Have you ever met an opposite sex friend without telling your partner?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I don't see why I should tell my fiancée who I went out with today, she'd get jealous anyway and fill me with questions and "jokes". She'd do the same if the friend was a guy.
What about you?

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+1 y

I told her, and not telling her would have been the same.
She already knew since she read it on my phone and is actually okay with it. She joked that I probably "do worse things" when I'm not with her, and I didn't even bother to contradict her or make her notice I never did anything.

[Porcelaine]

Keeping secrets is a mistake, even such small ones, they will grow. If there is nothing going on with the friend then you should tell her. If she finds out and then realizes you had kept this from her, it's the fact that you're hiding it that's gonna make it look sneaky and suspicious and make her even more paranoid. Just make it clear to her that you are not going to cut old friends from your life, male or female, she will get used to it. Unless this is a new friend in which case you should tell her immediately, it should not be a big deal in a healthy relationship. Coming home, talking about your days, pouring it out honestly should feel such a relief, when you start keeping things from eachother you will be putting distance between you two and start growing apart.

[Apple1996]

Nah definitely not I always tell him who I'm hanging out with

[OlderAndWiser]

Anytime that you do something which you hide from your partner, you are sailing in dangerous waters!

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I don't hide it, I just don't talk with her

[OlderAndWiser]

I have the impression that this relationship is falling apart.

[PrimalInstinct]

@OlderAndWiser - have you read half of Jean's questions on GAG? It wasn't a healthy relationship to start with & it'd be far wiser if both went their own separate ways. She's a paranoid fruitloop whose behavior to me says she's cheating & blaming him by deflecting and constantly accusing him. And he's just gonna be miserable.

[Avicenna]

No, no way would I do that.

[Avicenna]

Thanks for the MHO

[CubsterShura]

If you're married or even engaged I think it's better that your partner is aware what you are up to. It's definitely okay to hang out with the opposite gender. My only requirement would be that I'll know about it and I'll also let him know when I do the same.

[AzureGirl]

Eh, i tell my fiancé for no other reason than to tell him random stuff about my day because I like to. We both like to encourage each other to hang out with friends regardless of gender so it’s not like he would care if I was hanging out with a guy friend or vise versa.

[R_ūshī]

Nah but he wouldn't mind if I did meet a guy friend without telling him.

1 ) he trusts me.
2 ) he's just my boyfriend, nothing more. He should stay within his limits.

[honeyy17]

Honesty is always the best. If you hide it and she finds out later, it'll be way worse. Plus, if it was completely innocent, you shouldn't have anything to worry about

[MannMitAntworten]

I do not feel obligated to tell her... however, we share everything so I do so because I ‘want to’ share with her and she does the same with me. I feel there is a difference between feeing obligated and just wanting too. I just want too, so I do. I probably won’t be so open if I felt obligated. I imagine she would feel just as constrained if I made her ‘report in’ too me as well. There is a freedom in we have in our relationship that is really quite liberating. Anyway, just my perspective.

[Usernamesrdumb]

Yes. Called trust. Also as men and women become more equal in the world, that friend thats a girl, just becomes another dude or androgynous being. Much like the women at work or the gym. Learned women dont want us pursuing at either place, so then i treat you as if you were a dude. Do I tell my girlfriend when i have drinks with the guys or go lift with the guys? Nope. Why now?

[johnnyugo]

My wife and I have always been best friends since we first met, I have never kept anything from her and I absolutely believe she has done the same, we both have friends of the opposite sex and can hang with whom ever we choose, honesty and trust are the answer

[lightbulb27]

Bad bad move. When you tell her... id do so after serious makeup session to reassure her. Seemsr you want to self destruct

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I won't tell her, it's not her business

[lightbulb27]

wow... this girlis something else I'm not familiar with. already read off phone and is ok with it? maybe she knows the girl and isn't threatened, but dang, her response does not fit what I'm familiar with. She is way too confident... I don't get it.

I have a very large bag of popcorn... sitting back watching this show...

[spuitkaas]

I mean if he asks I would tell or just asks what I am doing that day. It's not a secret, but I'm not going to heads up if I'm meeting with someone.

[Justacatlady]

Of I’m with someone, I trust them and they trust me. So yes I’d tell them I was going out with a friend. No matter the gender

[Account]

Never. I have always told them. If I felt the need to keep that information from them, then something would be very wrong.

[arabgoddess]

I don't think you even should have her as your fiancee.. I'm seeing tooo many red 🚩

[Anonymous]

Yes sure, why should I tell my boyfriend with whom I meet? They are my friends not his.

[WhiteShoulder]

It's happened. Not my current partner though.

[frank27]

If the same thing will happen with you than what you going to do?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I don't care what she does, I don't ask and I don't give a damn anymore.

[Porcelaine]

doesn't the fact you don't care anymore bother you? either try to work it out or end it, there is no need to dwell in the dysfunctional middle ground and put you both through useless pain.

[OddBeMe]

No we’re pretty open and trustworthy. If you’re not, you may have issues in the relationship

[Plitty-Tank]

I usually don't tell others when I am with friends.

[billluc69]

nope, we always talk about it and then the three of us hang out together

[worldscolide]

No, I never lie to my wife.

[COMMODOREII]

Im not sure why you are hiding

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Because it's not her business

[COMMODOREII]

I don't see why i would hide my arrangements from SO. I expect her to trust me and my friends and if she asks I wouldn't lie. I will even mention to her that I will be meeting my friend for coffee or lunch. She shouldn't be treated disrespectfully like that. You act that way you start jealousy and suspicion of cheating. It's like you are trying to get out of the marriage before it happens.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Well, we already postponed the marriage and I asked for a period of separation to be honest

[COMMODOREII]

Wow that sucks.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Yep, but she doesn't agree so we still have to go through with it.