are they? i think the opposite is true. i mean family planing and marriage is slowly but surely shifting from the early 20s to the mid 30s... so those are trends that are objectively observable in society. i don't really see "people moving too fast". maybe some do but i don't see it as a trend in society. i see it as "exceptions".
If they're really getting to know one another, I agree... But this dating someone you never met, that's across the country and calling that a relationship, that I don't get
People dating people they don't know IRL and calling it a relationship, that's moving to fast for me. Or people that have never met IRL yet try to say they care or love you, that's moving too fast to me. IRL it's different, and how fast things move depend on how much time people invest really getting to know one another
Then we agree again 🙂 lol I guess I'm old and set in my ways... I've just had people try to move to fast or that they try to move at all when I've said I don't do the internet dating thing. I'm not interested in LDR... Hell, I'm not even looking to be in any relationship
Probably they go on Bumble or som stupid sight and have sex with someone they don’t really know right off the bat. Then move in together and right away with someone with don’t even love and create demon spawns because they didn’t want them.
One effect of internet dating is we all have several irons in the fire. If you don't move fast, one of the other contacts will. I've just seen this in action, where 2 ladies I've been seeing for a while were both a little reticent about getting intimate. Suddenly, one of them invited herself to my place for the weekend. The other, obviously, is now out of the running, after months of interaction.
Internet dating is part of the problem, and if someone loves you, there shouldn't be a competition. I wouldn't ever compete for someone. Never had to before, wouldn't now...
I'm not sure it is really competition, more a matter of getting the timing right. I don't think love can be a factor at the early stages of a relationship.
But how can you determine that juggling more than one person at the same time... Yeah I'm not down with that,. If someone going to take the time they could be spending getting to know me, dating other women at the same time, that's someone I'm not interested in dating...
But chatting with multiple contacts doesn't interfere with anything at all. In the early stages, you are just finding out if you want to meet properly. If, as a guy, you stick to chatting with one person at a time you will often find promising chats come to nothing. It would be ineffective use of time. Similarly, having met, women often want to "get to know you" before getting close, which is fine, but they can't expect exclusivity without some commitment.
So wait, you're saying it's okay to talk to multiple women at same time until she sleeps with you? See, I'm never going to sleep with someone who thinks like that. Isn't that kinda putting pressure on something that should just happen naturally?
I understand your position, and, in an ideal world, would comply with it. Unfortunately, life is short, and I, for one, do not have time to wait for every time waster, flirt, and flibbertigibbet on Tinder to faff me about serially. There is little choice but to swipe right on several in a session, and if more than one responds, you start filtering at that point.
What's fast, in your opinion? And am I right that this is referring to sex/sexual expectations etc? Interesting question - hence me wanting to double check.. I'm now going to read everyone else's answers!!
No for me it's what people consider a relationship... If you never met in person, how's that a relationship? How's that love? How do you REALLY know someone
Not long distance it's not.. In person, yeah... Relationships are hard enough.. People already don't make enough time for people in their lives, how do you do that long distance... I don't want video time... Real time
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Immediate gratification has been the norm since the advent of cell phones, especially smart phones. And now... this ///
https://www.youtube.com/embed/xGDnaIARqdwYeah cell phones, the death of real communication 🤷🏼♀️ love this song tho ♥️🙂
Queen was unmatched with Freddie. No band was better in that era.
Yeah they were awesome. Did you see or watch Bohemian Rhapsody?
Of course. Cool flick.
Yes it was
I'm not sure but my best friend got married after 7 months and she is happy I hope the same for me.
Did it start as a long distance relationship tho? Or IRL?
no it was IRL
👍 Yeah to me IRL is different than the internet LDR that I personally feel don't work out in the most cases
yeah I agree
I'm pretty sure it's stuff they seen on social media, or that they're just horny 🤧
Lmao 🤣🤣
Because they are scared that they will end up alone.
True, but half the time they're long distance internet dating... Don't that leave you"still alone"
Yes but many people try to make themselves believe or actually believe that an online relationship (long distance or not) can lead to "true love"
They are still left alone but it makes them feel better.
I think sometimes their looking for a hookup and sorry I don't swing that way
Right...
are they? i think the opposite is true. i mean family planing and marriage is slowly but surely shifting from the early 20s to the mid 30s... so those are trends that are objectively observable in society. i don't really see "people moving too fast". maybe some do but i don't see it as a trend in society. i see it as "exceptions".
Life is short. If you know what you want and both people want the same thing then power to them!
