With the first one, it was when I found out that he had been emotionally cheating on me with my friend. He decided to text me about it and I called him and ripped him a new asshole over the phone. I don't even remember what I said because I was so pissed, and I had tears rolling down my face. He kept trying to defend himself and then retorted with some really stupid insults.
With the second one, it started over a situation that happened in which I nearly called the cops because a child was in danger (don't want to give out too many details in cases someone I know reads this). The situation resolved itself right as I was beginning to call, and when he and his friends met me at the location I was at with my friends to go somewhere, he started calling me stupid, saying I overreact to everything and don't know shit about anything, etc. This was not the first time he insulted me in front of his friends to impress them, so I lost my temper and told him to shut the fuck up and never talk to me that way again. This really bruised his ego and he threw a baby tantrum for a few days, then trying to manipulate and turn things around to make me the bad guy. I wasn't having it and he didn't like it. I was trying to talk things out like an adult and all I wanted was to communicate each other's feelings and to know that he wouldn't try to publicly humiliate me anymore, and he kept bringing up long resolved conflicts from months or even over a year prior to keep score of everything I'd ever done wrong rather than just saying "I'm sorry, I won't do it again." This argument eventually spiraled into him accusing me of cheating on him with my male best friend, and then when I brought up his female friend and how I never accused him of cheating with her, he became incredibly defensive. He also told me that I "needed to watch out because his ex wanted him back". I told him to go get her then, lmfao.
He was trying to convince me to not leave the country. He has been sad about that since we met for the first time but that night, his attitude had changed drastically within hours. He went from kind loving boyfriend to a complete douchebag. I felt hurt and not understood. So I confronted him.
I straight up told him that I will not tolerate this kind of behaviour, that it hurts me and I just can't deal with it. He said that that's how he'll be as of that night. So I said "Then it's best if we leave things here. This behaviour is too toxic for me. It triggers my bad habits I've been trying to quit. I can't stay with someone who treats me like this."
He cried a lot and only then let everything out. We talked and eventually reached to... umm I'd like to call it an agreement but it's really more of a compromise. Neither of us want that but it's what's best for both of us. But yeah after that discussion he quit being a dick and went back to being the guy with who won me over in just a day.
Sometimes it's good to fight. It helps you let every bottled up emotion out; it clears your mind so you can see things better and eventually find a solution. I hope that that's how it goes for you. Bon courage 💕
Interesting examples. Here's mine.
1997 (I think). Blind date with a girl, only together three months. But what attracted me to her was her voice. I couldn't get enough of talking to her on the phone and we did have a few things in common that we talked about.
Over time, she would trigger arguments. She would say things or get upset over petty things. One such thing was her hair.
I told her specifically when we met that I enjoyed long hair on women, always have, always do. Some women look okay with short hair, but I would rather have long hair if I'm dating them, even now.
One day she asks me if it's okay for her to cut her hair. I said, quote, "it's your hair, and your decision."
"Why can't you just tell me what you think? I care what you think. Should I cut it or not?"
"I can't answer what you SHOULD do, because it's not my hair."
"But would you like it if it were short?"
"It doesn't matter whether I would or not, I'd have to accept it if you made that decision."
"JUST TELL ME WHETHER YOU WOULD LIKE IT OR NOT!!"
"... once again, I told you I prefer long, but it's your call."
Oh boy.
What followed was a 30-minute argument, complete with her crying, about how I didn't care about her feelings, I wouldn't love her for looking different, I'm not respecting this and that, etc.
I'm only attracted to the intelligent ones and they tend to be very hard headed. My girl and I almost threw in the towel recently over her thinking that she has some kind of a right to tell me who I can see and what I can do.
I read her the riot act and told her point blank that I am the boss of everything and while you are my # 1 confidant, I am your king and will accept nothing less than 100% loyalty.
Weirdly, she backed down, apologized, and it seemed she was even happy that I acted that way.
I'm not doing anything to hurt her. I love her and want her happiness, but until she is smarter than me, I can not allow her to run any aspect of my life.
The smarter she becomes, the more I'll be inclined to give her.
In other words, if I give you a thousand bucks and you are back next week for another "G", you are beginning to look like a bad investment, but on the other hand if you bring me back 10 grand, you are beginning to look like a good investment.
