Do you prefer HOOK UPs or finding a RELATIONSHIP?

[coachTanthony]

Hook Up

Relationship

Other ( maybe let me explain in the comments )

See poll ( hook me up with some snacks Coach )

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

I used to be all about having a relationship but I am too old now. I have been in plenty of relationships and a few have come close to marriage but never crossed the line.

After each relationship I would say I was done and I was until I found someone I wasn't looking for. I would get into another relationship and feel like I was in bliss. It would go on for years. Then end. Then I swore no more and still couldn't stick with it.

Now it is different because I love being single. I have been single for over 4 years and loving it. I don't have to compromise my time to do anything expect when it comes to my kids. I always have time for them. But, I don't have to bother with certain holidays. I don't have to call anyone if I am running late from work or if I decide to go out after work. I can come and go as I please to hang out with anyone that I want for as long as I want. If I meet someone new I can go hangout with them and not worry about being in a relationship. I have the bed to myself unless company is over which is pretty much never because I don't bring strangers around my kids. I don't have to be a burden to anybody. If I can't sleep I can lie in bed all night, watch TV or game without worrying about disturbing anybody. When I get up to shower I don't have to wait on anyone. Costs go down because I am spending for one and not two.

Being single is not for everyone but I think I have more pros for being single than I do for being in a relationship.

[HiveBee]

A relationship. But if I dont have the ability to have hook ups, I think that means I reduce my chances of the best relationship possible.

If I can't get a girl to hook up with me, why would my dream woman want me? Because she doesn't value hooking up and so she's my dream woman?

I think the guys that hook up a lot with women, are the men women REALLY want.

They just accept defeat eventually. Realize that guy is a playboy for life, and settle for one of us beta males lol.

I dont want to be her second choice. I dont want to be the guy she settles for, because she couldnt get what she really wanted.

If I can't have hook ups, I'm not the type women really want. Sorry, I'm sure that offends literally everyone. All the girls say I'm wrong and generalizing them. The guys dont wanna admit 90% of us are betamales.

Sorry i think that's the real truth. Sure, women "mature" and make better partner choices. I dont know that that's true. I feel like they make better choices on paper. But they always wish that the men they truly want would be these things in addition to whatever they are that puts them at the top% of desirable men.

I think that what makes a man desirable to women is his energy or presence. Everything can be boiled down to that.

So I want hook ups. I want to be able to fuck women I wanna fuck.

But ultimately I want a wife. Just not one who only married me cuz she's a loser or cuz she is settling for me. I want the best of the best.

[Cynicaldreamer]

People still prefer hook ups over real, meaningful relationships? Eww.
More power to y'all if you like sleeping with someone that has no emotional connection to you and only wants you for your body... not all of us are into that sort of lifestyle.

As for me? I'm just here for the snacks :)
I'm too old and tired for games, and trying to hunt for relationships. Can someone pass me some ice cream please? Perfect snack for this hot weather we've been having.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I have ice cream sandwiches in the freezer... Sorry, ate the ice cream yesterday

[coachTanthony]

You two and your sweet tooth’s 🙄

[Cynicaldreamer]

@Brainsbeforebeauty Ooh, come on over girl! I got Reese's ice cream in my freezer: we can have a party :)

[Cynicaldreamer]

@coachTanthony Pfft, I see no problem with that with sweets. It's less disappointing than dating in my opinion... the only downside is dealing with the scale afterwards

[coachTanthony]

Just try not to break any scales! They’re innocent lol

[TwistedTube]

Hahaha I love the comments of you two. Foodies unite! Some ice cream would be doing so amazing with the current weather, I might go get some today. I'll have to thank you two for the inspiration 🙏🏻

[Cynicaldreamer]

@TwistedTube Haha, you are very welcome :)
Ice cream makes everything better and is so tasty! Go ahead and treat yourself to some; you deserve it

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Ok I'm here, where's my snacks you hooking me up with👀...
Cuz that's about the only hook up I'm doing.. Snack hook up🤣

[coachTanthony]

I got salty and sweet …your choice.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sweet like me😇😇🤣

[TsundereMatrix]

These days it seems like everyone is only looking for a hook up. I’ve never been into that. I never understood the point of them. I have tried to hook up thinking I was going through a phase but it always resulted in me leaving because I felt uncomfortable in the situation. Then I learned about demisexuality- a sexual orientation where you feel no sexual attraction until an emotional connection/bond is formed. I identify as demisexual so definitely finding a relationship is what I need and hook ups are a no go.

[anon1903]

Fuck buddies.

I suck at being a girlfriend. I suck at communication. I suck at intimacy and vulnerability. I suck at handling somebody else's emotions. I suck at sharing my stuff.

So basically... I wanna suck the right way.

(◍•ᴗ•◍)✧*。

[Still-alive]

i see ;)

[MudRucker]

I'm here if you need a little friendly support.

[anon1903]

Thank you guys.

