Do you think your partner should have your password to your cellphone?

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Alia_Czechgirl · Accepted Answer

Of course, he doesn't know him and I don't know his either, but I'm happy to show him my phone whenever I want and I expect the same from him. We're both reasonable people and we know that every person has the right to have their own little secrets, which are only theirs. Otherwise, he knows very well that infidelity wouldn't pay off for him - the status, I'm protecting your eggs and taking care of them can change in a split second to, I'll make you scrambled eggs for dinner (your eggs) :-)))

lilBigPotato · Accepted Answer

Nope. I don't necessarily have a problem with him having it, but I don't believe it should be taken for granted, at least not at the early stages of dating. Generally, if you want to know something, just ask an about it. Normally there should be no need for the password anyway.

Smart_Monk · Accepted Answer

Privacy doesn't exist, if you have a clue of just what surveillance technology already existed a decade ago. Thus i wouldn't mind if a spouse/partner could wirelessly use my phone's camera/microphone 24/7.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I don't know if she SHOULD but my ex had passwords to my devices because many times, that was just easier... for some work, and other things it was never an issue

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode relationship drama and turn it into clarity and chemistry 💋

Your partner having your password isn’t “required,” it’s about vibe and trust. If you’re hiding stuff, that’s a red flag. If they demand it, also a red flag. Best balance: nothing to hide, nothing to prove. Access is okay, surveillance is not. Privacy and secrecy aren’t the same thing.

HawkPerception · Answer

I always give my partners fingerprint access and my passcode to my phone. They can access whatever messages I've sent others and everything. There shouldn't be any secrets in a trusting and loving relationship. However, I will not share my account passwords, whether it's bank, social media, or whatever. I have no issue showing them if they ask, and I'll show them on the spot without any hesitation. But giving someone else access to your accounts is just pure stupidity. You shouldn't trust people blindly. Some people are good at hiding their intentions really well. Just show "realistic" trust.

ohsheeT · Answer

I think that it up to the person who owns the phone in the world of today we don't have any thing anymore that we can call our own or private except for what is in our heart mind body and soul

I would allow my partner to have access to that information that I have on my phone

But I would also tell her you might not like what's on there but here you go

AviatorTom · Answer

I have given my phone's PIN to my wife... several times... she never remembers it. She has used my phone several times when hers has gone missing. There is nothing confidential on my phone.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

In my case, no, because I have clients who send me text messages about their legal matters and I have a professional responsibility to maintain those communications in confidence.

DishLady · Answer

No. Just for the simple reason of keeping track of your own messages (what you’ve read and haven’t).

William7489 · Answer

I have mixed feelings about that. I believe that people are entitled to privacy, which is just your personal stuff that affects you. That could be old pictures, emails text messages of people that were important in your life, including an ex-boyfriend or a girlfriend. As long as you’re not acting on it, it’s OK to keep the equivalent of a photo album. However, the catches that people are not entitled to the right of secrecy, which is like privacy except it’s harmful to others if exposed. If one partner has a reason to believe the other may be cheating they have every right to ask for the phone unlocked and handed to them. As long as it’s reasonable and based on rational observations, it shouldn’t be a problem. You can have privacy and not keep secrets.

MrOracle · Answer

I've never had a girlfriend who wanted my phone or computer password - they've always known from my actions that they were my priority, so it was never an issue. Besides, most of my calls and messages are either from my parents or my customers, needing help with something or other.

My girlfriend only has Facebook, and that's because it's the standard way to communicate with her family in the Philippines. She talks to her mom every day and to her other family occasionally, but otherwise she's gardening or at Home Depot buying soil and seeds.

Orion84 · Answer

I don't think it should be a requirement, no. Even in a relationship, people have a right to some privacy. It should be an individual choice made by both partners.

That being said; I would share my password, if my girlfriend/wife asked, and/or needed to use my phone. I don't care if she has access. That doesn't mean I condone snooping, though.

I would trust her enough to have access to my phone, but if she uses that access (or only wants it in the first place) specifically because she doesn't trust me, then that's a deal breaker for me.

Just as I would never go through my girlfriend/wife's purse, or search her car, even though I had access. Consent matters, even when it comes to personal property.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Hell to the no. In the past because I was a cheater, but now there's just always going to be something on the phone that can set off the other person, a :-), a weird search, it just seems unnecessary. Fuck now the phones are so advanced. It's not just text messages, you're really asking to open the person's brain. However, that being said, if a girl was ever insecure, I would open the phone for her and allow her to have at it. I also say that when you need to go through your partner's phone, whether they cheated or not, something is wrong, you don't normally need to go through the person's phone.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I think it’s a healthy thing to do
But not as a way to control or police one another
More like a personal choice to share one’s password without being asked

Although to be fair I’ve never done it in the past and never felt the need to

Screenwriter · Answer

Your cellphone is sort of like your diary. It's for you alone. Private. I don't agree that everything in a relationship is shared. I no more want my partner shuffling through my cell phone than I want to look through his. You are NOT one person. You are individuals. You share, but not everything. People need space, even within a relationship.

CherryLove007 · Answer

No way, passwords are your private business. Your life is yours and no one no one no one should have it. Imagine that you leave home and left your phone and your partner has friends over and they go in and spy on your personal things inside. Also from studies that show that the majority of men are peeping toms so this is a giant NEGATIVE

TRUST yourself because you are with you your whole life.

katiesmuff · Answer

I see no issue with this and both my husband and I know each others digital password to get the phones open. Neither of us have any social sites so our phones basically are just full of necessary apps, phone and email numbers and the few photos we take using the phone.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

I don't think its necessary. I respect his privacy and he respects mine. That said, we do know each other's passwords for convenience. Often enough I'll ask him to grab my phone and text something to my mom when I'm doing something around the house. If I ever suspect him of hiding something he shouldn't, then that's something I can actually ask him up front about

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Ehhh I don't know, it's the kind of thing where one day my phone is gonna be on the other side of the room and I'm gonna ask her to look something up or check a message or something. And she's going to offer to bring it to me and I'm gonna say "nah, it's the same as my card"

Which the look they give is always priceless (and if it's not then Im a little sussed because why weren't you surprised?)

