Your boyfriend likely IS oblivious to your need for assurance, and he’s not picking up on your hints, which is on you. Also, if i can reassure you: he’s not doing it on purpose and he’s not stupid.
You have a part in this... it’s your job to let him know what you need.
I recommend you acknowledge he can’t read your mind and he doesn’t know what you need when you’re upset... does she need to be sung to or listened to right now? So, you’ll have to do your part to let him know, “I’m feeling anxious, will you just listen?” And you have to ask with the understanding that if he’s not available when you need him (like when he’s sleeping) that you will soothe yourself or find another friend to help give you what you need.
But first, sometime when you’re NOT having anxiety, tell him that when you ARE feeling anxiety what he does that’s been helpful to calm you down is when he tells you why he loves you, sings to you, or he’s just simply there to listen. And then ask him if he’s willing to do that for you next time you do get anxious. Don’t be surprised if he needs something from you to be able to do that for you.
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All you can do is express your wants and needs... And place healthy boundaries... If that doesn't work then I recommend therapy... If everything has failed, it's time to consider moving on. 💖
This isn't criticism, but you need to keep in mind that you are pretty needy when it comes to wanting attention.
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You require a lot of attention. Back it down take medication
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