[Still-alive]

cute emoji too lol

[copiecat]

My kinda gal

[Pasiton5]

I was never one for hook ups of or one night stands that's cool and all but I'm more into the serious side of haven't a meaningful relationship, don't have time to be running around with this lady or that one, sure get angry cause I'm with this one and cut up my tires break ask my windows in my car nah I'm good with one good lady, lol just got to find the one good one, send all are into hook ups, some for a fee, by the hour I mean talk about being bold, and stank was not even worth it, still trying to get some of my money back, advertising about how I will feel like I'm on a journey in ecstasy, felt more like I was watching paint dry or grass grow just a bit, next time I'll read the fine print, and ask about money back if not completely satisfied, lol

[Lionman95]

I´d prefer a relationship and I´m rather traditional minded in terms of that. I´d like to have something isn´t not just all about sex but a genuine love thing. I´m ready invest in it and let it grow. I just haven´t found right woman for it.
I think hook-ups can´t satisfy you in longterms, they can give pleasure in that moment but afterwards it´s over.
I´m looking for something on going because I think it´s still possible today.

[Asianguy123]

People are selling sex nowaday$. Girl charge money as an escort or stripper and guys also charge money to escort old gay men. illuminati use it to cover up what they do for money and people fall into chaos. Indeed love of money is the root of all evilness. Just look at the plastic garbages we created floating on the ocean and the babies we aborted and the STD is so wide spread. We don't care about environment. we burn the rainforest down to make coffee and cow meats. No one cares as long as they can make some bucks here and there and release anywhere. Illuminati is right saying that people are pigs and dogs. They will keep reign the world with their wealth and greedy piggy eyes.

[NathanDavis]

Well I've always been into relationships that have lasted at least four years, never really tried hook-ups, I am not even sure how they work exactly... lol, or if it is an ambiguous term. What I know is that I want committment, that I get it from relationships.

[TurboKid]

I was always a go-with-the-flow type not looking for anything specific in advance independent of the girl I'm with but limiting interactions to just sexual in nature never appealed to me. I liked the idea of a "fling" if things weren't meant to last more than "hook-ups".

[Drumlin2001]

I'm not really into one night stand hook ups. If i become single i'll take a bit of a break, focus on my kids and myself for a bit. If i wanted company i would look for a casual relationship, being clear that there's no commitment.
Long term i would want to look for a relationship.

[johnsmithjs]

When I was younger I was all about the relationship but now friends with benefits or hookups. The women I date have way to much baggage to be in a relationship with. Maybe one of these days I will find the right women to be in a relationship with again but until then hook-ups.

[JSmuve]

I was never a hook-up kind of guy. Without emotional connection, you just reduce sex to a hobby that you can do with anyone and I definitely could not be with a girl who viewed sex so cavalierly. So I'll be hard-passing on the girls who had a hook-up phase growing up. I don't think any self-respecting guy should be wifing-up a community cum dumpster. That being said, I'm not a relationship kind of guy either. Unless she's the absolute right woman, I'd find it really difficult to commit to one woman because I'd feel trapped and would probably get bored of her. My ideal relationship is some sort of polyamorous relationship with 3 or 4 girls with whom I have an emotional and physical connection. But those are very rare.

[BlueWalker]

I'm monogamous and demisexual AF, so relationship all the way. I'm not interested in sex without a meaningful, lasting connection.

[Anonymous]

What people don't realize is seeking hook-up "relations" almost always removes you from the real relationship dating pool.

Look at it this way.

Guy/girl has 24 hook-ups in a year. Why would anyone wanting a serious relationship waste their time on them? It implies they are unreliable, have problems that make them not worth dating, etc.

[TwistedTube]

I feel like hookups are nothing more than wastes of time and an obstacle for getting a meaningful relationship tbh. Any time spent on hooking up/casual relationships is time that proper love could have come into your life

[howdidireachhere]

I'd say hookup becuz i dont think I'd ever be ready for a real and genuine relationship--- my own insecurities would sabotage it, buttttt I'd prolly get attached to the person in a hookup so--- 💀💀

[midnightmoon05]

First time I heard the term hook ups was on GAG many moons ago. Such a turn off/degrading to human emotional connections. Only real/serious relationships here.

[Ilonus]

In my view, the emotional intimacy of a relationship is far more important to me than any physical intimacy. Not to say I don't enjoy the latter, but I'd rather do that with someone who I have genuine affection and feelings for rather than some random lay of the week.

[HawkPerception]

I only do relationships. The concept of a hookup has always been bizarre to me in the sense that you're having sex with someone you have zero emotional attachment to. I personally find it very strange to do anything physically intimate with someone that I don't love or believe I'm even in tune with.

[Tiptoetamm]

When I was in my late teens I preferred hookups after my first relationship until I found my current husband now relationship

[Paolaa988]

I prefer a real relationship. I only hooked up my first time having sex because i wanted to experience it and get the nerves over with.

[Lliam]

I had girlfriends from the time I was 16, but always preferred relationships. They were all good girls, as opposed to desperate skanks.