No.
I've never paid a woman for sex, like a prostitute or something. I never would, not even if I couldn't get laid otherwise. The main reason being that I'm only interested in sex/relationship with a woman who has the same level of (especially sexual) desire for me as I do for her.
If you're having to "pay" for it, if she's having sex with you in exchange for something, that's trans-actional sex. There's a mis-match there when it comes to attraction. This is what happens when a woman settles for a guy she's not as hot for. The exchange is about the man having to sweeten the deal. It's the more "beta" guys who have to pay for it in some way.
I'm not saying that all relationships are like this, not at all. I'm not saying that commitment is bad. I don't think it's bad if a woman will only have sex with a man she's committed to. I'm saying that the mentality or the trans-actional nature of the relationships I just described is bad.
In these relationships usually the dynamic is off. If you're a man with this mentality you're going to get walked all over, taken for a fool, under her thumb, divorced, cheated on, or in a miserably sexless marriage after a while.
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If a woman wants a commitment before she has sex with a guy, it is within her power to do so. If a woman is okay with having sex without a commitment, I would disagree with her choice but I would support her right to make that decision.
No to both money and commitment. Some women like to act like sex is some kind of gift they give to men. It's really disgusting cause really there is only two reasons why anyone should be having sex. First reason: your horny. Second reason: you want to please your partner. It really shouldn't be for any other reason like the guy paid or was really nice to the girl or committed to her like sex isn't a prize. It's just something two people agree on doing cause they are horny and love each other.
Intimacy is not free. For anyone. We are all on trial, being judged as worthy or unworthy.
Has nothing to do with men specifically.
(Unless you mean sex. Men do indirectly pay for sex, because they want it so much more, more often, with more variety, than women do.)
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You can't pay for intimacy, and no one can dictate terms on intimate behavior in others. The concept of affection shared between two people as a commercially regulated commodity has only one such relevant effect on said affection, is that it devaluates it.
This concept would be offensive, if it weren't beyond ludicrous. I have a better chance of opening up a legitimate business commercializing rain dancing, then you do commercializing affection and intimacy.
At least my ridiculous concept is not mutually exclusive and in direct opposition of each other.There was this guy who always kept buying prostitutes and promenading himself with them. I thought "what a disgusting creature" but then he said something that made me change my opinion in him and it stuck with me...
"There's no such thing as free pussy. You can pay with money like me, you can pay with your time, you can pay with commitment, you can pay with friendship, but there is no such thing as free pussy."
So true. Who in their right mind would f a guy who has nothing to offer? Actually screw this, applies vice versa as well!People should be direct about what they want. if a woman wants to trade sex for something else, she should just say so. Similarly, if a man wants sex in exchange for dinner and a show, he should say that. In his memoirs, Richard Feynman (famous physicist) reported discovering that the best way to get sex from showgirls was to ask them directly “If I buy you dinner will you sleep with me?” Most we’re honest. If they said yes, then they would and did. Simply inviting them to dinner was not as successful.
Women feel “played” because they think that having sex will lead to commitment. It doesn’t.I would only agree that men should have to pay for intimacy if women should to, I am all about equal rights. Of course a man would probably have to go somewhere where women out number the men to get the women to pay for intimacy.
To pay with cash is prostitution, to pay with a relationship means a lot of mean would not really like someone, just they want to get some... I don't think any woman really wants to have a relationship with a man who really just wants to get some. Unless of course that is her goal too.I'm starting to think that guys actually believe this. Women think men only want sex and men think women are using them for their money. What is seriously going on? 😂 Women CAN and are willing to have sex with no strings attached. I promise you this is true and probably for more women than you think.
I hate... I really FUCKING hate that everyone acts like are the ones who should jump though hoops to get the other side affection and attention. Like our attention and affection is worth nothing.
No I am not a bitter man, in fact I am married to someone who didn't aske to give anything in exchange for her "intimacy".
But I can't stand that some act like we are the ones who need to give it all. Put effort, because we are not the prize. Both people on a relationship are the prize!Nobody in their right mind would imply that "paying with money" and "paying with commitment" are in any way alike. If you pay a woman for intimacy she's a whore, plain and simple, and I believe whores are a disgusting, revolting thing. However, women have every right to decide they'd only be intimate with men who would commit to them. That's why so many men fake commitment and then dump the sorry bitch once "intimacy" has been achieved :) But no, not the same at all.
Well never a guy ever paid me for sex. The only positive thing i got out of sex with a guy is his dick😂
now I appreciate commitment, like it would be a dick move if he hit it and quit it. Although its ok if we already had a deal to just have casual sex and thats itThat right there is a conditioning. I'll give you something if you give me something in return. Men usually pay with commitment for sex and women with sex for emotional bond. That's wrong. Unconditional love is when both partners are giving selflessly.
Intimacy only really happens when you are committed to someone and that's usually only when a relationship happens and dates happen so kinda both.
Sorry I wrongly pressed "agree" rather than disagree. So take it from there and put there.
Of course they shouldn't. As long as women can have money, and make money.. If you don't want to have emotional strings then yeah pay for it. For example- sugar daddy
Else pay by commitment.Commitment - sure, why not.
Money - it's called prostitution.I think it should be totally up to the people, if some people want to have or give sex without commitment, they should allow that, thats moral.
I think that if the opposite were true, yes you would probably get laid more, but I actually believe that would not benefit you personally or society.
Need more context here. In relationships there should be two way streets of intimacy.
If you’re talking “escorts”, I’d say there’s no real problem in that.Ultimately we pay for every with they one true currency Time.
"Pay"? As in paying a hooker to fuck him? Im confused
For a virgin sure. Only a moron is going to with a ho. Hos need to pay men for commitment. Aka pimping.
Women enjoy intimacy as much as men do. Why should men have to pay for it?
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