What do you do when you feel like a third wheel in your BFF's relationship?

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sjoes006 · Accepted Answer

Well it guess it depends on if it’s in your head or a real issue.

Couples need time alone so maybe back off a little and try to get her to see you one on one for HH or something.

Realize that you have separate lives that will continue to grow.

I was a successful third wheel for like 6 months with my BFF and her guy when I was about 23.

But that meant new boundaries. We used to live right next to each other and pop in without warning and no doors locked.

It went from that to hanging in a crowd of friends and being really close with my friend and her guy.

When I moved across the country and would come back to visit every other month or so I stayed with them. Never felt a third wheel but that’s because we were all friends and I gave them space and would hang with new friends.

Try to hangout more one in one.

Iwant2kno · Accepted Answer

It’s not nice! And honestly I don’t get why some people do that! It’s really uncomfortable being in the middle of intimate conversations and flirting! 🙄

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

Stop putting yourself in that situation if this is the way you feel. Most times people feel this way because the couple they are with somehow act as if they are on a date together when it should just be 3 friends out having a good time.

If you know this is the way they act when they are together then don't go or at least bring another friend.

Guanfei · Accepted Answer

You don't hang out as long as the boyfriend is here.

PrincessGrail · Answer

“Okay, you guys search the room. Craig, you find 10 gold pieces. Jeff, you find a new sword. (My name), you find some candy for your horse. Horses eat candy, right? And honey...”

“Yes, sweetie?”

“YOU find the Lost Treasure of the Elven Folk!!!”

“Yayyyyyy!!!”

Followed by an impromptu makeout session while the rest of us pretend we’re not looking.

That’s what being a third wheel feels like.

SueShe · Answer

Does not disturb me at all since I am not proactive in looking for a soul mate.

I am never the one asking to join but I am always the one being asked. Therefore, if I accept the invitation, I should have nothing to complain about and I am free of my movements.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

O that's easy, in order to not feel like a third wheel/left out invite someone to come with you that way it can be a double date or simple don't go out with your friend while she's with her boyfriend to avoid such awkwardness. Being a third wheel is not a fun feeling to have, if i feel like the group is getting to romantic or the other two are more connected as friends, I would just remove myself from the group and let them have their time together. Plus I can go off and do something else I enjoy.

PinkMichae · Answer

I actually had a bff that constantly hung out with my former husband and I all the time. But my ex and I weren't all over each other when we were all together. They became just as good as friends so I guess that's why it worked. I would talk to them about it and ask them if they would stop acting like they are on a date and you all just out together as friends do. If they aren't all over each other then I would say it's a jealousy issue within you that needs to be fixed.

LoU_Hades · Answer

As I was solo I had never a problem with partners of my friends unless those girls started to seduce me.
I think the feeling comes by people with less self-confidence or perhaps this is some envy that the person has to share the attention of the friend with friend's partner.

No_Archons · Answer

I stop hanging around those show off fucks. They see each other all the fking time, often getting sick of each other (if they are third wheeling people), when they are with me, they should lay off each other a little. Yeah I just stop coming to chill lol

BlackRoseFairy · Answer

Talk to my bff. Explain to her that I really appreciate her boyfriend and all but I would like to have some real time with my friend. If she wants to go out with him, then she can say so and I don't need to tag along everytime.

TadCurious · Answer

If they're your best friend you have to be happy for them that they have someone. At the same time if you're also their best friend they will still make time for you.

IoffurAdVice · Answer

I couldn't be a third wheel unless I had something to do. And that thing has to be productive. Otherwise I'd just leave and go find something better to do with my life.

