How can I get over never having experienced teen love? ?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 27 year old woman and it never really bothered me up until now to think that I never experienced teenage love. I have dated men in my college years, but seem to think what it would have been like to have that naive tender teen love.

I was kind of nerdy, weird, and unattractive at the time, and no boys seemed to like me back. In college, it was a total 180 and I actually felt admired and chased after.

As a teen, my parents didn't let me have a boyfriend, so I ruled it out of my head completely for fear of getting trouble. I spent so much time studying and focusing on school and extracurriculars, which I don't regret.

But...

I wish I was able to watch the sunset while sitting on the grass and being held and kissed by a modest 15 year old boy who saw me as the greatest thing ever.

Id love to have been able to think I can walk into the halls after the bell rings and see my boyfriend fro afar, and give him a great big hug and be those people that kiss under the tree.

I wish I could have been looked at with excited and happy eyes.

While I know it may not have been perfect, maybe that type of love must have been so special and exciting.

I can't go back in time, but if I could I wish I could do it differently knowing what I know now. It just doesn't seem the same when you're an adult.

Recently, I got a similar butterflies in your stomach feeling of teen-like infatuation that I haven't felt since high school. It is with an adult male I see around from time to time but he is taken so it will never happen.

How can I get over feeling like I missed out? I know some of you may say "Not all teen love is great--a lot of it is cringe" but I'm talking about missing gout on the GOOD kind.

Thank you to everyone

[Anonymous]

Honestly, teenage love is overrated. When I think back to high school, all I can remember from those relationships are drama, and not even on my part. I had friends with those picturesque relationships, but behind the scenes, they were looking like jokes because their boyfriends were players and sleeping around behind the girls backs. I witnessed so much cheating, teenage pregnancies, and backstabbing best friends. Such a mess of things that I’m so glad I didn’t have to experience first hand. I’m sure this is of no consolation to you, since you truly feel like you missed out. But what’s to say you can’t have the sort of happiness you envision now? You can still meet someone who gives you those butterflies, which comes with first love, and love in general. You can still see him from afar and feel giddy, or have sunset picnics. Except now you can do it without living under your parents thumb and the dates can include wine lol, kidding (if you’re not a drinker). But all of this to say, don’t waste time living in the past, or wanting it, because the universe aligns things how they are supposed to go, and you probably dodged a whole slew of bullets!

[Asker]

Thank you very much. This helped

[Opinion Owner]

No worries at all!☺️💛

[kyliesz]

Teen love its not like what you see in the movies. Most of them just ends with hearth break or worse. From my experience all of my relationships I had were emotionally and mentally abusive I didn’t even know what abuse was so i stayed for too long. it made me depressed for a long time made me have trust issues. At one point I was scared to get murdered by one of them. It wasted my childhood years where i just needed to have fun with my friends and family without worrying about my relationship. you're not mature enough to be in a relationship when you're a teenager. My parents were always right. My only normal boyfriend who wasn't abusive cheated on me. So yea I wish I never had a boyfriend when I was a teenager.

[Asker]

Thanks for sharing your story. I appreciate you taking the time to help me out

[GingerGuy]

I did as well, but you can't do anything about it, so that's how I deal with it. Reality. lol You may or may not have "missed out", but what's done is done. Can't do anything about it, so I just try not to think about it. What's the point other than to upset yourself?

[LiamSawyer]

I understand where you're coming from but believe me a fifteen year old guy is awkward, and instead of holding you close and kissing you lovingly and innocently he would have hands all over you but not in a nice way.

[Gooblegobble]

Find someone that gives you those feelings. Love doesn't go away when you become an adult.

[Bandit74]

I kinda feel the same way but I try to think about how many of them ended badly with cheating or pregnancies and that makes it less bothersome to me.

[Anonymous]

I feel that way when I also see couples in their early 20s as well.

[shanshu]

Many have been in the same boat

[Lonelywolfxl]

Hey dont worry love not easy