Lliam · Answer

No. I would be very wary of someone who wanted to go through my phone. That's creepy and shows insecurity and lack of trust.

That being said, my wife and I have each other's passwords for convenience. Neither of us has any interest in looking at each other's phones, though. And there would be nothing to see if we did.

Nobody gets access to my laptop.

Angelo75 · Answer

Well this is one of those things where you're either in a relationship and "choosing" him/her over the rest, or you're just keeping secrets for each other. Which in turns means that the relationship is not gonna be healthy.

So the answer to the question is "Yes". Otherwise you shouldn't be in a relationship.

CriminallyInsane · Answer

I don't even have one. My last boyfriend could see it whenever he wanted. If it did have one, I'd have told him if he asked. I don't do anything I'd hide from anyone when I'm in a relationship.

Miristheiss · Answer

Long term boyfriend/girlfriend? Husband/wife? Of course. What kind of no good, miscreant expects to keep secrets and hidden dm's and activity? Anyone who expects that... no one should date them.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

She doesn't want access to my phone, computer, bank account and any other private stuff, just like any other previous lover.  I return the favour without even thinking about it.

Anonymous · Answer

I wish I didn't HAVE a cell phone, they complicated life.

My phone has no password, if someone (even someone at work as I leave it on the table in the breakroom as its all on camera) wants to go through my phone, read my texts, even look at my nudes, I have nothing to hide... isn't anything I do i won't own up to.

bobalife · Answer

I honestly don’t mind and believe in openness & transparency. What’s there to hide if there’s nothing to hide is my thang. But I get everyone has their own beliefs about this.

VioletHaze · Answer

I wouldn't care if he sees it or needs it for some reason, but I wouldn't give it as a rule. That seems controlling and I'd be hurt he doesn't trust me.

jshm2 · Answer

Unless married, no. But even then. If you are doing something that needs a password, and are not clever enough to do it without getting caught, then you should not be doing it anyway.

molonski2 · Answer

Absolutely NOT , it's a personal thing and should remain as such , plus it's all fingerprint and facial now , and that's created for same reason.

Spencer10 · Answer

If I no longer trust my partner to the point that I want her phone password i think the relationship is probably finished.

Bricealan · Answer

@iamnash No, because she would see all of the dick pics that I have sent to girls on GAG!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😁😁😁

beenherebefore · Answer

I think transparency in a relationship is important. If you both agree in sharing each other's passwords I don't see nothing wrong with that.

worldscolide · Answer

It depends on circumstances. In my company, I'd lose my job if my wife had my password to my phone. My phone is company property and accesses propriety company resources.

BadApple69 · Answer

I gave mine to her but I don’t have hers. Personally I don’t care if she looks at my phone.

FreyaRed · Answer

No. If he's that paranoid I wouldn't want spend time with him under such condition.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Should as in it should be mandatory no, but it would only help keep a relationship healthy because it builds trust

LazerBean · Answer

If you are married or planning to get married, sure

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, and he does. We have nothing to hide from each other.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I do not even lock my personal mobile phone. For my business phone only my office manager has that as it often contain confidentiality agreements and info.

MrChinaski · Answer

No. I wouldn't care. But why would they want it?

fish5505_87 · Answer

Well, my wife knows mine, I know hers, however, she hates when I look at her phone (which I never do) Once in a while to bust her chops because she is always looking at mine.

exitseven · Answer

Before I had my surgery I gave her a list of all my passwords in case i died.

Staff2002 · Answer

yes cause if you don’t trust them why are you with them? Plus that’s could mean they have something to hide.

Anonymous · Answer

Cellphones have passwords? Anyway, my wife has access to all my passwords, PINs and what not. And as long as she remains a committed Vatican One Catholic, I should have nothing to worry about.

nomomrnice · Answer

Yes but not to keep husband or wife out of it to protect if lost

whosnumber_1 · Answer

If you have nothing to hide then it shouldn't be a problem

Twalli · Answer

I don't care if she has it. She's never asked to use my phone, but she knows what the password is, because she saw me type it in.

LC75LC71 · Answer

She can go through my phone like a inquisition. I have nothing to hide.

been_burned_b4 · Answer

My partner has my iPhone passkey because I have nothing to hide from her

ella617281 · Answer

I think you both should talk about it together and it really depends if you feel secure with it

blondfrog · Answer

Yes but not any partner though one who I know I can trust and that in married too and in love with.

Vegasrunner · Answer

For a relationship to last she should turn her phone over to the man.

yulbsari · Answer

HELL TO THE NO!!! If you can't trust me, then just keep walking!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I think it's a good practice, like an act of trust building. If you don't share it means you are hiding something from him and her.

noohair · Answer

Everyone lives three lives, a public life, private life and a secret life.

najekim · Answer

I'm the tech savvy one in our house, so I know all the passwords and PINs.

msc545 · Answer

Now, what a ridiculous idea. Why should they?

Anonymous · Answer

No I don't think so Seems an invasion of privacy and more  Cross cross ❌ ❌ ❌ 🤞

maya53 · Answer

It’s not about SHOULD. But you also shouldn't have a problem with them having it.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm single, and never been in a relationship, so I don't have to worry about that.

slatyb · Answer

Absolutely not. We're two separate people.

CarolineWhizz · Answer

Absolutely not.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Why shouldn't they? What are you hiding?

Zionne · Answer

we both shared acc

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