The sex is way better because y’all know what each other’s likes and dislikes are, your safe and std free, and if your in love it’s just that more meaningful. After you’ve had that and you have sex with someone new it kinda sucks, it’s still fun, and awesome to get a girl naked and play around, but I prefer to actually know the girls I sleep with
Between Russian roulette of HIV, syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and loads of other things - not all prevented by condoms, including Covid-19 - or a safe, committed, deep connection with another human being you can trust with every part of your life and who trusts you with every part of theirs, which would you choose.
Death or Life?
You get that "how dumb can you be" is rhetorical, not a challenge, right?
Hookups. Not because I dislike relationships, but biology. Brother's been mostly in LTR & prefers them. I love variety too much, don't feel I could commit to one girl w/o legitimately wanting others & won't put a girl through a relationship with me unless I know I can be fully committed & make her my one priority in romance.
Given your age, I think you are going to find in a few years that the pool of women is getting a bit muddy, the young ones will see you as too old, many hot ones will be in committed relationships, the ones available will have kids crimping the style and they are losing that fresh look. It gets harder from there and then you are in your 50s.
@Jersey2 not saying it won't, but I don't hold anyone to expectations. Never was like "if you don't want to sleep with me get out", just try to have fun in whatever I'm doing. If one woman doesn't want sex, another will, either way I still maintain relationships not built on need/dependency to use people for satisfaction/throw them out if they don't supply.
Never feared getting older, always looked at it as a stage of life, another might come along later where I settle down, if not that's fine too, not really depend outside to be happy, just learn from experiences & take what comes, but agree, and expect, growing older experiences will change, won't be worse necessarily, but different, and will carry diverse experiences into whatever comes next.
It takes so much commitment and you instantly have responsibilities and loads of strings to pull you back from building your career and doing what you love
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What's the point in wasting my good time on a pointless hook up? I have so many other better things to be doing.
Hookups give experience of variety... like visiting one country vs. many, doesn't mean you don't appreciate/value it, but want to have the broad awareness that come in having had many wide ranges of experiences & people; individual preference.
Exactly. To conceptualize something never experienced directly can largely only be assumption, like you can assume what another thinks, or how you'd react in a situation empathetically, but being in the situation can create an entirely different awareness than what's expected.
I don't engage in empty, shallow sex. Often relationships are categorized; food, beach, sex (everything is "relationships" (platonic or otherwise) while "sex" is its own separate topic. For me it's be friends, hang out, have fun - sex is another activity among many.
I consider social media, which I once used for years, largely, in common use, meaningless, but many will argue "it's fun" or "it passes time", while I see far fewer saying "I could study philosophy, art, and history rather than be on social media (even texting to a large degree" if replacement of empty, shallow action with substance is the goal... yet many I share this perspective with have little interest to ditch Snapchat, or texting, for face-to-face interaction, or to study languages, art, philosophy, etc.
OR people could actually feel different about it. I think I'll stick with the truth on this one, I don't need to try and delude myself or anyone else. I know what works for me and what doesn't. That's simply all there is to it.
I sure wish you would of added a "none of the above" option. relationships are not just meaningless today but a total waste of time, money and energy.
of course I dont want hookups either because as a guy you still have to do the most labor and the one who obviously suffers all of the consequences if it goes down south
For me... hookups but with only one person. I have been in relationships where I have messed up and put myself in positions where I am digging myself out of it. I want to be in the best position to date and give my full attention. I do want to slowly build up to a relationship but I mean... slowly. that's just me though.
I'm not sure how to say this without sounding like your dad. I love the idea of being committed to my true love. I have been in love twice in my life and thought it would last forever. Nobody told me that it requires a lot of effort and work. But in my older years I find the company of a intelligent beautiful woman that's spontaneous at any given moment is more my style
I prefer committed relationships. I want a partner I could spend the rest of my life with. Not someone who only wants sex. Sex is nice but it's not the only thing in a relationship.
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The sex is way better because y’all know what each other’s likes and dislikes are, your safe and std free, and if your in love it’s just that more meaningful. After you’ve had that and you have sex with someone new it kinda sucks, it’s still fun, and awesome to get a girl naked and play around, but I prefer to actually know the girls I sleep with
Between Russian roulette of HIV, syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and loads of other things - not all prevented by condoms, including Covid-19 - or a safe, committed, deep connection with another human being you can trust with every part of your life and who trusts you with every part of theirs, which would you choose.
Death or Life?
You get that "how dumb can you be" is rhetorical, not a challenge, right?
