Why do people distrust the opposite gender so much?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I don't get it, I distrust all humans (men and women) equally, but why so many people go by gender?

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"Give me a person, and I'll tell you their crime"...

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Nobody is guileless or innocent in the eyes of the chekist. Everyone has a crime to pay for.

[charismatic4u]

I would have to go with past experiences I know this is quite unfortunate and this is not for every case I am only speaking for myself. So with that said I am prone to not trust women more for several reasons beginning with the person I love the most the person who gave birth to me. My mom GOD bless her enormous heart that woman to this very day would most likely bend the truth, say a white lie, call it whatever you want but it's still not telling the truth if she felt that by doing so would save me from being hurt whether emotionally or the possibility of being physically hurt. So r igjt out the gate the opposite sex for me I had to find out if what she was telling me was the truth meaning was she lying to protect me or was she really telling me. the truth. As i began to mature I realized what what she was doing and I felt sad and I loved her even more you see she didn't want to lie she's a solid stand up person that is just over protective and wants to protect her little runt her little spider monkey from the harsh reality of the world but by doing so she delayed the pain and lessons that I was to learn at that time eventually I'm sure I had to deal with those trials and tribulations because those were my rites of passage. For example girls don't have cooties and yes my heart has been broken and I've hurt myself countless times on my skateboard I hope this makes sense.
I guess when I think about it after writing that I would say it just made me take on the mentality of women more so then men have to earn my trust more and it doesn't apply to men because I'm a male pig no quite the opposite I just don't even consider letting a guy into that part of my heart I mean I'm not intimate like that with men and that has nothing to do with being physical. I'm just rambling now but that's a little insight on a possibility of why there is some lack of trust for the opposite sex.

[ZeussLightningBolt]

I don't
I trust women more than I trust men

But everyone feels more comfortable with their own kind. This is just a basic survival instinct programmed into us

[ZeussLightningBolt]

Wtf?
Why'd I get downvoted?
It's the truth.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

You know people can get touchy on that, I appreciated it and upvoted you

[ZeussLightningBolt]

I know. It says so :)

[ZeussLightningBolt]

HAHAHAHAHA! 2 downvotes and I STILL got MHO!
In yo face suckas!
I wonder if I have 14% yet

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

😂😂😂😂

[SydneySentinel]

I think the opposite gender has a greater power to hurt us (at least for heterosexuals) when we offer them our love or other emotions. The hurt feels different than within a friendship. So when I've had X number of men break my heart, it's hard not to build up a case against men and say that they are all untrustworthy.

[MlleCake]

Your posts for the past week (?) have often been about how you mistrust women and have decided to give up on relationships.

So, why don't you tell us the answer to this question?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

More than women, I said I stopped trusting them alongside men.
"Show me a person, and I'll tell you their crime" - how can I know if they won't hurt or take advantage of me like my ex and sister do? Especially since I'm short and tiny?
I keep telling this to my friend, but she just laughs it off and then it's like I haven't said anything.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

And as I said in another post, accusing me of being "afraid" of women or a misogynist" is incorrect and a low blow. I treat both genders equally.

[PerryDaBud]

I respect that!

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@PerryDaBud Trust is something to be earned.
Her laughing off my concerns and touching is not really helping the case and just makes me uncomfortable.

[Saffygirl]

Why even seeing her if she makes you uncomfortable?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Saffygirl Because I think I like her but she has to understand I need time to get comfortable and settle my thoughts after the experiences I had.

[Saffygirl]

If you are still hurting, you aren't ready for another relationship and it's too soon anyway. Don't pin your bad experiences on her.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Saffygirl You are right but she's the one pushing for it, not me. She should understand my situation like she says she does.

[Saffygirl]

In other posts I noticed you have fear or disgust of sex and this is a huge issue I think. Does she know about it?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Saffygirl Yes, she asked and I explained her in detail.

[PrincessGrail]

Guys have hurt me

On a lighter note: Every great fortune begins with a great crime...

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

True!

[ZeussLightningBolt]

WOW!
That's good!
I like that!

[PrincessGrail]

Thanks 😊

[ZeussLightningBolt]

I meant I like the quote

[PrincessGrail]

@ZeussLightningBolt I know 😊

[OlderAndWiser]

I do not overgeneralize. If I have a relationship in which trust is a problem, I distrust that particular lady, not the entire female kingdom.

[jennifer_bloom]

I trust everybody - not with my intimate secrets - but enough to talk to them - until they give me a reason not to - or unless I feel something very uncomfortable when I'm around them.

[PerryDaBud]

I think people were born to distrust the opposite gender, you know, kids like me in the age from 5-13, they see other genders as different clans and their enemies, that's why they distrust them, the media also posts lots of stuff such as :" WOMAN FALSELY ACCUSE MAN OF RAPE, THE MAN'S REPUTATION IS LOW AND HIS LIFE IS SHATTERED, THE WOMAN GOT AWAY WITH IT." or "STRANGER FROM THE STREET KIDNAPPED A 6 YEARS OLD GIRL THEN RAPE HER BEFORE KILLING HER." These stories had made distrust between the two genders more, more and more, especially when the feminist and the #metoo movement rose in popularity, men are feared of women, never trusting them that much again, and then men began the MGTOW movement and the Men's rights movement, from that moment on, the two genders see the other as their enemy. This is a very sad and depressing fact...

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

It is depressing indeed.

[PerryDaBud]

I know... it's a very sad world... and that's why I'm a human's rights activist :D
caring about nature and the environment :)

[Dongtai]

For some reason humanity hasn’t quite grasped what separates us from the rest of the animals.

