Have you ever cried on an SO's chest before?

[Jjpayne]

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"Women normally don't tolerate men crying very well."

[Anonymous]

Yeah it was only once though. I don’t remember what it was but I think it was due to a horrible family gathering where the one person who no one wanted there started throwing unwanted tantrums. This was my ex’s first time seeing these really cool people and it was ruined by that one person. That same person instantly just started belittling me saying how much of a horrible boyfriend I am to her for no fucking reason.

That was a meeting (thanksgiving I think) that we planned on for months and it was a super far ways away.

[SirRexington]

I cried in my friends chest when we kissed because it was a very emotional experience for me.

She did not think less of me (thank God) and thought it was inspiring and sweet to see me reveal my weakness in that way. We are still great friends and would be dating if we were not living hours apart.

[smalls95]

We both have. We have been together for four years. It’s bound to happen. When we started dating I was still grieving my fathers death. It would hit me every now and then. He’s had other things that I have comforted him with. If you can’t be emotionally vulnerable with your partner I think that’s a huge red flag.

[Anonymous]

Yes I absolutely have. For a very legit reason.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s not true at all. My boyfriend never cries and lost it once because we had seen something that was very personal and memorable for him. He cried and cried and I was glad I was right there for him.

[madgoat]

I would suggest that you found that a memorable moment because you understood the reasons behind it and he never normally cries.
The poster did use 'normally', indicating his view that if a guy cries often, women generally don't respect it.

[meesegoMoo]

@madgoat I know I sure don't respect myself when I've cried in the past. When i lost my memories of my great-grandma in a car wreck, and realized I didn't remember most of a 3 year period at her funeral a month later I cried. I hope to not do so again unless I'm praying. Not counting prayer it's only been 4 years since I cried, fewer things feel more shameful.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yes, I have. Also drooled on someone's chest once too in my sleep 😂😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Not true for me. I think it's more manly to show emotion, than to pretend not to have any. I don't mean cry if you drop your hotdog lol but if you lose a spouse, child, parent, friend shouldn't cry if you're a man? That's pure bull. We all have emotion, were all have the right to let them out. My SO could cry, I wouldn't think less of him, Is think more, and I'd do all I could to console him

[meesegoMoo]

So you don't think men should be calm in order to comfort everybody else when something terrible happens? Also is it weird if a man doesn't feel that much emotionally?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@meesegoMoo
There's a time to be strong and a time to cry. I didn't cry during my husband's funeral except St the cemetery. I had to be strong and there for my kids. But days later, alone, I had my emotional time.
And some men were conditioned to believe that showing emotion was weak. I think everyone has emotions. Just some people think to show them makes you weak. If you cry, you're a crybaby, or a wuss.
My husband rarely snowed emotions. But he had them

[meesegoMoo]

I didn't have many for a long time. I was mostly wondering if women are usually fine with a dude who doesn't experience emotion normally. I truly hadn't felt many of them until the last few years, it's a very strange perspective I've been given.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@meesegoMoo
We're all human therefore we all have emotions.

[SydneySentinel]

Yes, I have. A very long time ago.

[DanaeAdam5]

Yes I have, my bffs chest. Lol when I cry I want too be left alone. But he came in my room and saw me. That was the most amazing hug i have ever received, Rinz baby thanks for being there for me, and letting me ruin ur T-shirt with mascara. ♥️♥️

[dthomas89]

Male best friend? Who isn't "romantically" trying to pursue you. He's gay!

[DanaeAdam5]

Nope trust me his totally straight 😂

[roland77]

@dthomas89 Nope!

[dthomas89]

Yes, he's gay

[DanaeAdam5]

... nope he ain't 😂 also who said that he isn't trying too pursue me sexually?😂

[dthomas89]

EXACTLY. he's GAY

[DanaeAdam5]

... u dont even know him and u assume his gay?😂

[roland77]

@dthomas89 Maybe you are gay or an emotionless robot?

[Unit1]

Not exactly. But shortly afterwards she ghosted on me anyway and found a rich sugar daddy in another bigger city. As a result I blocked her for lying to me permanently and noted to myself "a little something or two".

