too fucking old for this. I wanted to have kids with this man and have a stable life but he has not enough experience with relationships so I said "m I the first real relationship you've had? Holy shit, I feel like I'm arguing with a 15-year-old". Now I just want to go get laid by someone else as fucked up as it sounds. I am single now, so.

[Twat_Twig]

Do what you do girl lol. And hey, you might meet someone nice and genuine. :) The relationships that last are the ones you don't see coming

[EclipseoftheHeart]

He is playing you like a violin. And you are the sucker falling for it. Sorry, but that's the short form.

[Asker]

I left him. He's a fucking asshole. I can't be played like a fool. Love means nothing here.

[EclipseoftheHeart]

Sometimes I wonder what someone would find attractive about a guy like this and hang with him.

[Asker]

We were best friends since we were teens. We always had a platonic friendship but it naturally got sexual. We got along so well but me not being shallow, we tried to be more over the years. I say that because he is overweight and I am very fit but we are into the same things and he knows everything about me and even saved my life once, literally. The problem is, he is very insecure. I know he hangs out with these women to get some sort of fulfillment and I am fucking not having it. Thus, it is over.

[Asker]

I love him to death but it is not enough for me to stay. We have not been doing good for a long time now because he thinks either I want to fuck guys because I can or everyone wants to fuck me. He is so beta in many ways and wants to try to show his "dominance" at times and this is one time where I'm like NOPE. Having secret dinners with females from high school is not ok with me. That is one of non-negotiables. He's obviously holding onto something with them emotionally. My friendship should be enough because he always considered me his best friend. Yet, they are too? FUCK that.

[Anonymous]

No, never ok

[Asker]

Thank you!