I usually don't like simplistic sayings, but I encountered one on here that went along the lines of obsession being a feeling and love being a choice. That makes a whole lot of sense to me. Sometimes one can lead to the other.
I actually felt the need for obsession. I experienced it once in my 20s, got all the way to being engaged before it got broken off. Then I thought I'd never experience it again, and I did again in my late 20s with my wife. I was as a teenager actually scribbling her name over and over at work.
I love that feeling. It's an intoxication better than any drug in my opinion. And of course, it doesn't last forever, but I like it as a building block towards committing the rest of my life to someone.
----------If you have a girl you love who is obsessed about you... YOU WIN.
I think she just has some unresolved issues probably from her past or something. It sounds like maybe her upbringing was really strict or she’s a perfectionist on herself and she needs you to comfort her by letting her know she’s ok just for existing without constantly having to achieve everything. Actually I think your issues are kinda similar in some ways. Like you both sort of comfort each other which is nice.
Love is caring for someone deeply and selflessly, in most cases.
Obsession is caring for someone to the point that thoughts of them become intrusive. When your ‘love’ is so strong that you become possessive and kinda.. filled with jealousy by simple interpersonal interactions.
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Love is natural. Obsession is forced. That's the difference.
The people who you can meet up with years after not seeing them forever and it's like nothing has changed -- those are people you love.
People who you genuinely care about like your own family -- that's love.
Being a fan of someone is obsession. Thinking they're soo cool is obsession. Thinking they have all these desirable traits is obsessive. Love is when you know someone and you're like, man I really hope they're doing well. I care about them.
Love is mature. Obsession is immature.
People take into account the wishes of someone that they love. Obsession is more selfish. The other person is viewed as something to be obtained. Things are done for that person only as a means for the person doing them to get what they want. Love is selfless. If you love someone, you’ll do things for the sake of making them happy.
The best way to tell those two apart is from the other person's reaction to something they don't like.
E. g. Try telling them that you will go somewhere without them.
A person who loves you will tell you "have fun", "take care" or maybe "want some company?" or "can I come too? "
A person who's obsessed will become furious and start throwing around insults and accusations.
Love is a feeling or emotional state. That requires 2 people. I think obsessed is the same feeling as love at it's highest levels, but only felt by 1 person. The line for me is when the relationships becomes one of dependency for one of the people involved. It's good for couples to feel like they need each other however when one person becomes completely dependent on the other especially emotionally then the line is crossed.
Love and obsession are completely different. Obsession is wanting all your partner’s attention at all times and not thinking of anything else. Love, however, is wanting to give your partner your attention when they need it and fully trusting them to do the same for you, and it’s thinking of them whenever you think of what’s important to you and what makes you happy. In short, obsession is self-serving, but love is self-sacrificing.
Love requires admiration, attraction, devotion, and respect. If you’re obsessed, I would say you’re 50% in love
If you can't walk away from something and just ""must" do it, it is either obsessive and or addiction.
Love is other-centered. Obsession is at its core self-centered, desiring another for self-fulfillment.
When you stop considering the other person's feelings.
When she tells you what to do and when to do it. Making sure you are where you say you will be.
Love:
You treat people nice.
You care for them.
You're not selfish.
Obsession:
You kiss their ass and worship them as if they are God.
I think it's a false dichotomy, but I think if you're truly in love with someone you want the best for them.
Whether or not it’s reciprocated
When they skip asking you for permission.
Love is obsession. Its beyond reason.
For me, there is no line
I agree
There is no difference. To obsess is to love, to love is to obsess.
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Yep i agree. ☺
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