Why do people distrust the opposite gender so much?

Question

I don't get it, I distrust all humans (men and women) equally, but why so many people go by gender?

charismatic4u · Accepted Answer

I would have to go with past experiences I know this is quite unfortunate and this is not for every case I am only speaking for myself. So with that said I am prone to not trust women more for several reasons beginning with the person I love the most the person who gave birth to me. My mom GOD bless her enormous heart that woman to this very day would most likely bend the truth, say a white lie, call it whatever you want but it's still not telling the truth if she felt that by doing so would save me from being hurt whether emotionally or the possibility of being physically hurt. So r igjt out the gate the opposite sex for me I had to find out if what she was telling me was the truth meaning was she lying to protect me or was she really telling me. the truth. As i began to mature I realized what what she was doing and I felt sad and I loved her even more you see she didn't want to lie she's a solid stand up person that is just over protective and wants to protect her little runt her little spider monkey from the harsh reality of the world but by doing so she delayed the pain and lessons that I was to learn at that time eventually I'm sure I had to deal with those trials and tribulations because those were my rites of passage. For example girls don't have cooties and yes my heart has been broken and I've hurt myself countless times on my skateboard I hope this makes sense.
I guess when I think about it after writing that I would say it just made me take on the mentality of women more so then men have to earn my trust more and it doesn't apply to men because I'm a male pig no quite the opposite I just don't even consider letting a guy into that part of my heart I mean I'm not intimate like that with men and that has nothing to do with being physical. I'm just rambling now but that's a little insight on a possibility of why there is some lack of trust for the opposite sex.

ZeussLightningBolt · Accepted Answer

I don't  I trust women more than I trust men But everyone feels more comfortable with their own kind. This is just a basic survival instinct programmed into us

SydneySentinel · Accepted Answer

I think the opposite gender has a greater power to hurt us (at least for heterosexuals) when we offer them our love or other emotions. The hurt feels different than within a friendship. So when I've had X number of men break my heart, it's hard not to build up a case against men and say that they are all untrustworthy.

MlleCake · Accepted Answer

Your posts for the past week (?) have often been about how you mistrust women and have decided to give up on relationships. So, why don't you tell us the answer to this question?

PrincessGrail · Accepted Answer

Guys have hurt me On a lighter note: Every great fortune begins with a great crime...

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I do not overgeneralize. If I have a relationship in which trust is a problem, I distrust that particular lady, not the entire female kingdom.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I trust everybody - not with my intimate secrets - but enough to talk to them - until they give me a reason not to - or unless I feel something very uncomfortable when I'm around them.

PerryDaBud · Answer

I think people were born to distrust the opposite gender, you know, kids like me in the age from 5-13, they see other genders as different clans and their enemies, that's why they distrust them, the media also posts lots of stuff such as :" WOMAN FALSELY ACCUSE MAN OF RAPE, THE MAN'S REPUTATION IS LOW AND HIS LIFE IS SHATTERED, THE WOMAN GOT AWAY WITH IT." or "STRANGER FROM THE STREET KIDNAPPED A 6 YEARS OLD GIRL THEN RAPE HER BEFORE KILLING HER." These stories had made distrust between the two genders more, more and more, especially when the feminist and the #metoo movement rose in popularity, men are feared of women, never trusting them that much again, and then men began the MGTOW movement and the Men's rights movement, from that moment on, the two genders see the other as their enemy. This is a very sad and depressing fact...

OzzieTheSlav · Answer

I feel like its circumstantial meaning if a certain gender tends to earn your distrust you'll naturally just distrust that gender entirely. This is the same principle that racism is based off of, even though its irrational to assume all of a certain gender is the same it happens after repeated encounters that negatively impact your trust. Example I now tend to distrust girls labeled as bi (again I'm 100% aware how messed up that is) but this is because everytime I've dated a girl labled as bi I was used then eventually left. (This was about 5 times in a row for reference) it's the trial and error approach with the same results you'll naturally assume all of that group is the same.

Dongtai · Answer

For some reason humanity hasn’t quite grasped what separates us from the rest of the animals.

Individuality.

We still assume things that look the same, must also feel, think and behave the same. If one group of black people behave this way, they all must be that way. If one group of Muslims bomb a building, the all must bomb buildings. If one group of men rape women, all men must be rapists. If one group of women only dates men for their money, all women must be gold diggers.

When you stop looking at people as a whole and as individuals, you leave room for trust and understanding and in turn you create love and peace. But if you choose to fear an entire group based on a few assholes, distrust and ignorance is created and the result is hatred and conflict.

Sofia93 · Answer

For me personally, i don’t trust men because most of my life I’ve only had female friends, female teachers and my mom is a bit closer to me than my dad. Although I have a brother, it’s different when you are family. I don’t think distrusting men has anything to do with a bad experience or anything like that for me..

