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Hey there's nothing wrong with smoking weed. You do you. Plus he's not your dad.(God i sound so much like a 14 y/o rn lol)
But yeah I think that he should give you some space because 1 ) you're not gonna get addicted to it and 2 ) mostly everyone has done it at least once in their life.
He has no reason to be mad at you.
Eat the edibles or brownies. I don't like smoke, it's bad for your lungs and your lungs aren't as resilient as your liver. You can drink a lot of alcohol and your liver recovers because it's a powerful organ, but your lungs? Baby... your lungs are not as reparable. Don't fork with your lungs. They put up with enough street pollution as is. Go edibles, baby. Go edibles.
100 percent this
Some people don't get it's plant to help. Yeah, people use it for recreational. But, it's still a plant. It's better than all the other poisons they say is alright to put in our bodies.
Sorry besides the point... Don't talk to him about it yet. Give it a few more day's. And ask what is his real problem with it. If he comes off witj some b. s about it being a gateway drug. Pull up info about how it helps vets like myself with ptsd. And cancer patients. Also it's less of a gate way than alcohol, ciggerets, or any big pharm drug. Again sorry. This subject is one I, am gonna always defend. Because, American's have been given the wrong info for way to long.
He needs to get over it. You're an adult. You can do what you do. He expressed his dislike. That's it. This isn't an issue that he should make a big deal about. I feel like he might have had a bad experience with someone about weed but if not, he should calm down.
Listen to me. My best friend and his friends are pot heads. Marijuana destroys people. It has destroyed my friends. Stay away from it and anyone who does it. They spend all of their money on marijuana, beg me for money, and they just can’t get their heads straight. all of them, my buddy and all his friends. They’re doing nothing with their lives, they’re unmotivated, babies who will be working at Applebee’s for the rest of their lives with a credit score of 400. Oh! And my buddy let’s his wife have sex with his friend for money. Cause they’re broke... let that sink in.
Can't blame the drug for your deadbeat friends. Your deadbeat friends use the drug to enable their worst tendencies. I smoke marijuana every day and lead a productive life, the most skilled engineer at my lab does the same. Don't stereotype based on your own anecdotal experience, just like any tool, what matters most is the mindset of the person using it.
That being said, anything that you enjoy too much, you must be careful with. Videogames and porn I've found to have a much more debilitating effect on my life
Well said
@purplejam101 thanks, as well though I would like to add this as a general rule, as quoted from an old friend of mine "Drugs are for people who can afford to lose a few braincells"
:P
How do you pass the drug tests to keep that job
It's called Canada LOL fuck drug tests, if the person is functional that's what's important, many alcohol and prescription drug users are fucked
Sounds like they need a change in management
I’m a small business owner, I’ve hired quite a few stoners because I thought they were “functional” needless to say my apprentices must pass a drug test now to be hired.
Very close minded, but considering the average stoner, it's not completely illogical.
Still, you're gunna miss out on some gems, the entire company rests on the backbone of the lead engineer, they'd be completely fkd if they didn't have him
sounds like you're just bad at judging character and blaming weed for that :P
I have to agree with @Shamalien. It's like anything in life if you abuse it , it can be damaging to your life. I actually have a medical reason for using it but I still run a buisness take care of my family and do it a lot more stress free than before I started using it. But I don't abuse it. I don't use before driving. Actually a lot of time I only use it before bed. It's nice to be able to sleep through the night without waking up in pain every 2 hrs and to no longer have daily panic attacks.
Luckily in my state in the us more companies are not drug testing for marijuana now that its legal for both medical and recreational.
I disagree, I knew my buddy since middle school. His life started going downhill since he was introduced to marijuana. It’s a negative substance that should be avoided regardless of how functional some people are with it. If any substance can be abused, than it should be avoided all together.
Everything can be abused. That's the point. Caffeine, soda, candy, drugs, prescription drugs, food, etc... It sounds like your buddy definitely shouldn't do it if he can't control himself with it. Just some people with alcohol. Some can't control themselves and become alcoholics yet many others can socially drink with no issues. It's dependent on the person not the substance or food and so on.
with things like this, it's never clear which is the cause. It could easily be that his life started going downhill, and he used marijuana to try and escape real problems. Drugs are never the main problem, that's what people need to realize, drug use, if used in a negative way, is a symptom of a deeper issue
drug testing for marijuana and not for alcohol is honestly dumb af, alcohol is a wayyy harder drug with a way higher potential for abuse, you're just stuck in a mind prison
@Shamalien. It is dumb. Not to mention how much alcohol kills people from overdose or abuse. I watched my stepdads last breaths as his liver and kidneys failed. I have yet heard of anyone o. d. ing using marijuana. I seen more positive things come out of marijuana than negative.
@PinkMichae the only negative thing about marijuana is that its too damn good, you might spend all your time doing it XD it enables laziness, makes boring things fun, so there is a different sort of danger, but I agree, more positive than negative, a world of stoners is preferable to a world of drunks
Smfh, it doesn't destroy lives if u think for 1 minutes that Mary Jane destroys lives the u voted for Hillary maybe your friends weren't going anywhere in life anyways stop giving drugs a bad rep
He has a right to be upset with anything.
He has the right to be upset if you floss with your left hand.
You have the right to not care about it
You have the right to be upset if he's upset about you smoking pot.
