My boyfriends dad walked in on us having sex should I just avoid him now?

Question

My boyfriend of 2 years stays mostly at his dads... we were having sex and his dad walked in his room to ask something and then shut the door. Pretty sure he saw a lot so embarrassing does he hate me now. My boyfriend said it’s fine but now I just don’t want to say Hi anymore.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

You've been together for two years, its kind of normal for you to have sex at that point. Its embarrassing, but I don't think he is going to hate you (probably be upset you guys didn't lock the door but that's about it). He is older so its not like he doesn't know how all of this works so I don't think it came as a shock to him (unless he is very puritanical). So if you want to you can joke about or apologize for the situation, otherwise just move on.

Skelmir_Nathair · Accepted Answer

Sex is not so novel a thing to his dad as it is to you. he's been having sex for a long time. He may well have had people walk in on him.
Even if he did have issue with it. You gotta keep in mind. That people have sex. We are sexual creatures. Its perfectly natural. And nothing to be ashamed of.
So try not to. If you can. I know easier said than done.
But I say, hild your head high. And act as if all is well. Because it is.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

No! He understands that it happened on accident and if you want you can just tell him that you're sorry he had to see that. Am pretty sure he doesn't hate you unless he made a rule that you guys can't have sex. Plus, believe me, Brown moms are even worse. I hope this image helps you feel better and grateful knowing that things could have been far worse.

AwesomeCookie · Accepted Answer

Clearly you're feeling self conscious and maybe even embarrassed about the whole situation. I'm much older and probably more bold so I would just honestly say "hey sorry about the other night, it was super ackward.. but next time could you make sure to knock?" Lol. Also... Lock your door.

PrincessGrail · Answer

Just act normal around him. He's cool with it.

SkipStop · Answer

Don't try to avoid him. That would be disrespectful and awkward. And how can he hate you? He's 99% happy about it. His son is getting laid, he's happy, you're happy, it's all good. And like others have said, he most likely knew that you two have been doing this... just not at that moment. I'm sure he didn't mean to walk in on you. So it's alright. Pretend that he never saw it and behave the way you always did. That's the best thing to do.

markscott · Answer

Just act normal. If you ignore him, it will just make things continue to be awkward, and keep alive the issue of him walking in. If you act normally, it will soon fade away. The issue will only be a big as you make it, and last for as long as you make it last.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Oh you don't need to avoid him honey
Its a little awkward yeah but he understands as well and he must have gone through it all
So its absolutely fine you should be comfortable and confident when meeting him next i am sure he won't even bring this ip

Anonymous · Answer

You shouldn't avoid him, since he's going to be in your life until/if you break up with your boyfriend. If you honestly feel bad about it, just talk to his dad. That's the best thing to do, if you feel like you have the nerve to. Also, may I suggest that the next time you're in the room, and having sex, that you LOCK THE DOOR. Is there a policy in your boyfriend's dads house that if you're over, he can't have the door locked?

I don't care, I'm just putting a rhetorical question in my answer, to get you thinking...

Keerose88 · Answer

I know how you feel. You aren't stupid. I felt embarrassed also when my friends with benefits told his cousins that we had sex. Just act like nothing ever happened. Laugh it off lol. It should make you feel better.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Just bring it up the next time you see him when all three of you are together. Be direct about it. Say you're sorry and then hopefully you all will just laugh it off and that will be it. Then you can move on with no more awkwardness. I mean, the cat's already out of the bag at this point anyway.

Twalli · Answer

If his dad is ignoring it you should too. My mom heard my girlfriend and I having sex. She said to just play music or something to drown it out. Since she didn't care that we were doing it, we just continue on as normal. Her mom knows we are having sex as well and I have talked to her openly about it. It's only as big of a deal as either of you make it. If his dad isn't making a big deal about it, you can do the same and it won't be hard for you to be completely normal with him.

Wharvey98 · Answer

This isn’t as uncommon as some people seem to think it is. Yeah it’s a little awkward, and he’s probably just as embarrassed as you, but I seriously doubt he hates you. I’d just try to act normal and eventually everyone will move on.

easily_andrew · Answer

No.. you need not to avoid him. He just saw something that he was already aware of n had no problem with that. N when your boyfriend says it's fine then you need not to worry cuz he knows his dad better than you.

