I got a new boss and for the past year, he completely f***ed with my head. Wasn't until I quit my job last week that I actually realised that he was the reason why I really started to second guess myself about things, feel like shit about myself and dreaded staff meetings.
He was so sly about it too, never called me awful names or riddiculed my work; but he would say comments like "I never said that!", "People say you're negative" "I went to bat for you and you say that?" "I lost sleep over that comment!" "Level 5's will be expected to take on more duties" ( I was the only level 5 & already overworked).
My cat passed away, I took time off because I was upset and the prick actually insinuated I had been away to attend some event.
Oh, and there was a period of a few weeks where he outright gave me the silent treatment; completely ignored me if I said hello or anything. Sorry, that's not entirely true, he did grunt at me once during that period.
When I quit, he told me "It'll be hard to find someone to fill your contract", "The company will suffer when you leave".
He never did this to anyone else. These are only little snippets, they don't capture his tone or voice.
My mind is reeling that he got inside my head and made me feel like shit when I never did anything wrong, and that I HAD NO IDEA WHAT HE WAS DOING!
Crazy. I am hoping that I will bounce back to my old self soon, but I am worried how long it will take.
How long did it take you to return to your old self once you cut off a toxic, manipulative person?
He was so sly about it too, never called me awful names or riddiculed my work; but he would say comments like "I never said that!", "People say you're negative" "I went to bat for you and you say that?" "I lost sleep over that comment!" "Level 5's will be expected to take on more duties" ( I was the only level 5 & already overworked).
My cat passed away, I took time off because I was upset and the prick actually insinuated I had been away to attend some event.
Oh, and there was a period of a few weeks where he outright gave me the silent treatment; completely ignored me if I said hello or anything. Sorry, that's not entirely true, he did grunt at me once during that period.
When I quit, he told me "It'll be hard to find someone to fill your contract", "The company will suffer when you leave".
He never did this to anyone else. These are only little snippets, they don't capture his tone or voice.
My mind is reeling that he got inside my head and made me feel like shit when I never did anything wrong, and that I HAD NO IDEA WHAT HE WAS DOING!
Crazy. I am hoping that I will bounce back to my old self soon, but I am worried how long it will take.
How long did it take you to return to your old self once you cut off a toxic, manipulative person?
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