Should your spouse be your best friend?

[Anonymous]

[Kurαȷ]

My partner is not my friend, they are my partner.
Partners serve a purpose different from friends, I have different motivations to be with them and I have different expectations from them too.
I always found it annoying and illogical to label romantic partners as friends.

Partners are positioned considerably higher in the interpersonal relationship hierarchy.
If a partner was to label me their best friend, I would start to question our relationship and their investment in it.

[Aethereal]

Yes. I think it's very important for a marriage to be this way. A marriage is much more likely to thrive if it's held by more than one deep bond. It's especially useful for the moments in a marriage when the romantic love is temporarily gone. I would have it no other way.

[TexasBorn217]

Well, I'm not married so my opinion probably isn't worth much.

But I will go on ahead and say that my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. And again, we're not married, but to me, he's one of my best friends, and I believe having that dynamic to our relationship has been one of the things that has kept us together this long.

[Some_Goof]

Not necessarily... But its much preferred in my opinion. For me that is. It would be icing on the cake...

[Anonymous]

Yep, absolutely, let me break down why:

A friend is someone whose personality you get along with really well, right? If I’m a male, my best friends are going to be males whose personalities and character I admire. So, logically speaking you want a spouse who’s character and personality would make you want to be friends with if they were your gender.

Being attracted to just looks won’t last long in a relationship, friendship, the bond you have as a friend and a lover is what makes the ultimate marriage

[Bloody_Claw]

Yes absolutely. If you bond with someone and decide to stay with her/him for the rest of your life you need to be one team. And even though there is and I and personal needs there is always the overarching we.
Because if you can't trust/rely on the person blindly you probably better of on your own.

[Bananaman177]

Yes, so make sure to "Friendzone" every great guy you meet and then wonder why you have so many failed relationships.

[brathwaitereginald74]

She/He should become one of your best friends but one with benefits only. She should be his whore, mistress, girlfriend & wife and He should always be your manager, pimp, fuckboy, boyfriend & husband; once you both can be all of that for each other you have no problems.

[xkildy]

If your spouse is not your best friend something is wrong , you have to wholeheartedly accept that person in your life and take in all there troubles there bad days and there faults if you can't do that your not ready for marriage or that person is not right for you. Simply put if you can't talk freely around them the it's not going to be a happy marriage

[oraclesam]

Let me put it this way: you should absolutely have a friend who is not your spouse. There are things you can't bottle up that you need to share that a spouse won't be receptive to. But your spouse should be where the loyalty is strongest. Does that mean 'best'? Not sure it's the same for everyone.

[LoU_Hades]

Friend is perhaps not the best describing. Friends are like fishes, they smell good if they are fresh but begin to stink if they are too long in your table.

I prefer to see my partner as teammate, who makes own thing and plays with me for mutual benefits, never against me.

[CubsterShura]

If not your spouse, then who else? DD:

Now, you can definitely have best friends besides just your marriage but is a marriage even a marriage without your spouse even being like your best friend? You get me?

[Djolea]

Well, that's kinda the point, isn't it? I guess, in the beginning, it starts as love, passion and enchantment. But after a while it slowly evolves into love, habit and a very sincere friendship.

[ariadneR]

Absolutely, a friend at the very very least.
What's the point in them being your spouse if you can't tell them things you would tell your friends?

[Gstacy1989]

Couldn’t agree more!!!♥️😊

[YetiG]

I dont see how else it could be.
I mean you can still have a best friend other than your spouse but in my opinion if your S/o isn't your best friend then maybe you should spend more time together I don't know

[BrittBratt2416]

Sure why not, my mom considers my dad to be one of her best friends even though they are married. Plus that's how they started out as friends in first place, that friendship ended up turning into a beautiful marriage.

[Anonymous]

I would answer this, as it keeps coming up in my feed, but I really don't like anon questions that don't need to be anon.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

Its why I always eventually ask my girl friends out
You should really become best-friends first before dating

If you can be best-friends first. Then the romance and other parts come easy.

[Neeceeb7]

He is my best friend but its different. I have a few friends that are besties. But husband always comes first

[Ashulove]

Lucky him
Hopefully other besties don't mind among themselves

[LazloHollyfeld]

Without a doubt. if you have something you would tell your bestie girlfriend you won't tell me, keep looking for "mr I don't care about intimacy"... Because it's vital to longevity.

[OrwellianHorror]

Not all the time. I believe that requiring your spouse to be the Disney definition of your everything... Though good on paper, is a recipe for disaster.

You have to be friends. But best friends? Not necessarily required. Your already lovers and life-mates.

Play it by ear, and enjoy the ride.

[snowdaay]

I think so ! It means you have a lot in common and similar interests ! That means you can spend more time together and enjoy it! It also means that you can talk with each other about anything!

The downside is that if you loose her or him you loose your lover and your best friends and it's the worst...

[markscott]

It's nice if your spouse if your best friend, but that is not the reality for many people. And sometimes you just need a good friend who isn't so close to the situation.

[Anonymous]

When girls call their husband to be their best friend. I cringe cause it’s embarrassing. We get you love the guy but you’ve probably had a best friend since college who is probably going to be your maid of honour. Is she not your best friend now? You could say one of my best friends but best friend I just laugh. You’ve known him for two years then you drop all your other friends who you’ve known for years & call him your best?