Do you prefer HOOK UPs or finding a RELATIONSHIP?

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HiveBee · Accepted Answer

A relationship. But if I dont have the ability to have hook ups, I think that means I reduce my chances of the best relationship possible.

If I can't get a girl to hook up with me, why would my dream woman want me? Because she doesn't value hooking up and so she's my dream woman?

I think the guys that hook up a lot with women, are the men women REALLY want.

They just accept defeat eventually. Realize that guy is a playboy for life, and settle for one of us beta males lol.

I dont want to be her second choice. I dont want to be the guy she settles for, because she couldnt get what she really wanted.

If I can't have hook ups, I'm not the type women really want. Sorry, I'm sure that offends literally everyone. All the girls say I'm wrong and generalizing them. The guys dont wanna admit 90% of us are betamales.

Sorry i think that's the real truth. Sure, women "mature" and make better partner choices. I dont know that that's true. I feel like they make better choices on paper. But they always wish that the men they truly want would be these things in addition to whatever they are that puts them at the top% of desirable men.

I think that what makes a man desirable to women is his energy or presence. Everything can be boiled down to that.

So I want hook ups. I want to be able to fuck women I wanna fuck.

But ultimately I want a wife. Just not one who only married me cuz she's a loser or cuz she is settling for me. I want the best of the best.

NyceGuyFinishingLast · Accepted Answer

I used to be all about having a relationship but I am too old now. I have been in plenty of relationships and a few have come close to marriage but never crossed the line.

After each relationship I would say I was done and I was until I found someone I wasn't looking for. I would get into another relationship and feel like I was in bliss. It would go on for years. Then end. Then I swore no more and still couldn't stick with it.

Now it is different because I love being single. I have been single for over 4 years and loving it. I don't have to compromise my time to do anything expect when it comes to my kids. I always have time for them. But, I don't have to bother with certain holidays. I don't have to call anyone if I am running late from work or if I decide to go out after work. I can come and go as I please to hang out with anyone that I want for as long as I want. If I meet someone new I can go hangout with them and not worry about being in a relationship. I have the bed to myself unless company is over which is pretty much never because I don't bring strangers around my kids. I don't have to be a burden to anybody. If I can't sleep I can lie in bed all night, watch TV or game without worrying about disturbing anybody. When I get up to shower I don't have to wait on anyone. Costs go down because I am spending for one and not two.

Being single is not for everyone but I think I have more pros for being single than I do for being in a relationship.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

People still prefer hook ups over real, meaningful relationships? Eww.
More power to y'all if you like sleeping with someone that has no emotional connection to you and only wants you for your body... not all of us are into that sort of lifestyle.

As for me? I'm just here for the snacks :)
I'm too old and tired for games, and trying to hunt for relationships. Can someone pass me some ice cream please? Perfect snack for this hot weather we've been having.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Ok I'm here, where's my snacks you hooking me up with👀... Cuz that's about the only hook up I'm doing.. Snack hook up🤣

TsundereMatrix · Answer

These days it seems like everyone is only looking for a hook up. I’ve never been into that. I never understood the point of them. I have tried to hook up thinking I was going through a phase but it always resulted in me leaving because I felt uncomfortable in the situation. Then I learned about demisexuality- a sexual orientation where you feel no sexual attraction until an emotional connection/bond is formed. I identify as demisexual so definitely finding a relationship is what I need and hook ups are a no go.

fonduegirl · Answer

Fuck buddies.

I suck at being a girlfriend. I suck at communication. I suck at intimacy and vulnerability. I suck at handling somebody else's emotions. I suck at sharing my stuff.

So basically... I wanna suck the right way.

(◍•ᴗ•◍)✧*。

Pasiton5 · Answer

I was never one for hook ups of or one night stands that's cool and all but I'm more into the serious side of haven't a meaningful relationship, don't have time to be running around with this lady or that one, sure get angry cause I'm with this one and cut up my tires break ask my windows in my car nah I'm good with one good lady, lol just got to find the one good one, send all are into hook ups, some for a fee, by the hour I mean talk about being bold, and stank was not even worth it, still trying to get some of my money back, advertising about how I will feel like I'm on a journey in ecstasy, felt more like I was watching paint dry or grass grow just a bit, next time I'll read the fine print, and ask about money back if not completely satisfied, lol

Lionman95 · Answer

I´d prefer a relationship and I´m rather traditional minded in terms of that. I´d like to have something isn´t not just all about sex but a genuine love thing. I´m ready invest in it and let it grow. I just haven´t found right woman for it.
I think hook-ups can´t satisfy you in longterms, they can give pleasure in that moment but afterwards it´s over.
I´m looking for something on going because I think it´s still possible today.