Anonymous · Answer

Your boyfriend needs to pay for a hotel room. It's not fair to his dad.

lacaras · Answer

If you've been together for two years, he probably already assumed you were having sex, just obviously didn't realize you were at that exact moment, he's probably just as embarrassed as you are tbh. Just act like nothing happened.

victorvolf · Answer

Relax, he surely understands completely. He definitely doesn't hate because what you did is normal and you've been with his son for a long time. Relax :)

Giant2018 · Answer

Is it embarrassing sure. Is it something to avoid him over no. His dad is most likely proud his boy is getting some action

Jersey2 · Answer

I am pretty sure he fucked his girlfriend in his room when he was younger... mom walked in on me and he may have had a similar experience. Anyway, he doesn’t care because it is his son, not his daughter. You are good.

luvstoned4him · Answer

No his dad is an adult, it will feel awkward but I mean his dad made him so he knows about this stuff

Diiamondz825 · Answer

No! I know it’s going to feel awkward for a while he’ll eventually get over it I wouldn’t avoid him act like nothing happened

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

Does he not approve? If he does then there's no reason to feel embarrassed. Whether he sees it or not he knows you'd be having sex every now and again. It does not sound like he cared either.

Fuentes · Answer

My ex's mom once walked in on is, but we left the door open I don't know why, didn't think anyone was coming and she walked in abd didn't say anything and walked out haha her mom didn't say anything about it to her either so i guess it's fine lol

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

That feeling of embarrassment is normal You will get over it with time.  Your boyfriend and his Dad probably are already over it 😂

ScotDan87 · Answer

Say sorry... You're not the first nor the last it'll happen to. He knows that's what your doing anyway... Its nothing major.

blondfrog · Answer

If he allowed his son to have a girl in his room he should have expected that you two would have sex at their house eventually. So it's his dad's fault too.

Lman3000 · Answer

Nah, Everyone has been there and done that, I bet he totally understands it's natural, But it's up to you Honestly just try and talk to him to break the awkward tension your feeling

BrookieCookie0422 · Answer

Just act chill don’t freak out over this. It’s not the end of the world

Butterfly-x · Answer

If that happened to me I’d just pretend it didn’t happened & still say hi

Liplicker1 · Answer

Depends how naked were u. How much do u think he saw like ass boobs vajayjay?

Sevenpointfive · Answer

he knew what was going on and wanted in on the action. he was waiting for you to say don't go!

6ada6ing · Answer

Why would he hate you? Sex is normal. He made your boyfriend, so he knows how it works.

winterfox10 · Answer

God... IT'S SEX! Your boyfriend's dad has had SEX before. Move on.

Anonymous · Answer

His dad was your age once he totally gets it. And you're an adult in a long term relationship, it's not loke you need to be sheepish that you're having sex.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Yikes. At least it wasn’t his mom. I’m sure he really doesn’t care honestly

MrPleasure · Answer

You're asking if you should avoid him because you got embarrassed. So, chill. You'll be fine. Over time.💞

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

He doesn't hate you... he's peobably proud his son was beating your piss flaps instead of some man ass

vald9inches · Answer

Its fine haha his dad seems really cool about it so you are good beautiful!

HereIbe · Answer

You're stupid. He doesn't hate you. You're just stupid and overthinking everything.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

the odds are better than average that if you stick around long enough, your boyfriend's dad will try and have sex with you.

lofii · Answer

His dad probably thinks you're hot now and wants to bang you as well

Jerre · Answer

Just act normal like nothing happened. He will act the same way

Joker_ · Answer

Ignore your boyfriend and pay more attention to his dad

ernward · Answer

I would think after 2 years and if you are past the right age, he would assume you are having sex, so this would not be an issue.

damaster · Answer

Have nothing to worry about, just relax and act like nothing happened

jay_urban · Answer

Id try to talk it out with him and see what y'all should do together

bdg5077 · Answer

There's probably no need to hide from him. He might be just as embarrassed as you are.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't want to rub anything in, but did it not occur to you two to lock the door?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

How old are you?

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

I wouldn't say hi to him also :-/

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Better his dad than your dad lol

ShyAsianGirl · Answer

Did his dad have a boner?

Anonymous · Answer

"does he hate me now." No. He is not an idiot.

EdouardGaudette · Answer

These are past affairs, turn the page

_dude_ · Answer

Get a boyfriend who has his own place.

Texaskid1 · Answer

It's going to be very , very weird from now on.

Daniel3035 · Answer

wow lol well no you can't how will that look?

JesseTheMan · Answer

Beg for forgiveness or something I don't know

Anonymous · Answer

Just stay normal as if nothing happened

mesutkahn · Answer

I'd still apologise to the dad

BobbyC65 · Answer

Forget and move on.

Twenty2 · Answer

Don't be embarrassed

Anonymous · Answer

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