Hookups. Not because I dislike relationships, but biology. Brother's been mostly in LTR & prefers them. I love variety too much, don't feel I could commit to one girl w/o legitimately wanting others & won't put a girl through a relationship with me unless I know I can be fully committed & make her my one priority in romance.
Given your age, I think you are going to find in a few years that the pool of women is getting a bit muddy, the young ones will see you as too old, many hot ones will be in committed relationships, the ones available will have kids crimping the style and they are losing that fresh look. It gets harder from there and then you are in your 50s.
@Jersey2 not saying it won't, but I don't hold anyone to expectations. Never was like "if you don't want to sleep with me get out", just try to have fun in whatever I'm doing. If one woman doesn't want sex, another will, either way I still maintain relationships not built on need/dependency to use people for satisfaction/throw them out if they don't supply.
Never feared getting older, always looked at it as a stage of life, another might come along later where I settle down, if not that's fine too, not really depend outside to be happy, just learn from experiences & take what comes, but agree, and expect, growing older experiences will change, won't be worse necessarily, but different, and will carry diverse experiences into whatever comes next.
That's basically my mindset/approach toward life.
Good attitude
@Jersey2 best wishes for your 104th birthday by the way
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It takes so much commitment and you instantly have responsibilities and loads of strings to pull you back from building your career and doing what you love
What's the point in wasting my good time on a pointless hook up? I have so many other better things to be doing.
Hookups give experience of variety... like visiting one country vs. many, doesn't mean you don't appreciate/value it, but want to have the broad awareness that come in having had many wide ranges of experiences & people; individual preference.
@chris0977 what benefit does that create though? I can't really see how I'm missing anything by not engaging in the variety of empty and shallow sex.
Exactly. To conceptualize something never experienced directly can largely only be assumption, like you can assume what another thinks, or how you'd react in a situation empathetically, but being in the situation can create an entirely different awareness than what's expected.
I don't engage in empty, shallow sex. Often relationships are categorized; food, beach, sex (everything is "relationships" (platonic or otherwise) while "sex" is its own separate topic. For me it's be friends, hang out, have fun - sex is another activity among many.
I consider social media, which I once used for years, largely, in common use, meaningless, but many will argue "it's fun" or "it passes time", while I see far fewer saying "I could study philosophy, art, and history rather than be on social media (even texting to a large degree" if replacement of empty, shallow action with substance is the goal... yet many I share this perspective with have little interest to ditch Snapchat, or texting, for face-to-face interaction, or to study languages, art, philosophy, etc.
OR people could actually feel different about it. I think I'll stick with the truth on this one, I don't need to try and delude myself or anyone else. I know what works for me and what doesn't. That's simply all there is to it.
@chris0977 That's such a lie, like who cares. If I had that type of experience, I would try to forget them.
I don’t do hookups because that’s cheap and no reason to have sex with a stranger.
I sure wish you would of added a "none of the above" option. relationships are not just meaningless today but a total waste of time, money and energy.
of course I dont want hookups either because as a guy you still have to do the most labor and the one who obviously suffers all of the consequences if it goes down south
I'm not into hook ups. I want a committed relationship. I want something serious.
Committed feels better but hook ups are more fun and pay better.
Lol... pay better.
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For me... hookups but with only one person. I have been in relationships where I have messed up and put myself in positions where I am digging myself out of it. I want to be in the best position to date and give my full attention. I do want to slowly build up to a relationship but I mean... slowly. that's just me though.
Committed is better, but only if both parties are truly committed , if not then it just as well be hookups only!
I was into random hookups before I was 21, but now I prefer commitment. Hookups are empty experiences.
I'm not sure how to say this without sounding like your dad. I love the idea of being committed to my true love. I have been in love twice in my life and thought it would last forever. Nobody told me that it requires a lot of effort and work. But in my older years I find the company of a intelligent beautiful woman that's spontaneous at any given moment is more my style
I like a committed relationship from someone who wouldn't develop a cold feet on the long run.
I prefer committed relationships. I want a partner I could spend the rest of my life with. Not someone who only wants sex. Sex is nice but it's not the only thing in a relationship.
committed relationship because am monogamous and wanna settle and just dont have the mentality or energy for the other options
Relationships are much harder but at the same time are easier. They take lots of work but you also have someone who loves and cares for you.
Committed relationships. Because I wanted a family, which I have now. I wouldn't change anything.
I’ve done both and a committed relationship is better in every way.
I wouldn't cheapen myself with hookups.