Just because you don't see a problem doesn't mean his feelings aren't valid.
.. And just because he's upset, doesn't mean you're wrong.
Just be direct.. But this seems like an incompatibility to me
Oh boy. Alright there's good reason to be upset as the boyfriend but as long as it not crack or cocaine, it safe to be able to say you smoked once and not be judged. If it's your lasts time smoking, then give it time, he be alright. It's when you make it a habit that causes a disturbance in the force. That's a habit that bleeds into every relationship and its never good. If you're gonna do it again in the near future, that's gonna take a lot of communication.
its not up to him to decide what you like or what you would like to experience. he can eat a midol, take a deep breath, and explain to you just wth his bad trip is and why he is projecting his attitude into your experience. you smoked a blunt with cousin skunky, big deal. he is being an ass, you gotta call that out. dont let him stop you from trying anything. life is to short for all that drama. you did nothing wrong, he is the one outta line. happy holidays!
I'm very much against my girl smoking anything, in any manner. It's a deal breaker for me.
F****** square
@BoxySama : If your idea of a good relationship is to have her stink like tobacco, and kill you and the kids with second hand smoke, that is your privilege.
Hahahaha
I do smoke cigarettes
But I hated that s*** all the way till I was good enough to buy them
I am talking about burning green anyway
I agree, tobacco smells horrible when smoke, but cannabis on the other hand..
I am not ont that agrees with the use of weed, I too find it off putting if a girl uses it. But if you really will only try it once then he will get over it. But if you continue remember you already know his position so don't be surprised he state to get mad and maybe lose interest in you.
Some of the people here are extremely uptight. I'm a cop, and I don't even think it's a big deal to smoke it once. I've smoked it before when I was younger, and I'm doing just fine. However... If he disapproves, then you need to respect that. He's more than entitled to disapprove of any drug use. You should have talked to him about this before-hand, instead of just stating you already did after the fact. He'll move past it as long as you respect his word for now on.
He needs to get over it. But because he is MUCH older he's going to have more old time expectations of you. So be prepared for more of this type of thing.
But he needs to get over it, wasn't his decision to make and he's allowed an opinion but he's not allowed to punish you over it.
Rebel against him and start taking meth. Tell your parents you have a abusive boyfriend because he won't let you smoke weed. 😏 or you ask him why he dissaproves, listen to his arguments, then consider if his arguments are ligit in your eyes. Then deside if it is worth it to risk your relationship.
That's such a terrible idea xD meth is aweful, just do cocaine instead if you want to rebel. Coming down off of meth is legit aweful, plus it's addictive as fuck and messes with brain chemistry.
Yeah i thought i cocaine wasn't hardcore enough 😉
Yeah, but at least you don't feel like shit after a weekend party with cocaine. Gotta say though, meth is fun as hell while you're high.
That's true.. Also true is that people don't understand sarcasm here
Just cut to the chase and get PCP
Yes or she should get some ayuashka to get spiritual inside if her boyfriend is right
Hey to each it’s own if you weren’t smoking before the relationship... now all of sudden you’re smoking well he has a right not to like it or be turned on by you doing it. But you have a right to make your own decisions plus it was one time the question is are you going to continue recreationally? you guys need to have a discussion if this is a dealbreaker honestly or some sort of compromise.
Give it time for him to calm his tits..
It's just weed, unless you have a highly addictive personality then there's no harm in trying weed.
Funny, if you swapped boyfriend for dad that whole thing makes more sense.
Basically everyone tries weed at some point, it's really not considered a big deal. He sounds boring but I doubt he can be annoyed for long about something so trivial
If it was me I'd tell the girl that she is stupid and if she ever did it again we'd never be together ever again. Recreational drugs like that are for morons.
I've known plenty of people in my life that did drugs. Every single one of them started out on weed. Every single one of them said they wouldn't become addicted or try harder stuff. Every single one of them ended up doing worse stuff, most of them meth. It turns people into very untrustworthy POS scumbags. And being high makes them drive worse than a drunk driver. Plus doing drugs can affect any future children you may have later on because it affects your eggs, so even if you quit, the damage is already done. If you end up having kids with mental disabilities blame yourself. They will suffer their whole lives for the choices YOU make now.
Only fellow drug users or people that profit from it will deny the truth of how it affects people.
I'd like for you to say this to every single stupid dope head in the world.
Just do not do that again and tell him you will not do that again, time will make it better.
Just let him cool off. He sounds a bit like my boyfriend (who is 39) he thinks it’s highly unappealing and unladylike for women to get high, and frown upon men that does so as well. I don’t smoke anything at all so I’m in no way affected. He mentioned that he dated women in the past that smoked weed and they all had a body (vaginal) oder about them caused from smoking. So, I guess that alone turned him off to women that get high.
Why do you date old fat man?
Would you?
He is too old. My father literally that age
Yeah for you because you’re like 12, sweetie I am 34 years old he is not too old for me, (also, he is a physical trainer and very fit 😘 we both are very fit) try again. 🙄
Oh I thought you are 18-25
He will come around if he really cares. You shouldn’t have to not smoke because of him though. If he cares you should be accepted as you not pieces nor alterations. I agree nothing wrong with weed. Tobacco, Pills and whatever else I would frown upon but never weed. Him being older should also know how to have a conversation when you do approach him.