Ladies, do you want a "Yes" man? Guys, are you a "Yes" man?

[Pinay_ako]

One woman said she wants her man a "Yes" man. Meaning when she says "Jump", he asks "How High"?

[DepressedBean]

It depends on the scenario. I had an ex-boyfriend in high school who always agreed with me on things but behind my back, had a different opinion. "I love vanilla ice cream!" "Me too, its my favorite!" (Him to someone else that day) "I hate vanilla ice cream. Butterscotch is actually the best." Also, he'd take us out for dates, then gossip calling me a diva with high standards when I didn't ask/expect to go on dates or anything, he'd just offer and I'd be like "yeah boi, I love food/doing certain activity!" I'd rather have an honest boyfriend than a yes man. There's more of a connection and you don't feel like the relationship has been a lie. Relationships are best when there's an equal effort.

[dancing_in_nebulas]

Fuuuuck nooooo.

I'm pretty confident, so it helps to have someone who pushes you to stay realistic and improve.

I can not stand watching men back down from over controlling, rude, bitchy, bratty, spoiled, diva ass little girls - who can't do anything, barely work or even shower.

Some women just need to be slapped with a big, rugged, stfu man-hand.

I don't take his bull, and I certainly dont expect a dude to take mine

[Dextrosis]

I determine a person's wants by how positively or negatively people emotionally to a person's behavior or attitude.

When it comes to sharing the physical and mental workload, pull your weight and when she asks for help do it.

But otherwise my experience taught me even if a yes man is what she asks for or expects that's not what makes her happy, and that's my job.

Women tend to get bored of yes men and go looking for something else.

Fellas, please your woman and respect yourselves and find ways to excite and impress your woman on your own terms.

[holograph]

I have no interest in women that think that way. That's entitlement. It's highly selfish, immature and unattractive in a person (of any gender). I honestly don't think yes men (or yes women) could make good partners, anyway. They don't have any confidence.

[jennifer_bloom]

I want a guy who is both confident and opinionated but also responsible and friendly - a yes man that is bold and strong - yes - a yes man that has no self love or love for others - no.

[SteveSmith1985]

Haha, i am SO not a "yes" man. I'm a think for myself and tell you what i think kinda of guy. Definitely not a "yes man"

[SeattleSkyline]

Man or woman; each should embrace finding someone that pushes them to grow and balances them out with the occasional "no", or expectation for you to explain your rationalization for your choices. Someone wanting a "Yes" person in their life is directly linked to being someone that lacks self-confidence, which is a huge turn off.

[Dreagon]

I guess it depends on what we're talking about. I don't like conflict so if she wants to do something and I don't have a strong preference for something I most likely will agree to do what she wants. But when it's about something I feel very strongly about, positively or negatively, I'm very stubborn.

[sweetielittlegirl]

No, i like guys who has their own opinions and anyone deserve to do what he want, not to be a slave. When some told you to do something or just told you how to act infront of people or different situation, and try to change your lifestyle or even you, thats not a good sign. A '' YES'' man for me is someone without personality.

[daliah]

Fuck no! I don't want a puppy I want a man who does what HE sees right not let me control him like a baby. I honestly don't know what some women find attractive in men who are just like toys like do you want to date/marry him or babysit him?

What I like is a man who is neither a yes man nor a no man but a guy who has a brain inside his head and knows how to use it.

[SarahsSummer]

err, no. I often rely on my guy to make decisions for us both and to have all the pressure on me to do so, I dont think that would work well for either of us.

[bklynbadboy1]

Nah I could never be that a yes man is week and no woman wants that although they'll never admit it. See the key is to find that balance you want to be that manly man that takes charge but you can't be to dominate you have to know when to give your woman her way that why you have to learn your mate. I hope all the guys are reading this I just gave you the keys to that car dont abuse it... Lol

[ariadneR]

Hell no.
He has to have his own mind, own opinions.

[TavionRiley]

I will never ever be a Yes Man it's not just about her it's about me as well relationships fall because they are one-sided when you when you are in a relationship it's not just about her it's not just about him it's about both of y'all if you cannot become on agreement with it it is it relevant

[Smiley_face101]

No!
Thats not a man.
A man needs to be assertive

[CapitalDelta]

I'd prefer a "why" man. I like when people question things instead of blindly follow orders.

[Longyanyar]

That's the point

[Passinggas]

We all have some amount of “yes” ass kissing in us. Usually, when I first meet a new girl and she has some hormonal hooks in me, I catch myself jumping for her. I hate when I do it but I eventually begin to govern myself.

[dropkicknj13]

I guess I am. There are certainly things I'm not gonna do but most things aren't an issue for me, and I'm pretty concerned with keeping my girl happy, so if she asks me to do something I just do it since I dont mind anyway.
I'm not lazy so when it's stupid mundane things like "can you get me a blanket?" I see no reason not to do it.

[BadApple1]

I am not a yes man but I will listen and if the request is reasonable of course I would do it... a happy wife means a happy life.

[fulloflife]

I like this

[BALLERINA297]

No I want someone who will tell me No some times and tell me when I’m wrong or erational and challenge me or put me in my place. yes all the time would be boring.

[z3lda]

No, I don’t want that. I want someone who can speak his mind and tell me when he disagrees with me respectively. I have a friend who is a yes man and it’s very irritating to me. It feels so fake because everything I say she agrees with!

[SirRexington]

I have always gotten in trouble for asking too many questions, refusing to do something or choosing to do it a different way.

I'm certainly not a "yes" man. If anything I'm too much of a "nah" man.