Asianguy123 · Answer

People are selling sex nowaday$. Girl charge money as an escort or stripper and guys also charge money to escort old gay men. illuminati use it to cover up what they do for money and people fall into chaos. Indeed love of money is the root of all evilness. Just look at the plastic garbages we created floating on the ocean and the babies we aborted and the STD is so wide spread. We don't care about environment. we burn the rainforest down to make coffee and cow meats. No one cares as long as they can make some bucks here and there and release anywhere. Illuminati is right saying that people are pigs and dogs. They will keep reign the world with their wealth and greedy piggy eyes.

NathanDavis · Answer

Well I've always been into relationships that have lasted at least four years, never really tried hook-ups, I am not even sure how they work exactly... lol, or if it is an ambiguous term. What I know is that I want committment, that I get it from relationships.

TurboKid · Answer

I was always a go-with-the-flow type not looking for anything specific in advance independent of the girl I'm with but limiting interactions to just sexual in nature never appealed to me. I liked the idea of a "fling" if things weren't meant to last more than "hook-ups".

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I'm not really into one night stand hook ups. If i become single i'll take a bit of a break, focus on my kids and myself for a bit. If i wanted company i would look for a casual relationship, being clear that there's no commitment.
Long term i would want to look for a relationship.

johnsmithjs · Answer

When I was younger I was all about the relationship but now friends with benefits or hookups. The women I date have way to much baggage to be in a relationship with. Maybe one of these days I will find the right women to be in a relationship with again but until then hook-ups.

JSmuve · Answer

I was never a hook-up kind of guy. Without emotional connection, you just reduce sex to a hobby that you can do with anyone and I definitely could not be with a girl who viewed sex so cavalierly. So I'll be hard-passing on the girls who had a hook-up phase growing up. I don't think any self-respecting guy should be wifing-up a community cum dumpster. That being said, I'm not a relationship kind of guy either. Unless she's the absolute right woman, I'd find it really difficult to commit to one woman because I'd feel trapped and would probably get bored of her. My ideal relationship is some sort of polyamorous relationship with 3 or 4 girls with whom I have an emotional and physical connection. But those are very rare.

BlueWalker · Answer

I'm monogamous and demisexual AF, so relationship all the way. I'm not interested in sex without a meaningful, lasting connection.

HawkPerception · Answer

I only do relationships. The concept of a hookup has always been bizarre to me in the sense that you're having sex with someone you have zero emotional attachment to. I personally find it very strange to do anything physically intimate with someone that I don't love or believe I'm even in tune with.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

When I was in my late teens I preferred hookups after my first relationship until I found my current husband now relationship

Anonymous · Answer

What people don't realize is seeking hook-up "relations" almost always removes you from the real relationship dating pool.

Look at it this way.

Guy/girl has 24 hook-ups in a year. Why would anyone wanting a serious relationship waste their time on them? It implies they are unreliable, have problems that make them not worth dating, etc.

TwistedTube · Answer

I feel like hookups are nothing more than wastes of time and an obstacle for getting a meaningful relationship tbh. Any time spent on hooking up/casual relationships is time that proper love could have come into your life

howdidireachhere · Answer

I'd say hookup becuz i dont think I'd ever be ready for a real and genuine relationship--- my own insecurities would sabotage it, buttttt I'd prolly get attached to the person in a hookup so--- 💀💀

midnightmoon05 · Answer

First time I heard the term hook ups was on GAG many moons ago. Such a turn off/degrading to human emotional connections. Only real/serious relationships here.

Ilonus · Answer

In my view, the emotional intimacy of a relationship is far more important to me than any physical intimacy. Not to say I don't enjoy the latter, but I'd rather do that with someone who I have genuine affection and feelings for rather than some random lay of the week.

Paolaa988 · Answer

I prefer a real relationship. I only hooked up my first time having sex because i wanted to experience it and get the nerves over with.

