Help me out guys?

[Sandrahxt]

So my boyfriend and I have recently been fighting a lot over something that’s bothering me. I saw him texting another girl asking if they should go out for coffee. I personally don’t mind my boyfriend having friends but this was a girl he didn’t know. A couple days later I asked him ab it if he did and he denied it even when I gave him multiple chances to tell the truth. I told him that I saw the messages and it did upset me that he tried to meet another girl behind my back and then lied about it. But we talked it out and he apologized and said he was wrong. A week after he said the same thing to the same girl and I was so angry that he did it again. And when I asked him he lied AGAIN. He’s never lied to me before and I was really taken aback by it. I told him that I have no problems about him having friends or talking with them but that he should be open and honest about it and not hide it. Because of this I’m always worried that he might meet someone else or flirt with someone else. What can I do? I want to leave but I also want to stay with him but it’s tiring to fight ab and to always worry. We’ve been together for 2 and a half years.

[McMillanD]

He is essentially saying that he doesn't have respect for you.
Not only did he lie and try to go behind your back once, but twice now and after "apologizing" which clearly means nothing.
You were good enough to let it go once, now it's done.
You have condoned the behaviour and if you stay he will do it again and again and again. That is until he does find someone else (while he is with you) and just dumps you.
Do not suffer that degradation. Get out of there.
You don't deserve to be treated like that and it won't get better with him.

[Sandrahxt]

I think a part of me knew this since the first time, but I kept holding on to something that will just end up hurting myself. But now that I hear it being said I feel like I shouldn’t even hesitate. I decided to pack my things today even tho it was such a hard decision. Some things just can’t be forgiven and forgotten.

[McMillanD]

Good for you.
You are doing the right thing.
He can't be allowed to get away with treating you like a placeholder. You are taking back your self-respect.
Don't be afraid. You will find someone who will treat you right.
Best of luck <3

[Sandrahxt]

Thank you so much! Your answer really helped me and encouraged me ❤️

[boggboss]

You let him off once doing somthing he admitted he dont wrong so now he believes he can do it again u essently showed him there is no wrong doing for shadey behaviour

[Sandrahxt]

This is what I fear too that since I let it go he knows where I stand. I feel like the best thing to do is to move out and break up but at the same time I’m hesitant.

[boggboss]

If u stay u will have to get use to this behaviour he has shown u he ain't going to change any time soon so u have to decide

[RHK36]

Leave before it gets worse.

[Sandrahxt]

I decided to gather my things and stay with a friend until I get my own apartment. I don’t want to give him another chance to change my decision nor hurt me.