Anonymous · Answer

Here

Malik00 · Answer

To be honest it has more to do with people giving women the benefit of the doubt over men, the fact that she can being the sword of Damocles down on your head at any time on trumped up charges and even if you've been proven innocent the damage has already been done and you've likely lost everything by the time your name is clear.

Is it really that strange that i would keep such a person at arms length.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I distrust them both as well. The only reason I distrust women in a particular fashion is because of their motives... whereas, a dude, usually just wants to make himself look good for more pussy or possible pussy, so you can guess what I'm pointing out that they want... a resource vs. vagina access.

PinkMichae · Answer

It seems today's generation is all about who has it better. Women think they don't have equality and men think the same. And we don't have perfect equality. We never will. But until people figure that out men and women are gonna blame each other. It's generation battle of the sexes.

englisc · Answer

It's because the main time it matters to most people is in dating. Of course it matters with friends too, but you'll always have more of an emotional connection to somebody you're dating, so when your trust is betrayed by them it hurts a lot more and you become weary of being hurt like that again. It's also likely to happen more often when dating than with your friends. And if you're straight that means it's gonna happen more with the opposite sex.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I don’t see it that way...
I trust till proven otherwise... I believe all humans are kind. We bleed the same color... for reasons some have been miss treated, they lost the sense of love.
You just came out of a relationship, perhaps feeling the darkness of society... take time to learn from, you will become stronger.

Kurαȷ · Answer

Personally, I trust women less due to personal experience.
I do dislike both men and women, in general, but when it comes to lack of character, hypocrisy, inability to take responsibility for one's own choices, dishonesty, egotism and self-serving behavior, the women I have come in contact with have featured those qualities much more prominently than the men I have come in contact with.

So far, I have only ever made a mistake by holding women in high regard when it comes to these qualities.

JakeReeves · Answer

Because they might have some experiences that made them feel that way, or it's because of the parental raising, or it's because the famipy situation.. And because some people think that the other gender can't experience what they experience, so they can't trust them completely

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve just had bad experiences with men, and I’m much smaller than most men. There’s some men that I trust a lot, but a lot of them make me anxious. I just find myself more comfortable around women, and I don’t mean to be biased like that, but unfortunately that’s how it is.

Jeroenuru · Answer

men aren't trustworthy because i don't understand why they act the way they do.
women aren't trustworthy because they are to damn good in acting in a way that doesn't match their thoughts, but if you don't let your guard down you can see through it anyway. it's just a hastle that even though you know that something is bothering them, they will never honestly say it, so you can never talk it out.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

You gotta have faith and give trust
The key is not giving it easily

I trust women, because I trust myself, i dont let them take advantage of me. So I never feel betrayed. I also dont place expectations on them that I know they can't meet

People get hurt, that's where the mistrust comes from

Anonymous · Answer

*I don't trust all humans equally* fucking proof you are an android from the future with the mission of starting WW3

Anonymous · Answer

So many men have ulterior motives in how they pursue women, and they'll lie to pursue those ulterior motives. Experiences have also contributed to my distrust in men. I've been at the receiving end of violence by a partner, who I thought was the kindest gentleman. Was cheated on by my first boyfriend years ago... all of this resonates

DDpsy · Answer

I think it's more your perception based on what people whine about.
As a guy I distrust most men considerably, dislike them quite a lot and consider them my competition in most situations. I think it's pretty much the norm for guys. That said most guys will not talk about it since we are pretty used to it and don't really expect better. When you are betrayed by a woman it hurts more because we stupidly believe they may actually deserve trust.

Erica_mitchell_1997 · Answer

I distrust the same gender more than the opposite gender the same didn't people normally lie to my face and say oh well I didn't realize blah blah blah or oh I didn't realize you two were still together and they'll be the ones invading my territory if that makes sense

Anonymous · Answer

To be honest from all your questions lately, doesn't sound like you mistrust them equally. Infact you kept playing about how you don't trust this new girl because of your old girl..

Anonymous · Answer

because all my life I've been told by the opposite gender that i'm somehow inferior to them and that my gender is horrible. it turned out great, because I did everything I could to come out on top, but it left me with GREAT distrust for girls which is most assuredly irrational but it's deeply rooted

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Because humans are the only ones who are capable of hurting us. also I think it has to do with conflict and not knowing how to work as a team or compromise. Men want power, women want power... everyone wants power but n one really wants peace.

BreadNbutter · Answer

lol I don't know that’s someone with a chip on their shoulder, I however am with you, I distrust everyone not just male or female. It’s so stupid to rationalize judging an entire gender... I don’t know all men 😭

Anonymous · Answer

I'm with you MisterSir, I don't trust most people regardless of gender.

