I love every love language BUT physical touch. I think physical touch has to be my least favorite. It’s a nightmare for me because the men I came across throughout the years all of them like physical touch and being close to the person they feel for.
I feel like in order to be affectionate with my partner such as PDA and affection in general it’ll take me awhile to adapts.
What about you?
What is your favorite or least favorite love language?
I do not like gift giving (or receiving) much at all. And my favorite is physical touch, and also words of praise. The other two I like as well, I'm probably better at acts of service (giving) and enjoy more receiving quality time.
So my thing about gifts is that I come from being poor, so money was always tight and I never had money to buy anyone anything. I also would get gifts that I couldn't use or was something not as good as what I really wanted or needed so it seemed wasteful due to opportunity cost. If you only have $10 and what I really need is a watch but you buy me a hat because you know I like hats and I have a bunch, I'm thinking "this hat is not as cool as the hats I already have and if I wanted another hat I would have bought it. What I need is a watch but I can't afford it and neither can you so I prefer if you saved your money."
On the other end of that, I think about buying things for people but then it always seems like it's kind of cheap or dumb or not really something I'm sure they would want or need so I end up not getting it. I have some good gift ideas but they always seem to grandiose or out of my budget range. Like oh I know this girl is really into taking pictures but the camera I want to buy her is $1700 and I'm not going to get her some $40 camera or even a $300 camera because those cameras are lame and not even as good as her phone camera so it would be dumb.
I'm curious about your physical touch aversion. I think that's just the best. It's so nice to me to be able to give someone pleasure just by touching them. To give them a hug, a massage, or things like kissing and sex if you are more intimate. It's just really loving and paying attention to someone and what they like, letting them know how much you like touching them and how close you feel. I think there is nothing like it and when I don't get touch for a long time (like right now during COVID) it feels so deeply empty to me, like I'm all alone in the world.
For me. Touch is my big one followed by Words of affirmation. Oddly enough being a former abuse and riddiculed person growing up. But now as an adult the ones I don't like the most and distrust. Would have to be acts of service and gifts. I instantly think you want something, or are trying to hide something and are feeling guilty.
I like all of them, which gift giving being the least, and words being the most.
Yeah, you will have a bit of a problem if you dislike physical touch. You have to accept that men express themselves less by words, and more by touch, acts of service, and time. It's pretty consistently true with them. And many can forgo frequent sex and disparate sex drives, as long as/if they have physical touch with you. Because they see lack of touch as lack of desire for them. And affection is something most people like. It releases oxytocin ('the bonding hormone') and creates feelings of safety and calm.
So do try and get a bit more comfortable with it. Tell the guys you meet that it's not something you need or gravitate towards. Telling them will, at least, let them know that it's not so much about your feelings towards them, specifically. Because everyone personalizes everything. Never forget that. They see the world through the self, not you and your eyes, first and foremost.
I love physical affection and so does my partner. He's very handsy (maybe too handsy lol) and such a great cuddler. I didn't really receive a lot of physical affection growing up, so that's probably why I gravitate towards that.
My boyfriend is not really much of a gift giver (although sometimes he goes out of his way to buy me something, like last year he bought me a pair of allbirds shoes which I really love), but I love giving him things, whether it's a bottle of alcohol or something small like a new phone case. I don't expect anything back from him but his unconditional love and care. We try to not base our relationship on materialistic ideals, but we value time spent together and physical affection.
My favorites are by far words of encouragement and physical touch- but quality time comes along with that, too. I don't care about whether or not they do things for me like giving me gifts or doing acts of service for me- all I need is them and their words and I'm a happy girl :)
The funny love language or logical love language when a partner tries to distract you or tell you to shrug it off when you're feeling down. I just hate that crap. If I needed that kinda support then I'm better off watching comedy shows or do other stuff. I don't need a partner to do that for me. All I want is emotional support, empathy and advice from my partner.
physical touch then quality time then words of encouragement. Those are my favorite.
I don't care at all about acts of service or gift giving, they don't do anything for me. I can enjoy giving any of these to someone, but I feel almost nothing when someone does either of the two for me.
Gift giving is my least favorite. While I enjoy giving gifts, it can get expensive and tiring when someone is always expecting something to feel loved. The others I like them all, maybe the most important to me is physical touch, I'm really touchy with my parents and siblings.
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Not everyone is the same but for me I crave physical affection and I don't know what my least favorite love language would be but I love being touched and doing the touching as well to whoever I love. I love touching all over, I’ve always been a very physical person and I always do most of the touching to be honest
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I am on the same boat. My least is Physical Touch and for most guys Physical Touch is either #1 or #2. All the guys I have dated all complained how cold I come off because I don’t show as much physical affection as they would like. I feel fake if I try to be touchy. I give up on dating... 😒
Words will get you everywhere with me! Acts of service doesn’t do much for me personally, but I know people for whom they mean the world. It’s fun to see them light up
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