Well it guess it depends on if it’s in your head or a real issue.
Couples need time alone so maybe back off a little and try to get her to see you one on one for HH or something.
Realize that you have separate lives that will continue to grow.
I was a successful third wheel for like 6 months with my BFF and her guy when I was about 23.
But that meant new boundaries. We used to live right next to each other and pop in without warning and no doors locked.
It went from that to hanging in a crowd of friends and being really close with my friend and her guy.
When I moved across the country and would come back to visit every other month or so I stayed with them. Never felt a third wheel but that’s because we were all friends and I gave them space and would hang with new friends.
Try to hangout more one in one.
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It’s not nice! And honestly I don’t get why some people do that! It’s really uncomfortable being in the middle of intimate conversations and flirting! 🙄
Stop putting yourself in that situation if this is the way you feel. Most times people feel this way because the couple they are with somehow act as if they are on a date together when it should just be 3 friends out having a good time.
If you know this is the way they act when they are together then don't go or at least bring another friend.
You don't hang out as long as the boyfriend is here.
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“Okay, you guys search the room. Craig, you find 10 gold pieces. Jeff, you find a new sword. (My name), you find some candy for your horse. Horses eat candy, right? And honey...”
“Yes, sweetie?”
“YOU find the Lost Treasure of the Elven Folk!!!”
“Yayyyyyy!!!”
Followed by an impromptu makeout session while the rest of us pretend we’re not looking.
That’s what being a third wheel feels like.Does not disturb me at all since I am not proactive in looking for a soul mate.
I am never the one asking to join but I am always the one being asked. Therefore, if I accept the invitation, I should have nothing to complain about and I am free of my movements.O that's easy, in order to not feel like a third wheel/left out invite someone to come with you that way it can be a double date or simple don't go out with your friend while she's with her boyfriend to avoid such awkwardness. Being a third wheel is not a fun feeling to have, if i feel like the group is getting to romantic or the other two are more connected as friends, I would just remove myself from the group and let them have their time together. Plus I can go off and do something else I enjoy.
I actually had a bff that constantly hung out with my former husband and I all the time. But my ex and I weren't all over each other when we were all together. They became just as good as friends so I guess that's why it worked. I would talk to them about it and ask them if they would stop acting like they are on a date and you all just out together as friends do. If they aren't all over each other then I would say it's a jealousy issue within you that needs to be fixed.
As I was solo I had never a problem with partners of my friends unless those girls started to seduce me.
I think the feeling comes by people with less self-confidence or perhaps this is some envy that the person has to share the attention of the friend with friend's partner.I stop hanging around those show off fucks. They see each other all the fking time, often getting sick of each other (if they are third wheeling people), when they are with me, they should lay off each other a little. Yeah I just stop coming to chill lol
Talk to my bff. Explain to her that I really appreciate her boyfriend and all but I would like to have some real time with my friend. If she wants to go out with him, then she can say so and I don't need to tag along everytime.
If they're your best friend you have to be happy for them that they have someone. At the same time if you're also their best friend they will still make time for you.
I couldn't be a third wheel unless I had something to do. And that thing has to be productive. Otherwise I'd just leave and go find something better to do with my life.
My best friends married and her husband is super controlling. I can't go anywhere with her if he dosnt go too!
Third wheeling with them for 4 years now🤦♀️I just don't make female friends so the problem is solved.
i stop hanging out with them for a while or i hit up another friend and you can talk to that person while the other smooch and do whatever it is that they do
slip away from where I'm not needed, girlie. I'm usually rather preoccupied in my own thoughts to notice that tho
Add a fourth wheel.
Doesn’t mean you have to date someone, just include another friend.Step out and give them some space. Plan time for the both of you alone.
Sit on her dude's face so it can just be me and her hanging out. Lmao.
I never minded being a third wheel, if the girlfriend was cool
Its actually nice, until they start showing PDA yuck! lmaoFind someone to hang with or date or just dont show up with them everywhere.
I move on and let them do their own thing.. or I steal the one I want..
hang out less. Dont try to get out in the middle of it.
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