Do you prefer a partner with looks or personality?

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Do you prefer girls that are more attractive, or have a better personality? More and more Im starting to prefer personality over looks. The more attractive a girl is, the more bitchy, arrogant, and high standard they are, and the more likely to cheat. Attractive girls expect guys to drool over them whether there is mutual interest or not. They still want guys to beg for attention and offer nothing in return. Most of them are boring self worshipping hoe bags that are dumb and boring because all they have to do to get through life is suck dick. Meanwhile there are plenty of underappreciated girls that are humble, considerate, and less likely to cheat. I've deleted Instagram and unfollowed a lot of people on FB. Girls like that are toxic and they make me sick. On the other hand, unattractive guys are also usually humble, nicer, and more interesting since we spend more time learning, doing hobbies, and bettering ourselves, opposed to dickbags that think they're better than everyone else, and get where they are in life by being born privileged, with money, natural physique, natural skills, or cheating the system and being a criminal. More dominant males have to compete with other males, and thus usually end up becoming assholes in the process. Most attractive people become addicted and controlled by their lust and greed, and feed their desires while treating the rest of the world like shit. Fuck all of 'em.

Emerald5 · Accepted Answer

Congrats that you have started to realize and learn the truth about human nature. I'm already 45 and I still have never had a single girlfriend. Yet my priority has always been the personality over looks. This is because I am an epileptic and rarely have a chance to go out to socialize and meet people. That has also made me a shy and introverted person who doesn't dare approach any girl.
But because of this empty life for so long, it has given me all that time to observe and learn from others' experiences what human nature is like. As a loner, I also never gave myself any positive standards of looking good and being attractive to girls but I've always been respecful and kind to anyone.
So as with your description, those who are not good looking usually don't go through a "rough" lifestyle of competition and learn bad habits and behaviors. They tend to be quieter and because they just observe and not "chase", they learn more smartly and are also more courteous. They do more introverted hobbies because they are alone rather than like partying at clubs.
Blessings to you and good luck in your search for your partner.

CallMeDave · Accepted Answer

Well, ideally both! But personality is more important. Of course I need to find her at least somewhat physically attractive but I'd take a wonderful personality with only average to even somewhat below average looks over someone stunningly beautiful but with a not so great personality any day.

If you only want sex, then I guess just looks is probably fine, but if you want a serious relationship with someone, which I do, looks alone is not enough for that. I need her to have a good personality and good compatibility to have the kind of deep personal connection that makes a wonderful and long lasting deep personal relationship.

Also, looks change over time. A great personality will last through a lifetime together.

laurentpatricia · Accepted Answer

Actually, the vote is so hard. Cause i meet some man through online and just 2 person or 2 ex that i meet in real life then get into relationship.
Basically, if meet in real life i would prefer personality by talking, share interest etc.
But through online, i ain't hypocrite. I prefer looks cause that is the first thing i notice before talking to some guys. Then after, we interest in each other we can discover through chat.
And the most important thing everyone has their criteria. Like i like justin bieber cause he is hot but my friend ain't think the same

DailyIntrovert · Accepted Answer

I used to go for looks when I was younger but personality is definitely more important as I get older. An average looking guy who is intelligent, kind and funny is far more attractive than a good looking guy who is hurtful and cruel. Unfortunately I dated the latter but you live and learn.

Queen-E-6 · Accepted Answer

I totally go for personality first. I like someone nice who treats me well, and someone who also shares my weird sense of humor. If they’re cute then that just happens to be a bonus 😂🤷‍♀️

Kayla45 · Accepted Answer

Personality is very important to me, I mean sure he can be drop dead gorgeous with huge muscles and well toned skin.. but if he treats me like dirt then what's the point?

Sonorous · Answer

I hate to be that guy... But it's all or nothing for me. I'm not settling for less than what I want.

raqui · Answer

Ok I picked the wrong answer by accident. I do prefer personality over looks, however looks do play a significant role especially when you first notice the person so it's best we don't completely knock that. But, I will say that personality is the number one thing because if you're looking for someone that you plan on spending a lot of time and making good memories with your characters pretty much have to be attuned to one another.

Also, I don't agree with you saying all attractive girls expect guys to drool over them (hopefully you meant 'most' attractive girls like you mentioned in the next sentence). I know I'm an attractive female and I can say that I feel more comfortable not having tons of guys gawking at me. This is mostly because I wasn't that attractive when I was younger so I wasn't getting that type of attention and I was very insecure, anxious and quiet. I really didn't like a lot of attention and I still don't, but sometimes it's just what you get. On the contrary, I do agree there are attractive people in this world who are not very good people beyond the surface.