Lliam · Answer

I had girlfriends from the time I was 16, but always preferred relationships. They were all good girls, as opposed to desperate skanks.

electromagnetic · Answer

Now that I’m older, I like the relationship aspect. When I was 19-25, free for all’s.

jerdanro · Answer

I'm having an intimate love affair with a glass of scotch right now. I think that's the safest option for the moment.

kitkills · Answer

None of it, I don't give a damn about falling in love or liking anyone, but if something happens then who cares. I'm not into feeling for people when they can easily just fuck with you and leave

Tomsta · Answer

Both. It's a lot easier to experiment when you're sleeping around, not every girl you date is going to want to do say public stuff or anal etc. Whereas hookups you can choose which girl you meet up with ergo you can choose the ones that work for what you're wanting at the time

Once you've satisfied your experimental needs then relationship to then develop that bond

BUNroaster · Answer

More n more I'm thinking about just getting some hookups soI can have a more stable connection. Wifi is amazing technology really but an ol Ethernet cable can be extremely better than anything Wifi can do. From 60 Mbps to 400mbps instantly

HairyPoppins · Answer

A long term committed relationship works out best for me. I think participating in the hook up culture leaves you dead inside. I don't recommend.

Iron_Man · Answer

I like a relationship a hook up means a filthy dirty woman that has probably been doing it for years. And who knows what disease she’s had. That’s another reason why I don’t like to meet bar girls

Omario2049 · Answer

I'll never get the meaningless sex thing. I wish people would just grow up. And it's shocking that both men and women are voting for it. God knows I want nothing to do with a woman who has taken part in hookup culture. Then coming around in her 30s demanding commitment with her exploded vagina.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Relationship. No question about it. That being said it can be helpful for a girl in her late teens or early twenties to hook up a few times as a way of spreading her wings.

Mollynotgemma · Answer

I have always wanted to be in a relationship… and have many and on a loving one now… but the hook up wins!  Can I have both!

orangecherry · Answer

I hate hook ups. I'll wait for sex until I'm with someone

kitty71 · Answer

Neither one cause I will never get marry or being in a relationship

Shihab91 · Answer

most of the people voted for relationship, then who the fuk is hooking out there?

DarcRefractions · Answer

I'm getting old now almost 30 my hook up phase is over

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’d prefer a relationship or hooking up with a friend

Shark_61695 · Answer

A relationship... much rather have something I can rely upon which lasts more than a couple of days.

shouldnobetter · Answer

A Relationship is the best way. But I wish there would have been easy going Hook Ups when I was young?

Nazgol · Answer

I tried hookup but it ended very ugly. I realized not for me at all and I need relationships

clampfan101 · Answer

Relationship, and nothing less. What I want most in life is marriage and kids.

SweetRomeo · Answer

Real meaningful relationship after tinder? 2021. Lol good luck.

Wiredone · Answer

I prefer relationships. It's safer. I've been married for 26 years.

Likes2drive · Answer

A relationship would be nice but not feel smothered

Anonymous · Answer

Neither, I'd say relationships but as that is all ancient history so now it's just of getting paid and dying in the end like the game of life says

Ubernerd79 · Answer

Hook up sounds amazing to me. But I've been in long term relationships for decades. Could uae the fun

JackofSpades · Answer

I've never tried hooking up but it doesn't sound all that pleasant to me. It takes me a long time to warm up to people and I can't see myself fucking a girl in one night and actually enjoy it.

AgentRED · Answer

There’s no such thing as a “relationship” these days and that trend is just about dead.  It’s all about hookups

UnicornU · Answer

Finding a relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Relationship, but men do the heavy lifting for both hookups or relationships

Anonymous · Answer

i think that most people are lying about wanting a relationship

cth96190 · Answer

I always wanted a relationship, but women did not want that. They wanted the carousel.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Just here for the snacks….

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Currently I am single I might try hook ups for now If we got chemistry I won't mind going for a relationship with her

na2398 · Answer

Relationships! Never hooked up aha. :) Never will. :)

bulletbob555 · Answer

Since I'm not in a relationship. I'm willing to go with the first choice still would prefer the relationship

Account · Answer

Neither.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

I want a solid relationship, but I don't know how to find the right one, and in the right setting, since I am a bit shy.

Still-alive · Answer

relationship but for now would be ok with a friends with benefits thing

kinkyguy45 · Answer

I already have a relationship. Fun on the side with her knowledge.

Willoughby23 · Answer

Hookup, the only reason I ever wanted a relationship was to have sex more frequently. That being said I never had a relationship

Anonymous · Answer

My opinion everybody's mostly on hookups then finding a relationship nowadays because of the marriage ratings being on the down low

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