Can I save my relationship, even though I'm pregnant by my boyfriend's father? (Page 2)
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First of all I’m really sorry about the situation that you’re in. Second of all, does the dad know that you’re pregnant and that it’s his and is the dad his biological dad?
I didn't tell him (my now-fianceé's father) I was pregnant, I told him we would never do that again.
It's been hectic and I still feel shitty qnd anxious but I think things will work out thankfully.
I really hope things do work out for you mistakes happen and ur still a human being with emotions and when ur vulnerable sometimes u do things u wouldn’t normally do if u were in a better head space , all u can do now is work with what u can with this and try to make the situation better but at the same time knowing u have no choice in the matter but to accept the responsibility of ur actions, that’s the only way in the end that u will grow is when u face consequences unfortunately, I’m learning that to an extent myself. It will get better though, it will be tough going but you’ll get to a point where it does eventually get better
I hope so, and I believe so. I am a strong girl and I have to qccept this and move on.
Yes it’s good that u know , and knowing that will only help u moving forward with this , but please do know which I’m sure u already do know that, you will have a time where u will be forced to have to tell them, both of them, together or separately, no matter how or when it comes out, ur gonna have to do it and be prepared to do it when that time comes and also being prepared for any kind of reactions , because it can and will be very unpleasant and unpredictable. Don’t stress on it though, but just know and be prepared for the emotional roller coaster that is very possible to be a thing that hits hard, try not to get overwhelmed of course that definitely is easier said than done
I would say either explain that the father held you down and things like that and maybe your boyfriend will understand. The one thing I wouldn't do is get and abortion
You need to tell your boyfriend exactly what happened, he is going to find out anyway.
And he needs to dump you, you're a horrible person, and so is his father.
Thank you for your input but the issue is resolved I'd have deleted the thread but it's considered a "great thread". -.-
https:// imgur. com/ 8YtQLXP
I will anonymise it in 24 more hours.
Thank you for your advice though, I believe that I can keep this hidden, even if it feels shitty and makes me anxious.
You can't keep it hidden, people have made it known what extinct species ate hundreds of millions of years ago, and you expect to keep a recent pregancy hidden? Secondly you aren't going to keep him, he will leave you for your character alone even if my some strange reason he doesn't figure it out.
by* not my, typos, typos eveywhere.
Oh I'm not hiding it, I told him that the child is his and moved some dates around so that it would make sense.
I hate typos, my phone always sends q instead of a and I don't know why.
DNA testing would prove it isn't though.
Well I'll get to that when it happens.
You're clearly a troll, then
This cannot be real... what kind of father fucks his son’s future wife. This must b a troll. And you “couldnt help yourself”? What? So basically he can never trust you to be faithful
He can trust me from now on.
that is one hell of a sad situation to get into. i have to ask, have you considered an abortion?
I did when I first found out, but not since. Everything is resloved now, thank you.
oh good... pleased to hear its resolved
That is so fu**ed up ! I don't think there's any long term future for you with your boyfriend now !!
I see you say in reply to someone else that you've told your boyfriend the baby is his !
So you're going to perpetuate a lie to him forever, that's a lifetime of you too having to live with a lie and the fact that you cheated on him - with his father ffs !!!
You really are a piece of work !!!
I ask you to please try to calm down and ask me questions if you want me to respond, this thread is only up for another hour or so.
Lol !!! 🤣🤣
I'm honestly more worried about the child in this situation. What a fucked environment for a child to live in.
Honestly I hope you won't lie to your boyfriend and force a kid on him that isn't his. Owe your mistakes and be honest.
own*
Do you see a way forward where I can do that?
You love him you haven't a clue what love is best advice I can give is start a new life with his grotesque father you deserve each other and let your boyfriend find someone else.
This must be a windup couldnt be real
Seriously why is it the girls fault if the dad raped her.
I think you should force paternity on dad. You should of reported rape.
I wasn't forced, I consented in that moment to do what I did.
I would not consent now and probably wouldn't have consented if sober but I did give my consent.
Still you were drunk he Took advantage. I still dont blame you, you werent in your right mind.
There is an argument for that, part of me wants to believe that so that I can pass on blame, but to be honest no. I am afraid that even if you believe that way I do not and will not take legal action.
If this is real, you have a better chance at rebuilding the Roman Empire than rebuilding this relationship, and his father deserves spit in his face.
Lol after reading the first sentence the title actually made sense, and you might not actually be trolling.
"I met my boyfriend in college (I'm from the UK so I think that's highschool in America?)"
*facepalm*
This is really troubling
@fennec4xx what do you think?
how reasonable is his father? i have possible advice depending on the answer to that question.
He's a good guy, what's your idea?
no clue if your relationship is salvagable or not but you really do need to sit down with both of them and have a real griwn up conversation with them about all of this. dont play the blame game either. though i find what you and his dad did very awful, am not going to join others in bashing you for it either. you are not alone in why it happened by the way, his dad is just as bad if not worse. thats why i suggest both at same time for the convo. he deserves the right to express things to both of you at the same time, his dad deserves to know he got you preg., and you all deserve a chance to work together to find a best for the child soluyion to you 3's screwed up problem/s. though i am somewhat pro choice, i agree that this is not a case of abortion being any type of solution and the child is innocent of all the issues involved.
Yeah... I understand what you're saying, thank you for your advice.
i know it sucks. i know you dont want to face him about it but you really need to (almost have to). this is a good example to others that everything you do in life has consequences and that not all affect just yourself nor do they always come when you think they will.
I've made my choice and it's over now, one way or the other... Thank you for your help.
ok. as for deleting the post, you can't till after 48 hours have passed since posting it. you can however disavow the question turning it into an anon posted question
Ah thank you, I'll try to get on that... Thank you.
np. hope you learned from this and things get better with and for you all
Lol, good guy who fucks his sons girlfriend, yeah sounds like a really good guy.
You're a horrible horrible person.. Do a favorite to the guy, at least one and tell it to him. Once a cheater always a cheater.. And with his dad? Omfg
I think you should talk to both of them together and find out a solution.
And just remember life goes on, this too shall pass.
Relax.
Thank you, I've made up my mind, just leaving up the post until tonight so I can update someone. Still, thanks for your reply, you're really cool.
You are welcome and don't worry.
You are a horrific human being. If you think the relationship can be saved forget it. Move on before you cause more trauma.
Thanks...
You should come clean and marry his snake father. And yes, you could have helped yourself, but you didn't care.
Wow, there are hillbillies in England. Sounds Iike the father raped you.
I assure you, he did not.
You can't hide from it and your baby deserves to know who its father is. Tell your boyfriend the truth, and take the consequences.