"Women normally don't tolerate men crying very well."
i really hate to confirm this. For boys it's one thing (during school for example). But being an adult man a very lot is at stake. I don't expect to be understood by women at first when i say so.🤔

[Hurlyburly]

Only on my bestfriends chest, once. Normally I want to left alone when I'm crying and she's pretty much the only exception.
My boyfriend cried on my chest years ago and if anything it only made us closer together.

[roland77]

Awww, I hope I cry one day on my girlfriend's chest/breasts. :-)

[CubsterShura]

No. I want to, but I better not. I'd be hella embarrassed and I hate the idea of being some little fragile weakling to him.

[roland77]

Why do people think they are weak when they cry? Crying is an expression of an emotion. I will always allow my girlfriend to cry in my arms.

[CubsterShura]

It's still pretty awkward.

[roland77]

To much translations: https://m.dict.cc/deen/?s=awkward Maybe you mean one of these? m.dict.cc/deutsch-englisch/unbehaglich.html Then that is understandable, just open up to your boyfriend, it is okay to feel vulnerable.

[CubsterShura]

Nah it kinda feels like I'm the weak whiny one in the relationship. I hate that.

[roland77]

Everybody can feel weak, it is okay.

[CubsterShura]

I get that, but I also feel like that's no excuse to completely break down.

[LunarCelestial]

Nope, not on their chest. I have in front of them a long time ago.

[JackSmy]

No, but many female friends, and loves, have cried on me!

[Anonymous]

Nope I did break down in front of a guy one time who was a friend but he never comforted me or asked me if I was okay

[KrakenAttackin]

Why do you think that is? Was this at a place of employment?

[Opinion Owner]

@KrakenAttackin nah it was in private I was just emotional that day I was going through at lot at the time I can’t really answer why he responded the way he did because his best friend who is like an older sister to him if she were to ever break down he would let her cry on his chest and shoulder

[KrakenAttackin]

He may have thought inviting you to cry on his shoulder would be seen by you as an inappropriate advance, or otherwise him trying to "take advantage" of your feelings.

Men are starting to learn, if we are not 100% how a woman will respond, keep your hands to yourself.

[JHNS98]

Haven't cried in years, also never had a girlfriend. But that might change soon.

[roland77]

Sadly not yet, I would love to cry and be hugged like him on picture.

[Pix3l]

Yeah, I try to cry in private, but if he's there it's nice.

[Pix3l]

Update: Kinda me... I hate crying myself and I suck at comforting others when they cry. It's always made me uncomfortable.

[MackToday]

Nope I can't seem to even cry, haven't been able to since I was a kid at least not outwardly.

[Lliam]

I pretended to cry so that she would comfort me by cradling my head between her ample bosoms and rock back and forth.
Not really. That was a joke.

[NorthwestRider]

Yes I have on my fiancée chest

I am more emotional than she is

[Firefly7889]

I would never cry on my woman's chest she barely see a tear. She cry on my chest though. She's always telling me let it out cry you'll feel better. I don't get that

[BasicBad]

Once I was so sad I cried on a guys balls and used guns Dick to wipe my tears

[roland77]

Also a way to dry your tears. ;-)

[Apple1996]

Yess many times

[Apple1996]

It doesn't bother me when my guy crys. It's nice when he is able to show his emotions

[KrakenAttackin]

This tells me you are not serious about this guy.

[ChiTown33]

🤣🤣🤣

[Apple1996]

@KrakenAttackin I've been with him for almost 7 years so pretty serious

[meesegoMoo]

Congrats. 7 years is getting into marriage material territory.

[Apple1996]

@meesegoMoo weve been married for 4 of the 7

[meesegoMoo]

Nice that you had that so young. Many don't.

[Apple1996]

@meesegoMoo yess so true

[KrakenAttackin]

Women normally don't tolerate men crying very well.

[roland77]

$ sed 's/Woman/Feminazis/' ;-)

[roland77]

Dang! y, not s.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes , when i had my first ex-girlfriend i cried