SexyAshh · Answer

My best friends married and her husband is super controlling. I can't go anywhere with her if he dosnt go too! Third wheeling with them for 4 years now🤦‍♀️

Jan_Classic · Answer

I just don't make female friends so the problem is solved.

chriscdi · Answer

i stop hanging out with them for a while or i hit up another friend and you can talk to that person while the other smooch and do whatever it is that they do

Anonymous · Answer

Have their SO bring one of her single friends. That would be neat as long as she's not obese or overweight. That would make the night worst actually.. Plus i'd feel like a dick because there would be 0 and i mean absolutely 0 physical attraction.

fonduegirl · Answer

slip away from where I'm not needed, girlie. I'm usually rather preoccupied in my own thoughts to notice that tho

TacocaT6969 · Answer

Add a fourth wheel.  Doesn’t mean you have to date someone, just include another friend.

Wildflower8 · Answer

Step out and give them some space. Plan time for the both of you alone.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Sit on her dude's face so it can just be me and her hanging out. Lmao.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

I never minded being a third wheel, if the girlfriend was cool Its actually nice, until they start showing PDA yuck! lmao

luvstoned4him · Answer

Find someone to hang with or date or just dont show up with them everywhere.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

I move on and let them do their own thing.. or I steal the one I want..

JohnAlaska43 · Answer

hang out less. Dont try to get out in the middle of it.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

See if her boyfriend can introduce you to a friend. Don't hang out with her when she's with her boyfriend.

sonnysunshine · Answer

Some couples like having another person around to chat with. But it’s got to be fleeting communication at best. Just don’t put yourself in that situation.

Anonymous · Answer

you're literally the person who's making yourself a third wheel. Don't hang out with them if you know its only going to be the three of you?

John_Doesnt · Answer

I find a skank that can make my bff feel just as uncomfortable.

BiggestBoss · Answer

Just stay away or u just became a validation bro-sis

StellarDrift · Answer

That'd weird. I'd def not feel that way. I wouldn't even concern myself with someone else's relationship, nor should I.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

I can't stand being around a couple if I'm by myself. I find them annoying. I would not hang out with them

TheAceholeSupreme666 · Answer

You back off, respect their space, and find someone for yourself.

Iron_Man · Answer

I don't surround myself around people like that no way

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You need to give them time to be together by themselves.

Twenty2 · Answer

I am not the third wheel. I am the steering in their wagon.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

I bring a female friend to make it feel more comfortable for me

DDpsy · Answer

I have never been so pathetic as to put myself in such a possition.

ChefCurry · Answer

I sleep with my friends girl and make him the tthird wheel

_yagurrll · Answer

Then I don’t hang out with them if I feel like the 3rd wheel

HereIbe · Answer

Stop being a dependent loser and move on. BFFs are for children.

sidvt · Answer

Just explain situation n talk openly if it goes positive OK if not leave n move on

Dmt4allmankind · Answer

Accept you are just that single friend that could care less. You will be cool and maybe actually meet someone by going places with them.

Anonymous · Answer

Slap a wig and lipstick on the metrosexual and fuck them both senseless.

Mollynotgemma · Answer

When your friends are making love!

tonicandgin · Answer

socialize with random people

Secret6620 · Answer

I usually go to do my own thing 💚💜💙

NerdInDenial · Answer

Is that a Korean drama?

Alyssa_K · Answer

I would just leave them alone and let them be.

apple24 · Answer

OHHH MY GOD. LOL IS THAT FROM A KDRAMA... lol

Grond21 · Answer

It is definitely unpleasant

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Go buy a another tire...

Anonymous · Answer

Tag team her boyfriend.

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

Go get yourself a 4th wheel.

AkshiJanjua · Answer

lol its a betrayel on their part

Valualty19 · Answer

Date the forth wheel lol

Slim57 · Answer

Stop hanging out with them

Keoov · Answer

You bring a friend with you everytime

DeviloftheValleys · Answer

Remove yourself.

Rangers · Answer

Just go home

the_imperfectionist · Answer

I leave

Browneye57 · Answer

Be on the prowl. ;)

dannyjett · Answer

Get your own wheel

Anonymous · Answer

I have a threesome!

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