I don't think it should be expected. My girlfriend and I know each other's passwords but we don't go looking through each other's phones except by request (like if one of us is driving and gets a text we might ask the other one to read it and even respond to it). We trust each other and respect each other so we don't have to monitor everything the other one does.
I also think that looking through someone else's phone is disrespectful to their friends and family members that might have sent them messages they don't want shared with anyone other than the person they sent it to.
My opinion is that anyone that feels that they need to search through their partner's phone has a significant trust issue in the relationship and that is not a good thing.
I'm not gonna wade into what's best for other couples, but my wife and I know each others' passwords for EVERYTHING. You never know when you might have to do something to help your partner out.
In fact, last month, my wife realized that she left her phone in my car. She needed some info she had on there, and asked me to text it to her work phone. Job's done.
Besides, if you don't have anything to hide, then why would it even begin to matter?
I would share with my boyfriend/spouse because if there's an emergency, he might need to be able to get into my phone. I dont want him searching through it and whatnot but yeah he knows mine and I know his.
I've never searched through his phone, despite having known his password for over a year. I dont know if he knows my password by heart or not, he's been in my phone to find a person's phone number before.
I wouldn't be okay with him wanting to go through my phone just to be nosy, that's an invasion of privacy and is not okay. If he has a specific thing he wants, that's perfectly fine. I dont have anything to hide, but I also need him to trust me. It's the principle.
I think that's between the two individuals. If my partner wants my password, he can have it. I do think it's a sign of trust but I still wouldn't access his phone without asking him first.
I don’t think it’s good to be too dependent on your partner, even if you are married because people cheat, they get sick, they become disabled, and they die. It’s important for everybody to have some degree of autonomy so that if the relationship changes, they can still survive on their own.
I don’t think someone needs to know anything and everything about a person even if it’s your girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever.
So no, it isn’t necessary. If you want to share, fine but some people aren’t comfortable with it. What bothers me is that some people are upset when they’re denied access to their SO’s phone. This makes them paranoid. The reason why some people don’t share their passwords mostly isn’t that they’re cheating on you or lying to you. They simply like their privacy, something everyone needs.
If you have nothing to hide there should be no problem with your spouse having your password. I think it's a huge red flag if a man or woman won't let their spouse see whats on their phone. My guy and I have the same password. We never snoop on each others phone because we trust one another, but if my phone is closer and he wants to use it, more power to him.
I personally see it as the opposite of trust. To trust someone you shouldn't have to snoop through their personal stuff. You should be able to know and to trust that they're not doing anything wrong. If I was with someone who cheated on me, I would want their phone password to be able to check on them... because of lack of trust.
Nah, I'd rather not. Too much sensitive information on my phone, like passwords for other things - bank stuff and such. Nothing to do with trust, but with being sensible.
Also I feel partners should trust each other to be faithful, not check on them.
No. You are entitled to privacy. You should trust your spouse enough to let them share with you when they want and respect when they don't. Not doing so shows a lack of trust.
I would say that they don't have to and should never be forced to do it or have it as a rule cause somethings my be liked private maybe a convo with one of friends talking about one of there personal problems. And maybe that personal friend don't want anyone to know about it.
Or just maybe silly things like Gag. Ethier way they shouldn't have to.
Me personally have no password for my phone so couldn't really share something that i don't have.
Yes because they can be an “open book”. My boyfriend has no password on his phone. But on the other hand no because almost every time I go on his phone or pick it up he always comes over and makes sure it’s “girlfriend proof” meaning he closes out of all the porn websites and other things like that.
There is always a level of privacy everyone needs before it’s too much and it’s crossing the line.
I don't see why it matters unless you have something to hide. I don't even have a lock on my phone lol anyone can access my phone easily. But I always have it with me so never happens. But looking through someone's phone without their permission is fucked up though.
I don't have a lock on my phone so anyone could look at mine, it doesn't bother me if my phones there and one of my sons uses it or my husband, he's told me his for if I need emails from his account or numbers but I don't remember it I'm not bothered about his phone.
It's very simple. If you aren't willing to share it, then it shows you have something to hide or is at the very least somewhat suspicious. Trust is something you build over time. A good relationship wouldn't get offended or take it as a big deap if their partner wanted their password. My girlfriend and I don't know, but I would give it to her with no hesitation if she asked and I know she would do the same.
