No. If you need to test someone while you are in a relationship, then you should not be in a relationship. You wanna test someone, do it before you commit.
Reminds me of the movie Through A Scanner Darkly. People who test others seem almost schizo or multiple personality. Can be confusing and create negative outcomes that otherwise would not happen. Not saying not too test but there's some nuance.
On update... I always say, "Trust but verify. Always." You don't 'test' them, you check up on them. You read between the lines. Are they always reliable, love and adore you, dote on you, are enthusiastic? Cuz a cheater doesn't bother with all that - their focus is on the side piece. It's always a little more exciting.
And you need to do the work to keep them. So, I've asked you before, but you refused to reply, do you even know how to keep a man?
Why would someone want to continue in a relationship where their partner sets test for them? Its board line narcissistic. I mean to say, they're your lover, not a lab rat for you to conduct experiments on.
No you either do it or you don't it's that simple if there's any games did it's just a game and so the next time is it something might be real to the other person is just going to be a game
I've never heard of a loyalty test, but I don't think I would do that. If I were looking to date a woman, I would certainly want to make sure I could trust her.
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That's an invitation for problems. That shows me that lack of trust, which is the real problem (with that person). If you feel the need to "test" someone, then you shouldn't be in the relationship.
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If you have to test the other person to see if they're faithful the relationship is pretty much f*cked already due to zero trust.
No. If you need to test someone while you are in a relationship, then you should not be in a relationship. You wanna test someone, do it before you commit.
No, thinking that you to test their loyalty is saying that you don't trust them so the relationship is likely not good.
Reminds me of the movie Through A Scanner Darkly. People who test others seem almost schizo or multiple personality. Can be confusing and create negative outcomes that otherwise would not happen. Not saying not too test but there's some nuance.
Only if you're okay with losing them. Righteous people don't take kindly to that kind of bullshit.
On update...
I always say, "Trust but verify. Always." You don't 'test' them, you check up on them. You read between the lines. Are they always reliable, love and adore you, dote on you, are enthusiastic? Cuz a cheater doesn't bother with all that - their focus is on the side piece. It's always a little more exciting.
And you need to do the work to keep them. So, I've asked you before, but you refused to reply, do you even know how to keep a man?
Didn't refuse to reply I'm just shit at doing so.
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Sounds like a good idea! What could POSSIBLY go wrong?
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Exactly
I missed the sarcasm
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Why would someone want to continue in a relationship where their partner sets test for them? Its board line narcissistic. I mean to say, they're your lover, not a lab rat for you to conduct experiments on.
No you either do it or you don't it's that simple if there's any games did it's just a game and so the next time is it something might be real to the other person is just going to be a game
If he thinks you’re capable of testing him, he’s going to pass every test.
No, that’s very disrespectful and shoees ample insecurity and a lack of trust, which is very off/putting
No. That's annoying and a sign of insecurity and mistrust. If you can't trust your partner, the relationship is guaranteed to fall apart.
I've never heard of a loyalty test, but I don't think I would do that. If I were looking to date a woman, I would certainly want to make sure I could trust her.
That's an invitation for problems. That shows me that lack of trust, which is the real problem (with that person). If you feel the need to "test" someone, then you shouldn't be in the relationship.
Yeah we should taste it to know weather he/she loves you the way you love he/her for us not to waist our time
I don't know. People tend to get pissed when you test them. But sometimes it may be necessary. So I reckon it depends on the circumstances.
You can test, not sure what the test would look like, but it can save you the heartbreak.
No. Not worth it. If one has to resort to testing it then it means something is not right.
No, if you do not trust your SO then you need to look at yourself in the mirror.
If you feel you have to test their loyalty it sounds like the trust has already gone
You mean should you "shit test" your man? If he is any kind of man he will tell you to GFYS.
Gfys?