If they're really getting to know one another, I agree... But this dating someone you never met, that's across the country and calling that a relationship, that I don't get
Times ah wasting.. no, I don't know i didn't know they were moving so fast
People dating people they don't know IRL and calling it a relationship, that's moving to fast for me. Or people that have never met IRL yet try to say they care or love you, that's moving too fast to me. IRL it's different, and how fast things move depend on how much time people invest really getting to know one another
I agree then and it would be to fast for me too
Then we agree again 🙂 lol I guess I'm old and set in my ways... I've just had people try to move to fast or that they try to move at all when I've said I don't do the internet dating thing. I'm not interested in LDR... Hell, I'm not even looking to be in any relationship
Understand
Wise men say, only fools rush in...
Oh I've been a fool.
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With the world in the state it's in, you never know if you are going to see another day.
Ok but then do that with people in real life. Don't waste time on online relationships that are LDR, that for the most part, don't work out
Never been in love actually, always in desperation. They can't make differences between lust and love. That's called lust and desperation.
Right? So agree with this here.👍👍
Probably they go on Bumble or som stupid sight and have sex with someone they don’t really know right off the bat. Then move in together and right away with someone with don’t even love and create demon spawns because they didn’t want them.
Lol right
Haha right! But, thank god they found each other cuz Jesus knows don’t nobody else want em
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One effect of internet dating is we all have several irons in the fire. If you don't move fast, one of the other contacts will. I've just seen this in action, where 2 ladies I've been seeing for a while were both a little reticent about getting intimate. Suddenly, one of them invited herself to my place for the weekend. The other, obviously, is now out of the running, after months of interaction.
Internet dating is part of the problem, and if someone loves you, there shouldn't be a competition. I wouldn't ever compete for someone. Never had to before, wouldn't now...
I'm not sure it is really competition, more a matter of getting the timing right. I don't think love can be a factor at the early stages of a relationship.
But how can you determine that juggling more than one person at the same time... Yeah I'm not down with that,. If someone going to take the time they could be spending getting to know me, dating other women at the same time, that's someone I'm not interested in dating...
But chatting with multiple contacts doesn't interfere with anything at all. In the early stages, you are just finding out if you want to meet properly. If, as a guy, you stick to chatting with one person at a time you will often find promising chats come to nothing. It would be ineffective use of time. Similarly, having met, women often want to "get to know you" before getting close, which is fine, but they can't expect exclusivity without some commitment.
So wait, you're saying it's okay to talk to multiple women at same time until she sleeps with you? See, I'm never going to sleep with someone who thinks like that. Isn't that kinda putting pressure on something that should just happen naturally?
I understand your position, and, in an ideal world, would comply with it. Unfortunately, life is short, and I, for one, do not have time to wait for every time waster, flirt, and flibbertigibbet on Tinder to faff me about serially. There is little choice but to swipe right on several in a session, and if more than one responds, you start filtering at that point.
Wouldn't know, don't use dating sites... Never have, never will...
Because most people would rather just have sex then get to know each other.
Isn't that the truth!!!
Me and a couple of exes after guilty of it. That's why now I try to get to know someone first.
Sex is better that way anyway, as well as the relationship as a whole
I agree.
Great minds...👍🙂
Because no one know how to delay gratification these days
True true
We live in a fast food world. It is give it to me now generation.
Ain't that the truth
What's fast, in your opinion? And am I right that this is referring to sex/sexual expectations etc? Interesting question - hence me wanting to double check.. I'm now going to read everyone else's answers!!
No for me it's what people consider a relationship... If you never met in person, how's that a relationship? How's that love? How do you REALLY know someone
Because they want love and just rush in head on when patientence is key
Very true
Time and life will fuck you up if you do nothing or take to long.
But do it for "real" not long distance internet dating... That's the real waste of time to me
I have no idea what u speak off?
People that have never met, only interested through social media, yet consider that a relationship, or think they're in love...
What that's a technological advance on a penpal l, I hate telling them that they take it personally lol
Oh I know.. But that's because you're right. And people can never admit they wrong.. don't like hearing the truth
I mean if the know it's the idea of it n what to pretend fine lol
Waste of time to me
Well if you think you like someone and the intention is to wait n not go n fuck around it's good?
Not long distance it's not.. In person, yeah... Relationships are hard enough.. People already don't make enough time for people in their lives, how do you do that long distance... I don't want video time... Real time
Yeah but to me long distance you still met just less n it's long distance away?
And it's not the intended way lol just happens?
Love don't happen for me that way
It's shit sometimes 🥴
Pressure, People put their friends under pressure to have sex with their partners etc