It's my birthday and my girlfriend hasn't wished me yet. Is it normal to be annoyed?

[Anonymous]

It's 3AM currently and I still haven't got any wishes from her. I hope she would message/call me at 12am but nothing.

Is it normal to be upset about this? Does it mean anything?

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+1 y

Isn't this a sign of lack of interest? Or am I overreacting?

[sreya]

Of course when we are in a relationship, we hope our partners will do things like " Wishing us at 12 o' clock" , " Giving us small surprises". But don't expect it coz it may end hurting u. It might be she had been busy or she had been asleep. Wait till she calls u or texts u. If she totally forgets it then talk about it to her.

[Asker]

I just saw her online on whatsapp now. I guess I know where I stand.

[Apple1996]

Your freaking out too much about it. Most people wait till the next day not at 12am

[Apple1996]

by the way happy birthday 🎈

[N192K001]

At 3am‽ Is she even awake yet‽

Man, calm down! Wait until it's obviously morning… or the afternoon. At worst (if she was too busy), she'll greet you in the evening, when she probably has gotten a number of her pressing responsibilities with deadlines addressed.

[N192K001]

Or go to bed. (It's 3am, for Pete's sake!) That should take your mind of anticipation.

[Asker]

I just saw her online on whatsapp now. I guess I know where I stand.

[N192K001]

Well, who knows?

Maybe, she has a surprise for you, but will require some time to prepare and/or present? I know it will be tough, but giver her at east 11:59pm, just to be sure. (Don't want to ruin your own birthday-surprise, right?)

[Asker]

Already ruined kind of man. She will wake up in approx 3-4 hours. All I know is that she has exams in 2 days and she might be studying a lot (med student) but honestly there is no excuse for me. It takes literally 10 seconds to wish someone.

If she doesn't wish me she is done for me. Despite the fact that we have been together for a bit more than 4 years.

[N192K001]

Dude, this seems a bit like overreacting. You've been together or 4years, and 1 failed greeting will end everything? Either your perceived importance of a birthday-wish is too great or there are WAY more grievances unmentioned that's leading to this.

Unless it's that, she's studying medicine, which isn't a light subject. My little-sister finished Nursing by forgoing romantic-relations altogether, cutting her social-life & hobbies significantly (even consistently failing to contact or even greet family, when we NEVER fail to do so to each other as per our traditions), and barely sleeping each day. Still, classmates & friends dropped like flies with every semester. If your girlfriend is studying to be a doctor, can you imagine how much harder daily struggles are to be eligible for the next semester?

She has 24hr.'s to greet you. I highly doubt you're a Prime Minister, President, King, or other head-of-state. She knows her schedule. Let her do her studies and/or practice-work in university-affiliated hospitals without losing her train of thought. (Patients' well-beings are on the line.)

[N192K001]

And "Happy Birthday!", by the way.

[N192K001]

Oh, yes. Another reason my sister pursued 0romantic-relations was this: the ups & downs.

Some can bear it more than others, but she’d witnessed even brilliant classmates lose it all due to badly-timed downs (esp. break-ups). So, if you do decide to end it, please (if she & the good times you did have together still mean anything to you) do so at the very beginning of a semester-break, so she has the block of time to recover before the heavy load is placed on her again.

[Asker]

Yeah honestly I put much weight on wishing.. Personally whenever it was her birthday I would wish her right it turned 12:00, so for me it kind of means something. Like, it's very important for you, you don't forget it, and you want to be the first one wishing your SO.

I do understand she is a med student and everything, as I said, however yesterday I checked her whatsapp and I saw ''Online'' status, so that means she was online at night, at like 3am. Couldn't she wish happy birthday that time?

I am not sure if I am overreacting or if you are trying to 'calm me down' a bit, but that's the reason why I posted here anyway. To see what others think.

And cheers for the wishes man, thank you.

[Asker]

I don't want to end it just like that, no. But if she doesn't wish me at all then honestly I will be heavily disappointed and might reconsider our relationship. There are around 12 hours left though and she will wake up in 3 hours or so, so let's see.

Will update you.

[N192K001]

Wow, even at midnight! You are a very conscientious greeter! I see now why you were expecting similar reciprocation, especially given that she was online around that time.

I guess we’ll see what she does, then. She’s successfully conducted herself in a way that you’re still together for 4years now. I doubt she’ll fail to act appropriately now.

Best wishes to you both!

[Asker]

She just wished me now. She said

Hahaha, wish you all the best, again 😂❤️

And then she sent me a GIF saying "You oold" and put a laughing emoji.

[N192K001]

😆

Good to hear, man! 👍

[Asker]

Cheers bro

[Marie132]

Have you considered she might be asleep at that time? If it was 3pm, you would have a reason to be upset but at 3am my boyfriend can shove it and wait till I'm awake before I help him celebrate his birthday

[Asker]

I don't know if she is asleep or not.. but considering she is on holidays (her college starts again on 7) I ASSUME she is not sleeping.

[Marie132]

Just because she is on holiday, she might still be asleep... I know I have been over my break... I think you are overreacting a little, I'm sure she will when she's up :) and happy birthday

[Asker]

Saw her online on whatsapp just now.. I guess I know where I stand.

[Marie132]

I'm really sorry dude, maybe she was just waiting till the morning? :/

[Asker]

Let's see if she wishes when she wakes up.

[Asker]

She will wake up in approx 3-4 hours. All I know is that she has exams in 2 days and she might be studying a lot (med student) but honestly there is no excuse for me. It takes literally 10 seconds to wish someone.

If she doesn't wish me she is done for me. Despite the fact that we have been together for a bit more than 4 years.

[Anonymous]

yeah it means you are crazy 🤪 😂

[Opinion Owner]

it is a sign of stay awake at night reveals crazy behavior😂

[Opinion Owner]

you must gp to bed sweetie 😘🤣

[Opinion Owner]

hilarious

[Anonymous]

Did she wish u happy bday?