Well, a small percentage of those guys are just saying it to get into the girl's pants. Scumbags.
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I'm not really sure that's true. It seems in the relationships I've been in, it was about 50/50. It was a point of playful contention with my wife and me as to who said it first, each jokingly insisting the other said it first.
She said, and admits to saying it first, "You know I'm falling for you!"
Now, *I* think that totally counts!!! ;) However, I'll own up to the fact that I said the actual words, "I love you" first.
That being said, assuming you're correct (and again, I'm not sure you are), perhaps it's because of a need to take the reins? To be a leader in the relationship? Maybe it's even something to do with risk taking and a competitive nature?I think because most girls instinctually wait for a guy to say it first.
Since being in love is often a glorified requisite for sex and base for wanting commitment... most women find themselves in a catch 22 where proclaiming their love, is just a little less sexy, and a little more, so hey man are you gonna lock me down or what?
Social scripts make it a lot more 'natural' for a guy to profess his love and then 'willingly enter and lead' true commitment rather than an inversed social trap.
But I think women should say I love you first. If he's not on the same page, you shot your shot and you can move on.I hate to say this; but most guys are a bit scared, that if they do not claim their love for you, another will, and they will not have a chance.
When a man really does love yo, he will not say it, but rather show it; and when the time is right, he will let you know verbally just how much he loves you, not once; but every time the mood hits him. So, prepare for a lot of "I Love You," with flowers, notes, trips, presents, and a lot more. Nothing complicated will be used; just simple things to let you know of his love.
Remember, when men meet a woman they like, they do not want to loose them!!! They see "I Love You" as a way to make sure they do not loose you.Believe it or not, men feel. We feel passionately and when we think we have found what we want, we want to solidify it. A guy who is really into you won't waste much time. A guy you have been dating for years and everything emotional seems like a struggle is probably because you are a life support system for the vagina to him.
Because we're expected too. We get all the hard jobs in that department right up until you get pregnant. We're supposed to ask you out and take all the risk that comes with, when to say I love you and we're supposed to propose too. It's why incel culture is so prevelent now a days, some guys can't take that stress and most women just don't get it and often times won't step in and recognize that they may have to start things with some guys.
Unfortunately until it becomes a mutual expectation that whoever realizes what they want first makes their move first men and women won't understand each other's side of the coinAre you just dating, or are you in an actual full relationship. If it's a relationship then you should know each other better than just dating, and you should be more open and be able to say what you are actually feeling.
Now if you are not ready for someone to say "I Love You" after being in a relationship for a while; then you are not ready for that relationship.As you can see from many entries on this very board, girls tend to enter some kind of histeria or mental shut-down when it's time to say the words. Insecurities, crypted signals to make him do the first step, anxiousness...
So the point is not in "why do they?" As much as "thank god they do, or no couple would ever form".In short, sex...
When we run out of options or ideas to get into your pants through conventional methods we have to resort to EXTREME measures. Terrible actually that girls would actually force us guys to have to do that especially when that's all it takes to get it smh. Then you can't get away from them cuz they think that you really do love them but you're somehow, someway confused and need annoyed to be convinced lolSome girls may feel as though they may say it too early and scare the guy away
Some guys says say it first hoping the girl will spread her legs...
Some guys actually mean it and just want to let the girl know
Whelp that's just how I see it
🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️because the girl doesn't want to put herself in that vulnerable position, and don't want to scare the guy away. just like how guys propose first. just the way it is.
It's honest and let's be realistic here, if you're in a serious relationship and you can't admit that you love someone, you have a problem with communication or you're not really serious about your relationship
Truthfully it’s a way some ensure she’ll keep fucking him
Nope I say I want to fuck you.
Saying I love u to girl is like kissing her feet.
LolBased on feedback I think it’s because many girls wait for the guy to proclaim it, even if they feel it first.
Umm sex. My wife gets me to promise to stupid things during sex…
Guys usually set the pace (or at least attempt to) in relationships.
I never have. Don't quite know what you're on about
Cuz they need reassurance that she still loves him and not banging some other dude lol
In a lot of cases, there is an ulterior motive to get sex.
However in most "adult" relationships, sex happens way before any formal declaration of love.
Men are more willing to lay it all on the line, and express their love, well knowing that it may not be reciprocated immediately.I think its because we are expected to, or at least we are expected to make most of the moves in a relationship.. It really should not be like that
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