Between committed relationships and hookups, what do you prefer? And why?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

State your reason also.

Hookups

Committed relationship

[Anonymous]

I mean to a point will be commitment. Currently I prefer just hook up. Now days not sure yours but in mine. Too much drama.

Example: I come from broken family I mean they are together but damn. Even my dad did wrong things like cheating. They are together oooooh hell.

Mom just nags about little things man. I mean she even drags me in. Then she says " just like your father or dad grandpa". I am like 🤷‍♂️ "what did i do? I mean do you hate I am part of my dad seed even I am conscious what he commit?". Then she treats you sweet and when she needs to explode she start formal insulting about unfaithful and brings up how guys are dogs. I am like "really in the time of eating dinner you want to bring it up, is been 5- 6 freaky years over and over and over, don't you get tired? She says "ha how many years your dad did to me? I am like "that is you both problems is not mine, I am just a son of you both so don't involve me in". She says "you see yeah same as your dad, I am like WTH". Than she goes sweet again.

Every fken morning she had to bring arguments in breakfast time. Right after work I just want to relax from working under sun. Next thing you hear is her yap. Omg.

I am 30 but the main reason I am with my parents I want to help my mother because she is disabled. Secondly, I am trying to lift my business so I can buy me a home and stay away from them.

That is why I doubt on relationships because it carries dramas. Basically I am scared of it.

Hook ups is easy. Just done deal. No arguments no commitment. Both ways get what they want no attachments. I currently have hook up female, she is sweet and awesome. I call, met up, hook up, gets what she wants and i get what I want, move on. She ain't those easy 💰 naaaaa she has education and a stable job. I take her to hotels not motels or her house she has a pool. She is selective who she wants.

[Bandit74]

Well ideally a relationship with a girl who is nearly as inexperienced as me and hasn't had casual sex.

Still, I'm conflicted. It seems like most relationships and marriages end eventually and that the huband is often the big loser in the end while and the guys who get chosen as fuckbuddies get all the fun with out without any sacrifices, resposibility, or expectations.

I also feel like the vast majority of women have had hookups even the ones who claim to prefer relationships. This makes me kinda wish I could have a few casual fuck buddy kind of arrangements to catch up to where the average girl is before looking to settle down but at the same time I recognize that women are much picker about looks for casual sex and that I'm probably not attractive enough for a woman to choose me as a fuckbuddy. I don't like the idea of being the boring guy they settle for when they want someone to raise kids and pay off a mortgage with after they've spent most of their youth hooking up with hotter guys at parties, clubs, tinder etc.

So ultimately I lose motivation and pursue neither. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[Yads_Is_Back]

NO hook-ups. We are committed and actually passionately in love or I don't want the sex.

But what's funny... 😂😂😂😂 is that a lot of guys want to whore around and go for hook-ups until they find the woman they want, who is usually a lot less experienced because you know, guys want a woman who's not a whore. News Flash: We don't want man whores either, so take your side: hook-ups and maybe end up with a whore, or passion and intimacy for life. And in today's society, there are a lot less people of both genders who are mature and haven't whored around before.

I like the passion and intimacy, even apart from my morals that hooking up is completely disgusting. In a committed mutual passionate relationship, sex occurs a lot more often - hell, every time we fight we make up, and every time we feel passionate we make love, so every day, sometimes multiple times daily. I'll make him the best breakfast he could ever eat, handle his morning wood testosterone issues, and we both start the day off extremely happily.
With a hook-up, you don't get that, and most people end up with a sense of guilt and even worry.

[michael1469]

I slept we a few ladies on the first date... i made every effort to make things work. But it is what it is.

My second wife, we banged first date. She was a freak in the sack. In the end, she couldn't handle me not wanting any more kids. She was 30 i was 40.

[DonCachondo]

You're 23 give it time babe...

[Yads_Is_Back]

@DonCachondo I am stubborn and stuck in this way. Trust me, it won’t change, and I’m proud of it.

