Is it ever understandable to hate the opposite gender?

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I was listening to a story of a self -proclaimed misogynist, He's now dead by the way. But he was telling a story about how he went to jail for statutory rape at 16. The girl was 15 and it was consensual. But word got out that she was a hoe and guys would approach her saying I know what you did and if you don't do the same thing to me I'm telling.

So after getting blackmailed into sex a bunch of times she went to her father and told her she got raped, Oh yeah and a couple weeks ago I also got raped.

So obviously the authorities found all the people she had sex with and tried them, some of them got life in prison. Some of them got a couple months. But I was just thinking that these guys are kids and a lot of them lost their minds at the very thought I'll go on to jail. Much less actually going to prison. And the guy was saying that's one of the reasons why he doesn't like women is because they have so much power to destroy a man.

I'm wondering if there is any equivalent story as to why women would hate men.

CalmUntilAbused · Accepted Answer

Yes, it's understandable, given the emotional distress under certain circumstances. However, it's always irrational, and thus, it ultimately leads to a failure in life. In the case You described, it would be perfectly rational for the man in question to avoid any interactions with women he does not know well enough. The Western societies these days are basically live minefields for men and it's perfectly logical to avoid getting blown up. However, hatred towards women would actually make it harder. Hatred is an emotion. Every time He'd see a woman, He'd wish for her to get hurt or even die. Sooner or later, He'd snap, and that's when His life would end. Hunted down like a rabid animal, He'd either get shot dead or thrown into a prison where He'd wish He was dead instead. It is true that women have overwhelming power to ruin men's lives these days. Some women are not insane, though, and they understand into what kind of hell making use of said power is going to lead them.

To give my point a more personal touch... I got in trouble at school once for glancing at my female classmate's face. Luckily, it happened before I reached the age when I could be realistically sued (though I later learned that such an option was actually put on the table by the aforementioned female classmate). I ended up getting off the hook pretty easily, as my (female) homeroom teacher was quick to understand that I pose no real threat at all and what I have done was due to my awkwardness and insecurity around girls, at worst. However... I've learned my lesson and I sure did avoid interacting with my female classmates for some time, going as far as to avoid perceiving them at all. However, I couldn't help but notice that at least one of these female classmates of mine was anything but hostile towards me, even going out of Her way to invite me to a school year-end party that same school year - the first party of that kind I have ever attended. I decided to take the risk of opening up to Her during the holidays (though I did take the precaution of not interacting with Her directly, using a mobile communicator app instead). I guess I might have been thinking something along the lines of: "I'm going to make her show her true colors and I'm going to find a valid reason not to interact with her anymore". What followed was anything but what I might have expected at the time. She was absolutely appalled as I shared some of my life experience with Her. Then, She offered to help me blend in with our classmates and improve (or, basically, start up) my social life. What it led to was me finding a few closer friends in my class, leading to an unprecedented occurence in my life when I was actually happy to perceive my classmates' existence (with a certain female classmate remaining an exception to this phenomenon for quite some time). So... How about today? Well... I'm still wary not to look at random women, not even at their faces. If a woman was to sit across the table from me or on the opposite seat in public transport, I'd immediately shift my gaze away. If she were to sit next to me, I'd also take additional care not to allow for our legs or shoulders to touch. However, if I absolutely have to interact with a given woman or if I know a certain woman well enough to gain sufficient trust in her, I'm perfectly capable of upholding mostly-not-awkward interactions, with no murderous intent brewing inside me. Now, while most people not in the know of what horrific risk interactions with women bring about would still consider me insane, I feel I've reached a state when I'm capable of leading a somewhat normal life, considering how utterly hostile the Western societies are towards men these days, while not leaving my soft underbelly exposed to any woman (or rather to any feminist) who would get a splendid idea of making my life more of a hell that it already is.

Thus, my point is: it's understandable to hate the opposite gender, but it's much more rational to substitute the hatred with level-headed avoidance.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Good story with lot of lessons. It's devoid of responsibility... which is lacking in our society.

Yes legit reasons to hate others... but then again, that's putting the blame on them for what is ones own decisions isn't it? The girl in this case has more reason to hate men that literally blackmailed her into doing things she didn't want to do.

The father should hate men too that have no regards for the sanctity of his family.

The real answer is not in hate, but in love. Hate is a terrible energy... bitter. These men knew they were doing something wrong and they did it anyway, for their own twisted motives of selfishenss. She did not force herself on them, they made bad choices.

Never... and I repeat never trust a drunk woman. In general, don't trust women. Women are to be loved... if you find one you choose to love, then do so and leave the rest alone. It's really that simple. Note, some are difficult to love, so choose wisely.

Again the Bible is right..."the wages of sin... is death". In this case, many deaths.

MemeSupreme · Accepted Answer

yeah it's understandable to bc people's experiences can make them that way

doesn't mean it's right or you have to condone it if theyre being a dick bc of it but like it's okay to be like "i get where you're coming from" like I've met old black people who don't trust white people. im not gonna give them shit for it bc it makes sense lol

AmyHew1tt · Accepted Answer

There's never a reason to hate a gender at large. You can hate individual people, but hating the gender based on the actions of some is petty and often self-indulgent. We like feeling self-righteous, because it help us ignore our own problems and where we could grow ourself.

ManOnFire · Answer

She was a minor who had consensual sex with this guy who was older. How much older, you didn't say, but he must've been older nonetheless. Sorry to say I don't feel anything for her.