I only have a password so I don't pocket dial people. I have no problem with an SO knowing my password.
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It doesn't really matter. Me and my boyfriend know each other's passwords but that's just for conveniance. If one of my friends text me, he can answer if he wants to. We don't really have anything to hide. Most embarrassing thing you can find on my phone is some notes I've made when I've been sad. And I doubt he would even look through my notes long enough to find them xD
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Most of the guys saying no prob might have or will cheat one day, oops im just saying
by the way yes, like invasion of privacy? Bruh you're married. In the same house. Might have kids already. Obviously had sex b4. All of this isn't consider privacy? Hellooo people😂
It's just a phone If my other says I want see your hp, im just like nah, gives out to her 😂
Yes. I believe that marriage is giving your all and holding nothing back. So holding back a cell phone, which is such a big part of my life, would make me a hypocrite.
I don't think so. Demanding to have your partner's passcode just shows a huge lack of trust, rather than someone giving it a sign of trust. That being said, I don't have a passcode on my phone and my boyfriend is free to use my phone with permission.
My phone, my password, no one else has any need of it.
Having someone else's password is a sign of LACK of trust.
That said, it's up to the individual couple. If they BOTH are happy to share passwords, that is fine. If one wants to and the other doesn't, well then they don't.
I think my cell phone is my private possession and I don't like my husband to use it, but he knows the password and can use it if he is in need. His phone does't even have password protection and I never use it
Only if it’s willingly done with zero arm twisting. And if the spouse makes false accusations based on what they see then the deal is off. Some paranoid people can’t have access
I wouldn't share my password with anyone, but I'd surely show her my messages n stuff. If we break up or smth she'd have the password I may be using in over 10 different places.
I believe it does show trust. But also there shouldn't be anything on your phone that your partner can't see. If you have to hide something then your doing sonething wrong. So therefore i believe its ok to look at eaxh others phone. With internet now it makes it so easy to cheat & relationships aren't valued like they should be. And being able to have the opportunity to look at each others phones puts most suspicions to rest & give each other a sense of trust
Its not that am hiding something but I don't believe every part of our lives should be intertwined. We should have out own friends, hobbies , passwords and yes... separate bank accounts.
I won't be able to trust him enough to do that, what if he texts people on behalf of me? Does something that is a threat to me/ my job/ whatever. Smartphones are really dangerous things if misused by someone else.
Depends on the relationship and what boundaries are needed to keep your own sense of privacy and individuality. I think you should be able to trust your spouse enough to not need it.
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I have a lot of stupid stuff on my phone, so I wouldn't want to give someone my password...
My friends and I yell at each other and she might take things too seriously and stuff...
Plus the stupid things I search and my stupid tastes in memes and music.
No. It has nothing to do with trust. I see it as a mistrust. If I didn’t trust him I would ask for his password. He has his phone and I have mine. We have no reason to know each other’s passwords.
I wouldn’t care although I had one ex that instead of just asking me I was sleeping and he put my finger on my iPhone to open it I had nothing to hide but I was mad about how he went about it he had some Major trust issues.
I can't.. the only phone I have is company owned.. the act if giving her my password would be immediately termination for me, and jail time for us both.. so no I would not give my wife the password..
Hey. my phone is the property of the company I work for, they made me sign a contract that essentially told me that if my phone is ever out of my possession I must report it so it can be remote wiped, it additionally states that I was to have a code and biometrics to lock it down, and that if I ever gave my pass code to anyone I would see prison time.. it's what happens when you work for the DOD, for idiot children like you, that the US Department of Defense. So please take your ignorant self and be gone.
Maybe if you would concentrate on reading, instead of acting edgy about your work place, you would understand that what I said was about your wife, who, unless she works there too, probably did not have to sign that contract.
If they give it then sure. But you shouldn't force them to give it. And only use their phone for any actual need, not to spy through it. So no snooping through messages and stuff
It depends... privacy is still a thing right? I don’t see a problem with it, but it’s weird if they have your password and are constantly checking up on what you’re doing. Not their business 😤
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No. We need some privacy. I wouldn't want him checking my history and seeing the kinky stuff I look up.
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sure, why not. He has nothing to hide and I have nothing to hide as well.
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