[little_bird1]

I prefer committed relationship. Although hookup can feel good as an instant gratification at a time, but only at the given moment, it's very short lived and it brings more problems later. It's simply not worth it. I think hookup culture is more beneficial for men then for women, because men can have sex anytime and will enjoy almost every time, and can easily divide feelings from physical pleasure. Women, however, need more "spicing up" and feelings prior sex to actually enjoy it. And those feelings last even after sex, while men can just go on with their day like nothing happened. Every time I engage in a hookup, I feel very depressed afterwards and I regret. Because I know it happened only because I was sad and bored and lonely. And I know I gained absolutely nothing, even if sex was great. Just reminds me of how desperate I am and how badly I crave for love.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I don't want either, but if I were to have any romantic or sexual desire, I would only want a committed relationship. Hookups have never been something that I would be comfortable with.

[OlderAndWiser]

A hookup can be satisfying physically but that satisfaction is very short lived. A long term relationship satisfies me physically but in many other ways, and it is a satisfaction which is much more enduring.

[pajamasam]

Committed relationships have far more passion. That feeling of swelling emotion in your chest and your heart racing. Plus the sex is far more frequent than hook ups. And the sex is far less risky too.

Also im the type of guy that after a long night of love making i wanna wake up in the morning with the boo thang and make breakfast together. Stains all over our clothes from cooking, hair a mess from getting out of bed. Smile at each other. Smack her ass with sticky syrup hands that leave a stain on her shorts.

Hook ups dont provide that level of intimacy and that is what I crave.

[Yads_Is_Back]

You're amazing ^

[pajamasam]

Thank you, im sure your amazing too.

[nonratracereality]

With a hookup unless it's a 100% understandable union there will be faults and the main reason that occurs is because the level of hookup changes and starts to change and alter to the behavior of committed relationships which will not work otherwise it would've either manifested to a relationship or eventually erodes to basically where it started and eventually ends. Whether on a good note or not depends on the level of maturity displayed during the union. Committed relationships when whole can yield all you need with a few insecure human actions that can make or break. What you truly put in you'll definitely get out.

[DizzyDesii]

Commitment. We dont love these hoes... i’d possibly respect hookups if the person was looking to hookup with their longterm crush/love of their life... but most who hookup intend to hit and run. Yea, not my style. I’ll stick to getting to know someone and then choosing to date and commit to them. If it doesn't workout, then repeat the process. Hookups to me will always be a temporary fix for the broken... im not into it

[Anonymous]

Hook ups advantages are variety and often the sex is nastier and kinkier. Disadvantages is inconsistencies both in quality and supply-a successful hunt is required. Committed Relationships: advantage is no hunt is required so access is more at hand, emotional connection and quality if you chose well and she maintains her looks. . Disadvantages is the sex eventually becomes vanilla, routine and less frequent. Now I've been single for 5 years after a long marriage. I've had 2 LTRs and many shorter relationships and hookups. Right now i'm leaning towards preferring hookups. Haven't found a woman for a LTR yet where the good outweighs the maintenance cost but if I run across one I might change my mind. I've heard that such women exist but I think they are just legends.

[ineedatan]

Never had a hookup, so by default, a relationship. A friends with benefits/ONS just doesn't appeal to me as I personally find it awkward to share myself so intimately with a complete stranger and can't wrap my head around how those that enjoy hookups can do so. I love being able to emotionally connect through physical intimacy and feel a sense of trust and safety. I also am not a person who craves sex alone, I love being able to grow and create non sexual memories with a guy, I crave a bond and a relationship - which a hookup doesn't offer.

[rkf_helps_247]

Ofcourse without doubt... is being committed in a relationship.



Think about it.

You can have as many number of hookups you want. But at the end of the day, you'll be there alone, without anyone actually loving you.

And let me tell you, ... everyone... and i mean everyone need LOVE in their lives.


Hookups dont have any meaning. They're just temporary things that you use to distract yourself from. But at the same time, you're not really happy in life.


Whereas being in a relationship, it's so much more harder than a hookup. It's called a LIFETIME commitment for a reason.

Plus, there's always the SOMEONE who's there for you, and loving and motivating you all your life.

So yea... for me... and I'm sure for many others as well... in the long run, RELATIONSHIPS are worth every last breath.

