What if she doesn't wish me a Happy Birthday?

[Anonymous]

I've liked the girl for almost a year, and some of my friends think she likes me back. We are friends on fb, and I gave her a b day message when it was hers. When mine rolls around soon, if she doesn't say anything is it bad? She didn't say anything to some of my friends but she never talked to them, whereas I've talked to her once. She knows I like her, so I was wondering if she didn't it would mean she doesn't like me and doesn't want me to get the wrong idea? She would always look at me in the halls and stuff like that and she's really shy so I don't know. She also hasn't been on a lot lately, but she does usually go on at least once a day that I notice.

If she doesn't, she I still ask her to a movie or dinner? I really like her.

Thanks in advance.

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Don't be so clingy. Girls don't like guys who obsess over every single thing they do-- trying to create meaning out of nothing. If she doesn't wish you happy birthday it doesn't mean anything. She could've not been on, she could've not noticed it was your birthday (believe me, I've missed a lot even though it was in my facebook events), she could've been too tired to bother and etc..

Don't make assumptions. They'll just make you more insecure and thus less noticeable.

Anyways. Why don't you take advantage of your birthday, and tell her "Hey, since you didn't get me a gift for my birthday want to at least go to the movies with me ;)" or something to that extent...

Don't worry so much! Just relax. The world keeps spinning, you can feel it under your feet. It won't stop now. So just ask her. If she says no, so what? Do you really think asking is going to completely change her mind about you? No. If you're persistently kind and respectful to her, she'll slowly begin to like you more. But you can't be persistently nice by hiding in the shade when she's around. Make yourself noticed.

Good luck man.

[oceanavenue]

First of all, it's just a birthday wall-post remember that.

But if she doesn't end up writing one, it could be because

- she hasn't been on facebook

- she isn't the type to write happy birthdays on peoples walls

- she feels as if she doesn't know you well enough

If she ends up writing one, good job.

maybe you can try to get to know her more.

[greeneyedgirl92]

hhaah no worries, chances are she'll write happy birthdayy...and if she doesn't, it's okay. When I used to like this kid and he didn't write happy birthday on my wall, it didn't mean anything. He was just sickk...and still talked to me after, so don't stress:)