"And the guy was saying that's one of the reasons why he doesn't like women is because they have so much power to destroy a man."
- but you have to ask this question: why do women have so much power to destroy a man? Because men let them have it. Men run the systems that sent those guys to jail for life, yet did nothing to her for being a minor who had consensual sex with an adult. Women only have power over men when men allow them to, and sadly male leadership in many forms across the board - government, law, police, CEOs, etc. - is full of weak men who do not understand this, they are just proud and happy that they are at the top with the rest of their frat boy club, and allow women to do what they want because they fear them.

As for answering your initial question, I think there are certain times or certain instances where it is understandable to hate the opposite sex, yes. And I think everyone will here and there at some point. It neither pleases or bothers me. It's just life.

SolitarySolace · Answer

It’s completely understandable to hate the opposite gender due to this kind of thing. It’s also completely understandable to believe that women have all the power. The government makes it far too easy for both good and bad women to put A man or boy in jail/prison regardless of whether said man or boy is innocent or not. That hatred comes from fear of being wrongfully treated, wrongfully accused, etc And if a man is afraid of a woman, people ridicule, laugh at, mock, hurt those men causing said men to become misogynists. He has no way to defend himself. No way to free himself from this process other than to swear off the opposite sex entirely. Even doing that, people consider an act of misogyny. Even doing that, you're told you're gay even though you're not. Even though you know your own truth it hurts. It hurts because there's nothing you can do. The idea of just accepting all of it with a smile on your face and treating those who you can't deem an oppressor should drive any man crazy to the point of either suicide or internet hate for the female gender.

Billlewis · Answer

I think in the current era, gender wars are, to some extent, inevitable, which is why I strongly recommend that guys in general should always be mindful of how their actions, behavior and conduct will affect their female counterparts. I know this is typically an unpopular opinion, but think about this -- if the women with whom you interact with each day were guests in your home, or customers at the company for which you work, would you be more conscious of their will being, less conscious or as conscious? 'When uncertain, open the curtain' ;)

shoeboxcerealcard · Answer

No, it's never understandable. It's a mental infection. Most people on this site are like that. Look at the questions. They target all women or all men. Logically they know the difference but that's not how the subconscious works. It takes exactly what you give it. So if you say "men" then it will take it as all men. Prejudices are built that way. It's a subconscious thing.

IconicPenguin · Answer

No. It's understandable to be wary, to be suspicious at first. After all if you got hurt once you can get hurt again. But to look at everyone of the opposite gender as if they have  already  hurt you? That's just stupid. Most of them don't even know who you are, and if their actions or beliefs have hurt you in a general collective type of way, they likely don't even realize it.

236color · Answer

Yes there are equivalent stories from women. Hate is generally a negative emotion that hurts everyone. Applied to large groups, it's called prejudice. It happens, but it's not right, but it happens and we have to guard against it. Remember it is not a crime if a woman you want, doesn't want you. If you find several women like this, it doesn't. mean it's true of all women. That said having an angry, resentful attitude will make it more likely you will be rejected.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I'm not going to hate a whole gender for the acts of an individual any more than I'm going to hate a whole race for the acts of one. Eventually you have to hate everyone if you live life that way.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

🤔🤔... Nah, if one person did you wrong, I wouldn't say it's understandable.. Now, if you had that, and never had much of a positive experience with the opposite gender than yeah that's more understandable, but still not right.. Fighting that feeling of prejudice is the healthy way to go..

Phoenix98 · Answer

It's understandable to hate certain individuals of the opposite gender but I don't think it's understandable to hate the entire gender itself as there are lots of innocent people who did nothing wrong and don't deserve the hate and that goes for both genders.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I don't think so, but I can understand how so many people get to that point. And yes, there are a lot of women with those kinds of stories about men.

I think that some people are just targets of abuse from the opposite sex, and I think there's a weird tendency to ignore that fact. Ignoring the legitimate abuse someone is going through is a great way to breed resentment towards all members of the opposite sex.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

The entire other gender... No. That's a terribly unfortunate situation that would not doubt cause resentment and a lack of trust for a long time, but hate all men? Her father who helped put an end to it was a man...

Most of the people that think this way about either gender haven't experienced something like this. They either are "educated" feminists who love the many medias or are angry red pill Bros who are chronically online.

Anonymous · Answer

Ummm yes. Women crying rape is one of the only things we have in our “power” to destroy a man. Men have MANY ways to destroy a woman. Men have more power in society in general. It’s seen in salary differentials, acceptance for job opportunities, physical strength, etc. Women rarely hold the cards.

SweetDripp · Answer

He shouldn’t hate women for how the legal system works. I can understand his point of view that it seems unfair based on his story, but our legal system and those who created the laws are largely men. Shouldn’t he hate them?

NathanDavis · Answer

it's stupid and unhealthy which is why they need professional care... not enabling justification

LazerBean · Answer

No, someone has to be at least borderline retarded to hate an entire gender.

normalice · Answer

Sounds like a bunch of animals are trying to blame the victim in that case. "Blackmailed into sex" is rape. They raped a child and need to be in prison for it.

Kaneki05 · Answer

No. It's understandable to distrust based on past experiences but to hate everyone as if tho they are the same is just delusional.

Anonymous · Answer

Those boys had a predatory mindset at such a young age. WTF is wrong with our society? Also if they didn't even have evidence of her having sex with another guy, why was she worried? Maybe they had pictures or something. She should have went to the cops right away.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Being raped would probably make a woman hate men. Especially if she didn’t get therapy to deal with it.

Tim2nice · Answer

Women hate men for some silly reasons such as historical patriarchy, things which happened centuries ago, political views, etc

Is it ever understandable to hate the opposite gender?

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