I've been mentally messed up for weeks over this. I needed to get advice before I loose the sanity I have left.
In short my friends say I should leave him but I can't. He has done bad things but he had a bad past. It would crush him and I'd never find someone who loved me as much. He's never been mentally or physically abusive yet. People are worried he will become that way.
I don't let people have a say on my relationships but this is my family and friends saying this. It's messing with my head. I just need advice of any kind.
I've recently opened up about events from earlier this year when he chased me into a bathroom and punched the locked door out of anger because I got a higher grade in class than him. I leave an argument and return with a fresh mind but he likes to physically force me to stay. He always seems to get some joy out of it. He has admitted to enjoying arguments and he tries whenever he can to cause an argument. I'm not sure why but it's with friends or family. He was verbally abusive to his family on his brothers birthday because he lost of a game. Ruined his brothers birthday and made his whole family cry. He is convinced I'm cheating on him with my childhood best friend even though he is married with his own child. So much so he has spread lies to try and destroy our friendship. He won't reply all day. Moment I don't message him back instantly he gets angry. He gets jealous of male friends and chases them away. We live so far away but he had made no a single move to come live with me even though I worked hard to do my end of the deal about moving in. He just gives empty promises.
These are the bad things. He is a sweet guy who loves me a lot. He would do almost anything for me and I'm his world. It would break his heart if I left. I don't want to leave him but everyone around me is turning on him. My mums dad was abusive and says she sees her parents in these scenarios. My head feels so scrambled. He isn't a bad guy.
In short my friends say I should leave him but I can't. He has done bad things but he had a bad past. It would crush him and I'd never find someone who loved me as much. He's never been mentally or physically abusive yet. People are worried he will become that way.
I don't let people have a say on my relationships but this is my family and friends saying this. It's messing with my head. I just need advice of any kind.
I've recently opened up about events from earlier this year when he chased me into a bathroom and punched the locked door out of anger because I got a higher grade in class than him. I leave an argument and return with a fresh mind but he likes to physically force me to stay. He always seems to get some joy out of it. He has admitted to enjoying arguments and he tries whenever he can to cause an argument. I'm not sure why but it's with friends or family. He was verbally abusive to his family on his brothers birthday because he lost of a game. Ruined his brothers birthday and made his whole family cry. He is convinced I'm cheating on him with my childhood best friend even though he is married with his own child. So much so he has spread lies to try and destroy our friendship. He won't reply all day. Moment I don't message him back instantly he gets angry. He gets jealous of male friends and chases them away. We live so far away but he had made no a single move to come live with me even though I worked hard to do my end of the deal about moving in. He just gives empty promises.
These are the bad things. He is a sweet guy who loves me a lot. He would do almost anything for me and I'm his world. It would break his heart if I left. I don't want to leave him but everyone around me is turning on him. My mums dad was abusive and says she sees her parents in these scenarios. My head feels so scrambled. He isn't a bad guy.