Individuality.

We still assume things that look the same, must also feel, think and behave the same. If one group of black people behave this way, they all must be that way. If one group of Muslims bomb a building, the all must bomb buildings. If one group of men rape women, all men must be rapists. If one group of women only dates men for their money, all women must be gold diggers.

When you stop looking at people as a whole and as individuals, you leave room for trust and understanding and in turn you create love and peace. But if you choose to fear an entire group based on a few assholes, distrust and ignorance is created and the result is hatred and conflict.

[OzzieTheSlav]

I feel like its circumstantial meaning if a certain gender tends to earn your distrust you'll naturally just distrust that gender entirely. This is the same principle that racism is based off of, even though its irrational to assume all of a certain gender is the same it happens after repeated encounters that negatively impact your trust. Example I now tend to distrust girls labeled as bi (again I'm 100% aware how messed up that is) but this is because everytime I've dated a girl labled as bi I was used then eventually left. (This was about 5 times in a row for reference) it's the trial and error approach with the same results you'll naturally assume all of that group is the same.

[Sofia93]

For me personally, i don’t trust men because most of my life I’ve only had female friends, female teachers and my mom is a bit closer to me than my dad. Although I have a brother, it’s different when you are family. I don’t think distrusting men has anything to do with a bad experience or anything like that for me..

[Malik00]

To be honest it has more to do with people giving women the benefit of the doubt over men, the fact that she can being the sword of Damocles down on your head at any time on trumped up charges and even if you've been proven innocent the damage has already been done and you've likely lost everything by the time your name is clear.

Is it really that strange that i would keep such a person at arms length.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Keeping enemies closer makes it easier to keep an eye on them.

[Malik00]

i suppose that's a fair point

[D_Bone_Steak]

I distrust them both as well. The only reason I distrust women in a particular fashion is because of their motives... whereas, a dude, usually just wants to make himself look good for more pussy or possible pussy, so you can guess what I'm pointing out that they want... a resource vs. vagina access.

[PinkMichae]

It seems today's generation is all about who has it better. Women think they don't have equality and men think the same. And we don't have perfect equality. We never will. But until people figure that out men and women are gonna blame each other. It's generation battle of the sexes.

[englisc]

It's because the main time it matters to most people is in dating. Of course it matters with friends too, but you'll always have more of an emotional connection to somebody you're dating, so when your trust is betrayed by them it hurts a lot more and you become weary of being hurt like that again. It's also likely to happen more often when dating than with your friends. And if you're straight that means it's gonna happen more with the opposite sex.

[midnightmoon05]

I don’t see it that way...
I trust till proven otherwise... I believe all humans are kind. We bleed the same color... for reasons some have been miss treated, they lost the sense of love.
You just came out of a relationship, perhaps feeling the darkness of society... take time to learn from, you will become stronger.

[Kurαȷ]

Personally, I trust women less due to personal experience.
I do dislike both men and women, in general, but when it comes to lack of character, hypocrisy, inability to take responsibility for one's own choices, dishonesty, egotism and self-serving behavior, the women I have come in contact with have featured those qualities much more prominently than the men I have come in contact with.

So far, I have only ever made a mistake by holding women in high regard when it comes to these qualities.

[Kurαȷ]

That being said, I believe this phenomenon is simply the result of the fact that the opposite gender, typically, has more motivation to display exhibit negative tendencies towards us.

Romantic jealousy, bitterness over unrequited interests, dishonesty fueled by the desire to be perceived more positively by the opposite gender and romantic interest being one of the strongest motivators of selfish behavior.
These things aren't really a factor with people of the same gender as us.

[JakeReeves]

Because they might have some experiences that made them feel that way, or it's because of the parental raising, or it's because the famipy situation.. And because some people think that the other gender can't experience what they experience, so they can't trust them completely

[Anonymous]

Here

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Same as men, just don't trust anyone

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I know I’m just giving you my reasons.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Substitute "man" with "person".

[Anonymous]

I’ve just had bad experiences with men, and I’m much smaller than most men. There’s some men that I trust a lot, but a lot of them make me anxious. I just find myself more comfortable around women, and I don’t mean to be biased like that, but unfortunately that’s how it is.

[Jeroenuru]

men aren't trustworthy because i don't understand why they act the way they do.
women aren't trustworthy because they are to damn good in acting in a way that doesn't match their thoughts, but if you don't let your guard down you can see through it anyway. it's just a hastle that even though you know that something is bothering them, they will never honestly say it, so you can never talk it out.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

You gotta have faith and give trust
The key is not giving it easily

I trust women, because I trust myself, i dont let them take advantage of me. So I never feel betrayed. I also dont place expectations on them that I know they can't meet

People get hurt, that's where the mistrust comes from

[Anonymous]

*I don't trust all humans equally* fucking proof you are an android from the future with the mission of starting WW3

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

You found me out! 😂😂

[Anonymous]

So many men have ulterior motives in how they pursue women, and they'll lie to pursue those ulterior motives. Experiences have also contributed to my distrust in men. I've been at the receiving end of violence by a partner, who I thought was the kindest gentleman. Was cheated on by my first boyfriend years ago... all of this resonates

[DDpsy]

I think it's more your perception based on what people whine about.
As a guy I distrust most men considerably, dislike them quite a lot and consider them my competition in most situations. I think it's pretty much the norm for guys. That said most guys will not talk about it since we are pretty used to it and don't really expect better. When you are betrayed by a woman it hurts more because we stupidly believe they may actually deserve trust.