Should couples go to bed at the same time?

Question

Obviously, I'm talking about couples that live together.
Do you think it's important for couples to go to bed at the same time? Do you prefer to go to bed whenever your partner does and vice versa, even if you know you're probably not going to fall asleep for a while?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

For me that's what I like if you and I were dating and we are both at doing something that all of a sudden you said you were tired you're going to go to bed and I might be doing something I would say hold on for a few minutes when we clean up and I'm coming with you you need that time each and every day to get closer into Bond and Two Become One and it just makes for better all the way around I think because otherwise you know what's going to happen you go to bed you just start to fall asleep I walk in get in bed at least sing you feel is poke poke poke LOL are you saying stop it I'm trying to sleep and then that's what I say the babe I'm horny I want to fuck poke poke poke stop it. LOL

Red_Arrow · Accepted Answer

It is a good thing to go to bed together often, though there are times it is not possible or practical. Going together allows you special time that can be used for sex, cuddling, talk, and whatever affections you feel like. The touching is amazingly soothing, romantic, and arousing. Try to do that as often as possible.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

When you live in small homes, you have almost no privacy or alone time as is. So going to bed at different times gives a tiny bit of space where each person has one room to themselves for a bit. Unless it all means that one person gets up much earlier, makes a bunch of noise, and wakes the upper person up... then different bed times is fine/good.

scentoflavender · Accepted Answer

After sharing a bed with my ex husband for over 20 years, I would say it doesn't matter much. I'm more of a night owl, while he was early to rise. As long as the person coming to bed latter is considerate about noise and other sleep ending actions, it's pretty much a do what makes you happy situation.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

For me, the best part of the day is being in bed with my partner, talking quietly for a few minutes before we go to sleep. And I wouldn't want to miss that!

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah I'm a night owl and my hubby loves going to sleep early so it's better we are on our own little schedules

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It doesn't really matter, in my opinion... I remember with my Dad living at home there was Mom, my Sister well we were early teens, my Dad would not go anywhere to look for work well my Mom took on babysitting jobs to bring in what money she could but lot times my Dad would come like 6:00 in the evening and go to bed but he was so full of drama well at this time of life I finally took the couch as my bed we took in our little cousin my Mom became her legal guardian... Slowly my house was going downhill
I don't know why we just didn't tear it down and get a Trailor in its place but
my parents finally divorced in June of 1994 after 30 years and he went
and married Cindy who is 15 years younger than him LOL

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

My boyfriend & I have different sleep schedules because of our jobs. I work in the restaurant (2nd & 3rd shift depending) while he works in a machine shop (6am-4pm per shift). When we can go to bed together, we do, even if it's just us cuddling until he falls asleep & then i get up to go unwind even more.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

We don't sleep together. Still fuck often. It's really only important that y'all get good sleep. It's nice to have some sleep together yes but in my case I'm a crazy bitch when I sleep I move around the bed I toss n turn and make hubby hot and he makes me hot. It's kinda easier we don't sleep together much lol

Ghostykill3r · Answer

I think they "should" but it also shouldn't be seen as a bad thing if they don't. Some people are night people and some are morning people, get those two together and it's hard to go to bed at the same time. Also they may have work/responsibilities at different times. But it is definitely nice to do so

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SGTAdam · Answer

I personally don't think it matters, I'm not with anybody and haven't in a long time, but if she wants to go to bed than that's fine I'll stay up and join her later, or I may want to go to bed with her, if I'm not busy or wanting to do something. I think it's just a depends on what they feel, and the situations around them.

mk200195 · Answer

It’s not at all important in my view. There are all kinds of temporary or longer term reasons for different schedules around bedtimes. Shift work, young children waking, physical or mental illness, the possibilities abound. Being a couple doesn’t mean you are literally hitched to the same plow. Individuality strengthens a marriage. Spending every possible second together breeds over-familiarity, boredom, and chafing at the bit.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

I mean it is fine if others do, but I would make her miserable if I did. We both get up at 6 am, but she goes to bed at 930-10. I dont even begin to get tired until like 1230-1am and sometimes don't fall asleep until 130-2am

loves2learn · Answer

Doesn’t matter. We usually go to bed at different times. He starts work 3 hours before me.

A_Bell · Answer

It's probably best, but not critical. That time may influence bonding and my fiance and I like to do it at bedtime or waking, so of we slept at different times it would make that difficult.

InfobotLives · Answer

It's important to go to bed separately so that you both get the chance to masturbate. That keeps you going when you can't stand the thought of fucking each other anymore 😌

exitseven · Answer

My wife likes to retire early. When I go to bed I fall asleep in 5 minutes. If I go to bed too early I wake up earl and can't go back to sleep so I usually stay up later.

ChiTown33 · Answer

When I was young I know after us kids went to bed, and my father went to bed, my mom would stay up for a couple hrs. Generally to read. But that was like her quiet time. Lol

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

It can be helpful (especially if sexy time usually occurs before sleepy time, as compared to usually occurring in the morning), but it's not necessary.

YOLOIFIC · Answer

If they can it’s nice, also increases the chances of sex. So that’s never a bad thing.

TwoowT · Answer

Not really. Sometimes he comes home tired and wants to sleep but I don’t want to so why would I go to bed?

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I think it just depends on the couple and their work schedule, etc.

spartan55 · Answer

My ex and I usually did unless one of us was ill or had to wake up early the next morning.

dolemite89 · Answer

no that’s not always realistic, they can both have different schedules for work. If you live together as long as you guys have at least some time everyday to hang out for a bit you can still make having different schedules work.

Still-alive · Answer

nahh i mean they might have different times they work so shouldn't be that big a deal. im a night owl usually

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on it.  My partner normally comes and lies with me to put me to bed, then come back to play a game or two/eat and then he comes to bed.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

1. Sometimes my girlfriend goes to bed first. 2. Sometimes I go to bed first. 3. Somrtimes we go to bed at the same time.

Account · Answer

I really really prefer it when people have the freedom to do their own thing rather than be like siamese twins.

Becky316 · Answer

If hubby and I go to bed at the same time, sleep is not going to happen.

Mangospacho · Answer

They must go to bed at the exact same time or else the other person will be out cheating while their spouse is sleeping and they’ll get away with it too…. unless they wake up in the middle of it.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

My controlling bitch of an ex would get angry if I didn't go to bed when she did.

Realvisionary · Answer

I would like to but my sleep pattern is cray cray lol

ALewis30 · Answer

They can if they want to. Especially if both people get lonely.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

If my girl looks as good as you do I'm going to bed whenever she does

Utahred · Answer

At my age all you care about is sleep at any time, any way you can get it.

Marhaban-1 · Answer

I don't think they should be obliged to but I think they should

Anonymous · Answer

We can interfere with each other's attempt to fall asleep if one of use doesn't turn the light out when the other one wants to sleep

DarkCarousel · Answer

I like to as often as possible.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Only if you’re gonna have sex that night

fonduegirl · Answer

That's newly wed drama lol.

JosyJosy · Answer

It doesn't matter to me but it's nice

Andres77 · Answer

As much as they are able... yes.

Iron_Man · Answer

No thanks I’m a night owl

Joker_ · Answer

They should do whatever best suits them

Sketti2021 · Answer

I go to bed before my honey, I get up early too

najekim · Answer

We do most of the time.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Doesn't matter at all.

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

I’d imagine at the same time so they can fuck.

elizamichale1 · Answer

It doesn't really matter much

stuntbrain · Answer

Im not tired

Tania16 · Answer

Not always

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