I think most people don't trust the other gender because they've been hurt by them in some way (rejection, break ups, cheating, etc.)

MilkiiStrawberriis · Answer

I don't distrust by default and try to avoid that. I've never been betrayed by a man or a woman and have no problems with either. I try to avoid generalizations but I know things happens to people that can contribute.
As long as you don't make them distrust your gender by doing things to their gender because of things someone else did to you, then it's all fine.

nemiharu · Answer

I think it's not understanding the differing ways that their brains work. since male and female brains have a few different types of patterns from their respective counterparts, I'd say that's at least one thing that contributes, since it influences perception of one's own and the opposite gender, as well as interactions with the opposite gender and corresponding behavior.

iamjersey · Answer

It's something your taught from birth.. boys sports are separate from girls. Separate bathrooms. Even all boys or all girls schools. It's an old tradition dating back to beginning..

naijagurl · Answer

Because a lot of people like to allow the few people that have hurt them to speak for an entire group of people.

markscott · Answer

They probably distrust the opposite gender so much, because of experiences where the opposite gender acted in a way that was unkind or using them.

luvstoned4him · Answer

agreed, anyone could warrant a distrust because there are bad and good on both sides.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

Probably past interactions that didn't end well and they hold it against the rest of the sex as a whole.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Because some guys feign friendship and fondness just to get into a girl's pants. Those kind of men just play nice until they get what they want and then ghey show their true colors.

FatherJack · Answer

I do not trust people in general , regardless of gender. Too many negative experiences would be why , in all cases. Give me ferrets and dogs over people anytime !!

CoffeeWC · Answer

It only takes one bad person to ruin the reputation of all other people of that gender. It's harder to trust someone that we don't understand, and guys and girls will never fully understand each other.

KoolaidNightmares · Answer

I think i distrust women to an extent, not much more than id distrust anyone else though, i think it could be because of the Differances in how we're raised, men are expected and taught to be stronger/not show emotion, so it walls us off.

Chanel1981 · Answer

This has nothing to do with gender in my mind, trust must be earned

CandacePerry · Answer

I been hurt by past ex partner and some girls as well.

SueAnon84 · Answer

I think it's non gender specific actually. There are BITCHES in BOTH genders lol!

Bluemax · Answer

Because the pain we experience in love gone wrong or unrequited love is unique.

Secret6620 · Answer

I've been physically and emotionally hurt by them more than my own gender. 💜

ninaneedshelp · Answer

I trust that guys can kept a secret better than a girl, and I trust that a girl can give me better advice on what to wear than a guy.

MaelaKmr · Answer

It's a metter of insecurity linked to they may be perceived by the opposite gender.

Nachowedgie · Answer

Cuz I've been cheated on in all three of my relationships

Inquisidor · Answer

Because 90% of males and females are degenerates and promiscuous nowadays.

Hollysdad1989 · Answer

All it takes is one bad experience to ruin the opposite gender and your opinion of them. That's usually why.

Kezzz · Answer

It could be the generalized norms and people just listen to such norms, it makes sense to them so they accept it and live by it?

Pjdbdp · Answer

I don’t. I judge individually. It depends on the person. I’ve been bullied by girls in high school but I don’t distrust all girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Women never tell the truth. Hell their daily appearance is faked up with makeup. Yet they want a REALLLLLLL MAN

El_Heffe · Answer

I don't generally distrust either sex except when it's obvious to be that they are lying throughly.

BurpingJet337 · Answer

I think it's cuz we make each other look bad. We need to stop that and we need to stop distrusting each other! I think it should be a law that we should get along with each other or there should be some sort of government program to help everyone get together and start trusting each other talking to each other although there is something like that it's called social media but it doesn't work well all the time LOL.

Swat_ · Answer

Because I have less in common with them and spend less time with them.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Well men and women are different physically and mentally in ways, so we usually we tend to trust and are more comfortable our own group we're categorized with more so than others.

Anonymous · Answer

Bad experiences, we survive as a species because we learn patterns. If a girl cheats on you, you learn to be less trusting of women. Its kind of simple

Dextrosis · Answer

Men will harm another person's well being for sex. Women can be... unreliable at times.

dragoblack · Answer

Years of being hurt, rejection, seeing, experiencing and hearing so much manipulation, hate, and abuse

Anonymous · Answer

For me, sexual abuse at a young age - an extreme betrayal from a family member.

Vaelthor · Answer

We fear what we don't know, I would imagine this plays a part in it.

Atryn · Answer

Because they have been hurt too many times by them they stop trusting them because they think they are all like that and don't want to be hurt anymore

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