[bluehen46]

With all the stds and such out there i always like one boy/one girl ( man/woman) that is not to say i did not have hook ups but i always was interested in a relationship with every girl i had sex with but one. I thought it was a joke when my girlfriend at the time "gave me to her" for the night, I thought some kind of test so when she grabbed me ans kissed me it was not big deal, she felt my cock it was no big deal and when she unzipped me it was no big deal, but then she got on her knees and i was shocked. i did let her finish but i felt bad and would not have done it. MY girlfriend was a bit drunk and said she just wnated to make her friend feel better I felt cheap. We broke up shortly after.

[LibraGal98]

I am at a point in my life where I want to love someone and be loved. Sex is fun but meaningless if it’s a hook up.

[Kimdracula9]

Ibe done 2 hook ups and hated them... they are emotionally draining to me. The sex never feels as good as with someone you love and trust. Just not worth it.

[Reaperbot666]

currently single and I am fine with that. since I have been cheated on in the past. but I am not a fan of the hookup culture and one night stands. much rather have a exclusive and committed relationship. if someone should come along that happens to like me.

won't even have any form of sexual interaction with a new girl I am dating unless.
1) we have been dating 90 days or more.
2) we are in a exclusive relationship.
3) we both get checked for STD and other not so fun things. to prove we are both clean. even if we use protection during sex.

[BeingAnzalKhan]

When you have have plans for future or settling down till that hoon up is the best idea as it involves more of fun without any as such responsibilities.
Committed relation is good when you are serious about your future and plans to move ahead with someone who can partner you for life. It is a concern of huge responsibilities.
Depends upon the person age and decision for life.

[ConfusedGinger21]

I like having both thank God I can! But if I had to decided relationships is the only way. Hookups are fun as a curious side of us and makes us feel so much dirtier in bed but, a relationship where u can cuddle and makeout romantically has more bonuses.

[xxxtremelyhumble7]

Totally agree

[NamerOfStars]

Relationships. I've never had a sexual hookup, but I can't see it being as enjoyable as sex with someone you actually know and love.

[joker2020]

It's still enjoyable, I've never been in a relationship for awhile, but I just do hookups. 😂

[NamerOfStars]

@joker2020 Hmm... Do you think it'd be fair to say it's a "fun of the new and exciting" vs "fun of the familiar and knowledgeable"?

[DavidHart]

i wish and want committed relationship (s).
i am trying to reach my goal.
i want those who are willing to be by my side in my ups and downs.
i prefer not to play any more.
i want to reach my goal along with them.
To grow together and be happy together.

[modelUN242]

Hook-ups would make me feel like a cheap slut, and it would definitely make me depressed and have low self-esteem. Many men also leave the girl after hooking up, making her question her self-worth. I wish women wouldn't cheapen themselves like that to those types of men. Also, these men are talking about their hook-ups in their locker room talk in a demeaning way, I don't want to be some guy's story. Raise your standards ladies.

[TonyT1986]

Amen

[Sweetener_]

Committed relationship because I don't have time to play stupid games like hook ups.

[Poppymarie]

That’s easy; a relationship. I love to give and receive love! Sex is great, like sex is really great and I love it, but sex alone doesn’t fulfill me emotionally. I love having someone in my life who I can be weird with, be gross with, be silly with, and be my raw, unfiltered self with. You can’t do that with a hookup.

[DonCachondo]

Other than sex, can't you do all those things with friends?

[Poppymarie]

@DonCachondo not quite to the same extent. Like there’s a certain intimacy in romantic relationships that is unlike any other

[DonCachondo]

That sounds pretty contrived... It's as though you're taking the word of cultural messaging at the expense of personal experience. If anything, it's much easier for most people to relate intrasexually than intersexually due to common interests and similar life struggles.

[Poppymarie]

@DonCachondo well my experience has been that I always felt most understood and accepted by my partner. I love relationships.

[djmzes]

Simple

If you choose one, you lose the benefit and potential of the other.
It is like you have 100 coins and you have split in between two. So you decide which one you want to give more or less.