Well, I can't read your mind, but from what you wrote I can see several possibilities.
One is that people trust you, and open up to you about their problems, which is kind of a rare thing in guys. It speaks well of you.
Another thing is that many guys just don't stop thinking about multiple women. Ever. Some do, but those guys tend not to think much about even one woman, which doesn't square well with the common feminine fantasy of having a man who is always thinking about her and only her. Interesting men tend to have lots of interests, so his attention won't always be on you, even if it's not on other women. Women often tend to make the assumption that if a many isn't thinking about her, he's thinking about other women, which he may be, depending on which of the aforementioned kinds of man he is.
Love is complicated, and by nature most people who love deeply won't be right for most people. The man who is right for you is probably sick of women in general and may be hiding or otherwise hard to find. He probably won't approach you because he won't know to approach you. I don't know how you can let him know, but it will likely be in your behavior more than in your appearance.
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If they talk about their ex too often and mention other women it's a bad thing tbh. Sometimes if they mention an ex because it comes up in a specific circumstance no problem. But if he is comparing you to her... red flag.
Also if they have "opened up" big red flag. Men should never tell a woman their problems. When a man tells a woman his problems like that, it means he can't overcome them.
You need to self-reflect and ask yourself who you are, what you want, why you want those things and make changes
Tbh, a lot of those feelings are ones that you need to work on within yourself. You could be 100% right about your boyfriend and have incentive to dump him, but it seems like you keep hitting this wall with men. In which case, I’d encourage you to be single for a while and work on self love and facing your insecurities. You named many conflicting emotions, with inadequacy taking the forefront. These are things you have to tackle, because how can you love somebody else if you don’t fully love and accept yourself? Once you deem yourself worthy of the love you’re willing to give, and stop tearing down your self esteem, then you won’t consider the ex of every guy you date and drive yourself crazy with thoughts of being perfect and not good enough.
You're gut could be wrong in the sense that his ex may not be on his mind. Intuition doesn't always tell you what someone is thinking, but it can let you know when something isn't right. So you may sense and pick up on something distracting your boyfriends mind, but he may not give any signs as to what is actually on his mind.
It's normal to feel synical when every guy you've been in a relationship wasn't over his ex. But you've just be unlucky to meet guys at a time when they're not totally over their ex. That's not a reflection on you whatsoever. They shouldn't have got with you when they hadn't moved on. Maybe get to know guys more over a longer period of time, before you commit to them.
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Stop trying to be perfect and just be yourself if they can't handle who you really are they don't love you they love the idea what they think you are and that's not a person you really wanna be with
Ah, I wonder the same (even though I know it is the permissions to abuse me that my parents have issued, and still issue, to anyone who likes me and enquires about me - they just love shifting the blame for their perverted life onto me so I pay the price by being unloved/feeling unloveable).
It’s their fault not yours. They still have issues to work out clearly. I’m sure you’re beautiful, but it might be in the partners you choose. Do you like the idea of being able to “fix” someone?
I'm sure that you are more than enough to be loved.
maybe you are always the rebound girl, you don't have a chance, find someone that didn't just breakup, good luck
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