Do you ever wonder if you actually deserve your partner?

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Tom1089 · Accepted Answer

No, there are many reasons I don't deserve my partner. And a few reasons I do deserve.

My wife is kind, caring, providing and loving.
But she also had a 6 month affair leading up to our wedding during our wedding and honeymoon and then continued until they were caught out. It took a while but I knew something was up more to the point of course you deserve your partners, if they are good for you, if they make you a better person and you reciprocate that feeling.

Don't you both deserve to be open and honest and truthful. Talk more find out what you both feel only then will you know if you deserve each other.

ryancg · Accepted Answer

Not exactly my partner, but she could be. I haven't made any moves to make it happen because I know I don't deserve her. At the moment, I'm just not a suitable companion. I'm kinda miserable tbh, long story but I almost died last year and I'm in a lot of pain now.

vintagegirl90 · Accepted Answer

No if I had a lot insecurities I would, but then I think that I should be grateful that I’ve a relationship to begin with and someone who loves me. Self sabotage is unnecessary and normally an unfortunate consequence of poor self esteem. You shouldn’t be feeling that if you are in love, if you are in doubt then you should have a serious conversation with the person you are with and communicate your insecurity. Vulnerability is what makes a relationship stronger, never voicing out your opinion causes damage in the long run.

DeeDeeDeVour · Accepted Answer

My husband is an incredible person. Though we have similar backgrounds & values, I often see him like a "larger than life"  gift  sent down to me from Heaven. Sometimes, I think to myself that he's a league above me. He told me repeatedly that he reveres me the same way.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, just today, for the first time I wonder this.. I'm not a good partner for him I realized it today because of my emotional blackmail ( I didn't mean it at that time but later I realised what I did is exactly emotional blackmail and now I regret it but it's too late) that I'll leave him if he goes out with his friends today. I know I'm a horrible person to have said that but at that time I was angry and I told him "we will break up if you choose it over me if you choose it over me I'll believe you don't respect me" because of this he decided to cancel his trip Midway and now he's stranded as all the buses left and he's stranded in some sort of village kind of an area, I regret it so much and I can't believe that he wanna tolerate me and even if he tells me he want to end it with me I wouldn't be surprised and I totally deserve it.

Cythera · Answer

Always. I know my partner is too good for me. I don’t think I could ever be good enough. Especially with how I am in general. He’s sexy and goofy. He’s definitely the most attractive person I’ve been with, ever

kaylaS91 · Answer

Nope.
Asking myself if I 'deserve' him (or vice versa) would imply that one of us is objectively better than the other. Which is a breeding ground for the most parasitic, manipulative relationships to occur.

Concerns I do have regarding my fiance is how I can become a better partner- not if I deserve him.

Anfin · Answer

He deserves the best, someone who makes him happy, laugh, and makes him feel good and accepted for who he is. He is an amazing person, we are not a couple tho.

Anonymous · Answer

Hmmm.
From how I've seen you behaving here and your account of your behavior off site, I'd say that you really don't deserve that girl.
But, if she put up with your worst self and kept loyal to you, there must be something she sees in you that for her makes it worth it.So maybe show that side to us too and not be such an abrasive jerk?

nerdybutlazy · Answer

I do sometimes, my boyfriend is definitely what I would call a rare gem, it makes me feel like a lucky girl to have him

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

"Deserve" is tough to define. The universe owes us nothing. You choose your partner and they choose you. It's about choices.

rinx91 · Answer

Yaaa sometime i wonder... how lucky i am to be with him... But it also scare me that maybe im not good enough for him...

Agape93 · Answer

Nope, I don’t fret such things. If she feels I don’t deserve her, she can decide what she wants to do.

lovebug2 · Answer

I got a girl that never say's no. I know I don't deserve her cause she lives me way to much she's there when I need her. She dose so much for me. Rosie's palmer and her 5 sisters I love you ladies so much. Please stay with me for forever until our dying breath.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

Yeah, I mostly push people away due to my emotional and mental conditions.

SouthernSweet · Answer

Absolutely! He worships every step I take even when I make it very difficult.

yucel_eden · Answer

If you do then you will push your partner away.  A healthy relationship is balanced emotionally without jealousy or superior inferior traits.

Bowey_Ange · Answer

Back in high school I used to have a lot of self esteem issues from past ex’s and even my childhood so when finding a partner I often get nervous and take long time to build up the courage. Now however when I see someone I’m interested in I turn the table and decide whether or not they are good enough for me.

Xheladin · Answer

I haven't been in a relationship before but I can say this. I've worked really hard in my life to be the best person that I can become. All I have ever wanted in life is to fall in love with someone amazing. I Haven't settled for anything less than that. When I do have a partner there will be no doubt in my mind that I truly deserve her.

Clyde_123 · Answer

I don't have a partner but I always wonder does he deserve me? or Do I deserve him?

fall_angel-86 · Answer

I dont wonder if I deserve my hubby bit often do wonder what he sees in me.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

Yeah like all the time I mean he's rich and successful and brainy and good looking attractive sexy guy I'm like...

shangri-Ia · Answer

I don’t know what you’re trying to say/do. Are you trying to make someone else depressed or are you depressed or both? It’s kind of a weird question.

bigCraneGuy · Answer

I'm quite sure every day that I do not deserve her. I'm grateful for every moment she has graced me with her love

msc545 · Answer

I do wonder occasionally. She is just about as perfect as one can be.

Poppykate · Answer

Are you wondering this? 🤔

lexes · Answer

i used to... then it just turned into a narcissist abusive relationship... and finding out she was there for financial gain... smh...

nicholas25 · Answer

Of course yes. There are times that you would just are the way he / she behaves I acts with you that she doesn't do to others and it make your head to revolve

billmayes · Answer

That's a tough one. The only major problem would be if your partner felt they deserved BETTER. Otherwise, who cares if you care for her and she cares for you.

AlongCameCindy · Answer

To be honest, in reality i think most of the people i've been with didn't deserve me rather than other way round.

1Anon · Answer

Yeah a few times and I don’t deserve him.

Lillie91 · Answer

Everyday sometimes in think I don’t deserve to have who I want because I lack some qualities

dandiecandie · Answer

Is the girl in the photo ypur partner?

Anonymous · Answer

I seriously don't... Am short Am skinny Am bald Am hairy bodied.

zayn7232 · Answer

Nah I don't deserve... nor will I ever deserve

Trooper205 · Answer

I know I could never deserve my Partner ❤️

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Never.

Anonymous · Answer

The real question is, do they deserve me?

Hope65 · Answer

I think its the opposite in my case

harderplease · Answer

I dotn even have a partner

Gedaria · Answer

Yes, lots of times...

BButterfly · Answer

No never

CubsterShura · Answer

Everyday.

Pinky_what_why · Answer

Yes sometimes

CreatingWorlds · Answer

Everyone good deserves love

iseekpinetrees · Answer

All the time.

Skankhunt · Answer

Nope.

In_Trance · Answer

never

Anonymous · Answer

All the time

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