Thingman1 · Answer

It was tough I just hung in there you know. My positivity and drive to be the best just shined through you know... all the superficial. And itty really was a question that you know, pushed you. Because I love the superficial women.. a lot. Bitchy? Same thing, I love 'em and when they talk down to me it's really almost too much to take. Then you throw in the good looks. Man, I'm actually going to change my vote. I can't? Really, dam it. Now I'm stuck with the personalities. Just breath. It's okay as long as they don't expect me to have personality too. I'm in trouble here... I'm a little arrogant and ugly. Sure my mother said I was handsome but I ain't heard that in a while. Lol. I'm not sure I'm mature enough for this site. Okay later. But don't be afraid to write if you got a thing for that. I hope that's not forbidden. Lol

blutwolfe · Answer

That's tough, I'd rather have a fine balance, like she's not ugly, but her personality doesn't have to be amazing either. As long as she can be loyal and devoted that's the biggest thing I'm looking for in personality, and for her to look at least average.

If I had to pick one though I'd rather her look better over a personality. Because as soon as you bring in this debate it's either a fat chick with a good personality or a hot chick with a personality of a brick.

jc2992 · Answer

Overall, i would have to say that i prefer a woman that has a great personality and common sense. while looks can certainly help with my interest in a girl, let's face it the looks will fade as they get older. plus having other good qualities is what will make a person stick around. so I definitely say my preference is a woman with a great inner self vs outer self.

kanelives · Answer

I was going to vote for looks... but realized that I dont ask women out because of how they look. I only ask out women if I know them a fair amount and have been liking them for a while. I also dont approach pretty women, although I guess I like to look at them? I don't know. Anyway, that made me vote personality.

UglyestGuyEver · Answer

looks cos im realistic and not a lyer... anyone who says they prefer personality are jus tryna appear nice and deep so that they can be "politically correct" and liked more by everyone looking at their comment... but cmon lets be honest... secretly all we really want is a hot body we can fuck... be honest u full of shit liers

CT_CD · Answer

Looks > Personality. A lot of people might like to think they go for personality first but in reality people tend to underestimate the true importance they place on physical attractiveness. Personality doesn't matter much if you don't find the person at least somewhat attractive. So it's looks then personality.

slipperydip1994 · Answer

Looks. Always has to be looks. A personality can be broken down and moulded over time. Just like military teaches that sort of thing.

I'd go with looks man: looks are so much more to me.

If she has bad habits, hopefully she can be changed.

Misstany · Answer

I think it’s a little column A and a little column B. Looks will get you through the door but personality will keep them coming.

JamesR9999 · Answer

Personality is more important than Looks because looks is just a beauty that can go away at any time. but Good Personality is Good heart, love, peace, Understand Appreciating, Respect, etc. that come to stay. Therefor Personality is more accepted than Looks.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

So many shit women today look like pretty little whores, and are complete bitches. Looks are nothing today.

Naxwi · Answer

More attractive, or have a better personality? A garbage person is still a garbage person. I don't get what's attractive about that.

JuanFrank7 · Answer

Personality always. Though I know that is difficult to be precise because you never know what the person might be like if you don't give them a chance, but still just trying to treat everyone equally without hidden agendas

Pasi121 · Answer

Thing is - personality can really cover up looks to a certain degree but it's totally not the other way around. There is a certain minimum of looks but personality is almost everything.

Iron_Man · Answer

Everyone loves a great personality but if you're not attracted to that person you'll never even get your foot in the door or do anything with that person so it has to be looks

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I value both looks and personality, but character is the most important thing.

StephenCF · Answer

I prefer her with a personality at the end of the day, but it’s the looks that will lead me to dating her in the first place

Belfast34 · Answer

Definitely personality over looks. She could be very sexy looking but treat you like crap. Average looking and loving makes me happy.

DWornock · Answer

Looks! Personality is worthless if she doesn't look good.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I have been going for the looks so far. I want to change this 😔

ivysandy · Answer

I prefer personality overlooks, but To be sincere I prefer both

sofia_sitnikova · Answer

Both equally, when I am 18 and allowed to date I will have some male friends and see which one treats the best and date him

alex_x988 · Answer

Looks always.. And actually even if you chose a girl with lesser looks you will cheat her.. And plus men are biologically programmed for it so..

Anonymous · Answer

I like to go for personality. It’s nice to have a partner who’s not embarrassed to be around you when you go out to the bar or wherever

Nadim171 · Answer

They're not equally important to me, personality is WAY more important

LordSnuggles · Answer

Another mindless question where we all know the answer

Anonymous · Answer

So it appears only 4 guys on here can tell the truth.

taleets · Answer

Personality definitely.

NickiB · Answer

Personality for sure.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Personality, every time

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Personality over looks but still cute.

ErikKantor · Answer

I prefer a little bit of both. :)

yourdaddy45 · Answer

Hands down and without a dought

Exorcist_Rampage · Answer

Personality is always pretty.

Twalli · Answer

The girl needs to be physically attractive too.

damaster · Answer

Personality hands down

The1person · Answer

There should be a balance between both.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Depends on my mood.

Anonymous · Answer

Personality and compatibility.

datgirl · Answer

Both.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Both.

Bwyze · Answer

Yhea...

Jltakk · Answer

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