How do you react when someone doesn’t wish you a happy birthday?

[Anonymous]

A cousin of mine who we both have each other on social media last year didn’t say happy birthday to me even though she watched my birthday stories. But put heart eyes on my post clearly captioned ‘birthday girl’. On top of that, a girl we both grew up with but have had issues with in the past (both myself and my cousin), she posted her on her birthday which was a few days after mine. It’s always been good vibes with my cousin so I did feel betrayed honestly. I don’t know if she forgot to say it or thought she said it but at the end of the day I didn’t receive a happy birthday. Her birthday is coming up and I thought why should I wish her a happy birthday when she clearly didn’t say anything to me. Is that the right thing to do?

[iiinsOMNIA]

I don't know, it's not really the birthday itself that upsets me when people forget, but the fact that wishing a happy birthday is so small and costs nothing, y'know? For example, my friend of four years didn't wish me happy birthday, and while it's not a big deal, it's still kind of upsetting because it's literally the bare minimum. I'm not asking for a gift or a card, just a text or something. But I didn't say anything. Fast forward a few months and I was talking about my permit test that I had been a little nervous for. She says, "Don't you have like a whole year to worry about that, though?" I told her, "No, I'm taking it tomorrow."
"Don't you have to be fifteen?"
"I am fifteen, my birthday was in January."
I don't know. I knew she never really cared much about me. We were only friends because I felt bad that she had none. It was a toxic friendship in general. She always talked about wanting to kill people at school and encourages me to do s/h. We're not friends anymore.

Sorry that turned into a whole rant, I hope I answered your question 😂

[Anonymous]

It's understandable to feel hurt or disappointed if someone doesn't wish you a happy birthday, especially if you have a close relationship with them. However, it's important to remember that people have different ways of expressing themselves and showing affection, and it's possible that your cousin simply forgot or didn't realize the importance of wishing you a happy birthday.

That being said, if you feel hurt or upset by her actions, it's okay to express that to her in a calm and respectful way. You could try reaching out to her and saying something like, "Hey, I noticed that you didn't wish me a happy birthday last year, and it made me feel a little hurt. I know it's not a big deal, but it would mean a lot to me if you could remember to wish me a happy birthday this year."

As for whether or not you should wish her a happy birthday, that's ultimately up to you. If you feel like you want to maintain a positive relationship with her, it might be a good idea to wish her a happy birthday and try to move past the incident from last year. However, if you feel like her actions were hurtful and you're not ready to forgive her, it's okay to take a step back and not wish her a happy birthday. Just make sure that whatever you choose to do, you're doing it for yourself and not out of a sense of obligation or resentment.

[BrendanAy]

If it's your cousin not saying happy birthday to you, then I wouldn't take it so seriously. I mean how many of MY cousins say happy birthday to me? However if your boyfriend didn't say happy birthday to you, then it probably means he doesn't care about you or does not know when your birthday actually is.

[art84]

I have nieces who wouldn't say happy birthday to me. Doesn't really bother me as only my nephew and brother and parents know about my birthday.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

No one cares about your birthday but you

[Jazzy54]

Do you guys usually have a good relationship?

[Blues36]

maybe your cousin forgot