I don't think most women understand these principles.
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Oh no y'all would be scared to know about all the bad fights me and my husband have had. Worst is when they happen in public and we end up screaming and cussing at eachother. That for real is embarrassing
The worst argument I had with my partner and honestly every partner is when I tell them that they are fully accountable for what they say and how they say it. I always get hit with the " it's just how I talk. It's just how I am " I feel like people get into relationships and are used to acting toxic ( bc of social media relationships) and they start talking out their ass most of the time not caring about how they are affecting their partners. I now find it easier to come across an argument and settling it as best as we could then and there because an argument that hasn't been settled will always be brought up in the next argument until they pile up and ultimately lead to a break up.
I'll just say that love between man and women is an amazing thing. How we are designed is... perfectly amazing. And there is "God" and God is working... God will grind marble to fine powder if that is what it takes... some art works take time to refine...
My last girlfriend got pissed at me. My chain of command decided last minute to change my work schedule. I was working in a clinic where I had fairly typical day hours. They told me that, starting the next day, I would be working night shifts and doing a lot of field training. The NCO I was paired with was female. My girlfriend accused me of cheating, which really pissed me off. This argument was one of 3 that caused the end of our relationship.
Same argument over and over. He's emotionally distant ( no I love yous, or I miss yous, or you're beautifuls or any sweet texts or calls anymore, were long distance ), and doesn't give me the time I deserve. We're up in the air rn he's taking space, probably gonna break up but yea that was it, him not making enough of an effort
My partner and I would argue about boundaries and respect when we first began dating; for the longest time, it just wouldn't get through to him. The last straw was when I told him that if I ever caught him doing "that shit again" then we'd be completely finished. Relationship would end.
What do ya know, though? The fucker did it again and had me going like he wasn't. That's when I lost my shit, honestly... it was hurtful knowing he was willing to sacrifice our relationship for the one thing I asked him to stop doing so I just snapped.
I can't remember exactly what was said or done between each other during the heat of the argument, but I was scary pissed.
Not exactly an argument but I did piss him off... We had plans for the evening and I went to the hairdresser and got stuck there till after the event started and he was pissed.
As for arguments... I had one with an ex because he wanted me to organise him a birthday party and I didn't think he deserved one and with the other ex because he thought a certain style of jacket was nice and I thought it was hideous.
It was a long time ago, but basically I was frustrated cause she was controlling and gave me no time to do anything but talk to her all day every day, and yet she still kept saying I never talked to her, so we started arguing and I ended up breaking up with her (Tried a few times before) until she guilted me into getting back with her using suicide threats which I was too young to understand was manipulation. Glad my friends held on and got it through my head what was actually going on.
As your friend I will tell you this. Everybody has arguments and disagreements, but when it comes to grabbing each other hitting each other. It has gone way too far and is unhealthy in a relationship, especially if there are children involved. Children don't need to see that or hear it. Because you're only showing them that's how to deal with things, and that's not how we deal with things. We need to calmly evaluate our arguments and calmly talk about them.
The worst argument was when we were holidaying in China and we argued till 4am in the morning!
Because he was accusing me of leading a guy. Which was 100% not true because that guy was being a sleaze to me and I think my husband just felt insecure
I almost had a serious relationship. We literally never had one single argument. However, she passed away...
We argued about our boundaries and what will or will not be tolerated. It was about two hours of arguing.
Communication is key. It sucks that you had to go through all of that.
In our 4 years of relationship, we had an argument only once. It was a small issue. And we sorted out it in no time.
She was drunk she made me have an argument with her, with the intention to make me hatefuck her. She's weird when she's drunk.
Yea me and my girlfriend were fighting over money and then one thing led to another and two seconds later my big toe was in her vag and she was screaming like a gorilla to shit in her mouth. And like the man I am I knew I had to do it. Ya know guy stuff. Then I had to flip her like a krabby patty and put one inch shrimp in her cocktail sauce if you know what I mean
over no discussion of prior relationship especially sex performance comparisons
It had to do with her using all our money to feed her drug addiction.
I left the toilet seat up 🤷♂️ in the year and something we been toghter we never really had a fight
It was simiple misunderstanding once we calmed down and explained everything we were good again
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