[LeeLadDaBadLad]

When a lady tells me to jump I simply reply I would however it's no fun if I make things easy for you 😂😂

[Spiritwander]

Nah... I'm more of the type that when she says "Jump!" I ask, "What for? I'm already 6'4"! Do you need that top shelf again?"😅

[JohnAlaska43]

nope I am me Ill do what I feel is best. Ill never take the back seat and be abused again.
With that said I love to please my S/O as long as im allowed to think for myself.

[Tracey426]

Who wants a guy who'll do anything for them, without question or reason? That situation gets taken advantage of in time.

[humanearth]

Hell no. I'm bull headed and stubborn. I'm very old fashion. I'm no yes dear. There is a few times I am. That's when she is very sick and needs my care.

[ElwisRansom]

Most of times, but once in a while a curious feeling makes me have some resistence to these commands. I can't explain this instability of behavior

[ImagineSketchy]

I'm my own man. Definitely not a "Yes" man. If anything, if someone tells me to jump, I'm going to ask why...

[Amanda269]

I need a man, that say yes to my best ideas and no to my worst desires.

[kari0130]

Hell no! I like being questioned... not in a doubtful way but more logically.

[Lauren-green]

No, I would want someone that expresses their own opinion

[EriFrancis1994]

Nope. I like a man with self confidence that knows his self worth

[Jeroenuru]

I'm not sure if I'm a yes man, I'm more of a please tell me want you want so that I can do it for you man.

[Coyote_deer]

I want a man with his own personality, but still be down for what ever

[devilman666]

"I want him to have his own individual personality, but I still want his personality to fit my preferences perfectly."

[Coyote_deer]

Lol, that's not what I meant at all. Like, he can do whatever, talk to who ever, and what ever; but if he wasn't busy and I asked if he wanted to go to the gym or go kick rocks, he'd be okay with doing that. I understand if he can't, or he'd rather hang with his friends, like it's not a big deal.

[devilman666]

So whenever he isn't busy he needs to be willing to do whatevet you want?

[Coyote_deer]

Lol no, only if he's down to do something, and it doesn't have to be something I want to do; like, couples should hang out once in a while, right?

[CassMi]

Hmm not really my idea it would make me feel if I said no she would get angry. Sounds too controlling. I'd rather personally be with someone who respects me and if i said no to something we both understand and it's ok. There should be room for a discussion I think?

[ITGirl95]

Nope I want a man who can stand on his own feet do no.

[TheKack]

No. She'd say jump, and I'd say "I'm still short."

But seriously, no. It feels like being taken advantage of.

[Hazelstar]

I don't want a yes guy.. It's a big turn off.. I would feel that the guy isn't being authentic to me.

[anuragk033]

Let's see what my lady has opinion for this question 🤔

[PinkChampagne]

No... Well for some things okay but for everything no... It would mean you don't have any opinion or character... And I know you certainly have which is good, so you basically can't be an yes man love and better you're not

[CocoBat]

By yes man you mean this guy yes? Certainly

[AllThatSweetJazz]

No. I'm contrarian in this regard. If you said jump, well even if I was thinking about jumping for other reasons, now I don't want to.

[pleasestopthis]

Not me. I want a man who isn't a pushover. If he's not okay with something, I want him to say it instead of doing anything just to please me.

[TITAN-IDC]

Maybe in bed.. But in reality, id also enjoy what a girl can bring to a relationship thats not a yes, girl.. Id rather have a girl thats in love living a dream life.. But.. Role playing in bed is ok..

[RussellTheSheets]

Let's return the question. What good woman wants a YES man?

[EMed0550]

I'm nothing close to a yes "man" and never will be. I'm a man not a little boy chasing a girl.

[Cybernizer]

I am the type of guy to say "Let us jump high together".

[TomBham]

No, I'm not one of those.

That is probably one off the reasons, I'm single.

[MrOracle]

No. I'm an actual man. A dominant man. I'm the take-charge type - a decision-maker and problem-solver.

I'm the one people go to when they don't know what to do. A "yes man" I definitely am not.

[hahahmm]

Ha. She may want a ‘yes’ man to milk for resources/emotional support but she’ll be riding a ‘no’ man on the side.

To me, a real man is not a ‘yes’ man

[JSmuve]

No, I'm too stubborn to so willingly be some woman's man servant.

[Voruund]

Any man is a yes man. The key is finding a woman that's worth the effort. Otherwise you just get attitude.

[lsjr16]

I am to an point. If I believe what she ask is stupid or wrong then I won’t say yes I wil l question every word

[Edanurus]

Nah when told 'jump' im most likely to ask 'why'. I didn't get invited to my graduation because of this.

[YHL6965]

No, I still have some prise and self-preservation. I don't want to be a slave (except in bed maybe), I want a balanced relationship.

[YHL6965]

I meant pride*

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Yes. I mean no. I mean... what do you want me to say? I'll say it. Just tell me what you want. Are you mad at me? Don't be mad. I can change.

[fulloflife]

show me u love me more than i love u.
display ur feelings first and i will reciprocate.

[crazy8000]

Why shouldn't I have a mind of my own?

It sound like that woman has an one sided agenda.

[AmeerX]

I don't want to be a yes man well for my parents yes but not for my wife.

[scooogy]

As soon as she asks "do I look fat", I'll be her "yes" man 😂

[Trojan35]

I am not a ''Yes'' man, I say no when there are situations which should be no.

[AnonDude1998]

"Yes" man? more like doormat

[Pinay_ako]

Are you/are you not?

[AnonDude1998]

Definitely not

[megaman242]

If it have no purpose for the health of the relationship then I would not do it. It's work to have a good relationship, but there are lots of things she can do her damed self. At least I can teach her how to do it so she gets mode independent.

[ronaldo75]

Women like that are bitches and drama queens. I used to be dream boyfriend who put up with women's shit but now you couldn't PAY ME to be a women's yes man. The second I sense bullshit she can go fuck herself.