What does I can’t be in a relationship right now mean?

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Coulis · Accepted Answer

99% of the times it means that I don't want to be in a relationship with you. Correction 99.9% of the time.

There are exceptions and the person really has a lot going on and they just are not in the space and do not feel comfortable letting anyone in. This is more true for people who are in their thirties maybe have a divorce under their belt or some type of other baggage with kids, ex husbands/wives or financial problems.

They have a lot going on in their mind and they really just do not want to get into a relationship. Younger people who don't have any real responsibilities they still want to play around and do what they want to do and it's just a nice way of saying that they don't like you but they don't want to burn the bridge because maybe they might change their mind.

What is on you now is to not let them have the benefit of a commitment without one. Have some self-worth have patience and get a hobby do something fun and go on a road trip and you'll be over it soon enough. And even if you're not over it just pretend like you are soon enough you will be.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

" I can’t be in a relationship with you right now "- There, fixed.  That's a nice way of saying he's not interested in  you . I REALLY hate when people say that! There is no "wrong time" to be in a relationship. More like "wrong person." Rather than hurt your feelings, it's just his way of saying that he doesn't want to date you. However, if the right person he is interested in comes along, then he will be ready for a relationship.  I know that sounds harsh, but take it from someone that's heard that line before. That's your hint to move on and not bother with him.

TallAnon · Accepted Answer

It means, I fucking hate myself, my life and all the bullshit that's going on and frankly, having to care about how others think is currently way too tiring for me and I really don't see you helping that in the near future, so please just leave me alone until I stop hating everything, but also you're not a negative thing, I just don't have the capacity to think about the positives right now.

Yeahhh, I'm not ready for a relationship at the moment myself 😁 I get that feel a bit too well, lmao.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Means for whatever reason (could be several possibilities and/or more than 1, and ones that maybe have nothing at all to do with you) he doesn't want a relationship right now.

It could also be just a "nice" way of telling you he's not interested (ie it's him not you, like women do with us all the time lol). But guys are usually more direct and honest, so he might have some personal reasons that for whatever reason, he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, period, with anyone.

tatianamay · Answer

Well, there are many possibilities. Is the person depressed? Are they going through a rough patch? If yes, then it’s probably because of that and they want to concentrate on themselves and work on themselves yk? Another reason is maybe they do not want to be in a relationship with you. That’s just a gentler way or rejecting someone.

It may be any one of these. My advice for you is to forget about them and move on. People in this comments section who are saying that the other person is full of shit, they’re wrong. People have their reasons yk? You can’t force someone to do something, so please don’t wait for them. They won’t change their decisions

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

That they aren't interested in, or have other priorities than, a relationship right now.

They mean what they say, and if you suspect otherwise the best thing to do is be honest about that suspicion and (gently) press them.

If they maintain, then it's exactly what they mean.

AdithyaR · Answer

It could mean various things
1. They're not in situation to be in a relationship, maybe going through mental strugfles, financial crisis etc

2. It's a gentler way of rejecting someone.

3. They don't want to commit but they want to keep the person around as back up, so they're stringing them along.

Exterminatore · Answer

Depends. If it’s a guy saying it it literally means that and the reasons can very.

If it’s a girl saying it, it means I’m not interested…but if whoever is the latest Hollywood heart throb or a doctor or someone rich and famous and attractive asked me to be with them I’d do it without second thought.

muscularbumblebee · Answer

I use that excuse a lot personally but for me it means exactly that.. It usually meant they don’t have the time or aren’t in the right place for one. Not a bad excuse just the truth don’t look too much into it I’m sure they have their reasons like me

ZackBan · Answer

It means literally what it says. Many people go through hectic times in their lives and a relationship is a commitment they don't need and can't handle but they still meet someone and things develop they just can't see them through.

SlyderKmK · Answer

It just means they don't want to be in a relationship with YOU. I've heard people say this to others before, and then, couple weeks later, you find them "dating" someone else.

It's cool, it's happened to me before... just dont take it personally. It's an easy way to let someone down... without just saying they aren't interested.

Adam1978 · Answer

It means their focus is elsewhere and they don't have the time to properly have relationships right now. It wouldn't be fair to the partner.

topramen1565 · Answer

The bottom line of that statement is that they aren't going to be in a relationship. The reasoning itself differs in various situations. Sometimes it means that they need time to themselves to heal their soul, mind, and heart. On the other hand it could me they don't want to or won't date you. Or they need to focus on something more important than romance such as education, work, family, etc.

mreber92 · Answer

They're not ready to commit for some reason. They could be in a dark headspace, they could have a few girls they're hooking up with, they could still feel burnt by a recent relationship. It's really not a one answer fits all thing. There's lots of reasons to not be ready for a relationship.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

Right girl, wrong time, basically Think about when you might say it, and you'll have the same sort of idea

ohshee · Answer

It means I'm sorry for leading you on but I'm not done playing yet when I can't get any more girls I will come talk to you,,
And for you it needs keep walking and don't look back ever there's something better out there for you

PinkMichae · Answer

It means the person is either not mentally, emotionally, or physically able to sustain a healthy relationship. Could be their heart is not ready or their career is too demanding. Stuff like that.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

I don't think there's a deeper meaning beyond that. There could be any number of reasons but if they all boil down to "I can't be in a relationship right now" then I don't think the reason really matters

MrOracle · Answer

It means that, for some reason, he's not available to be in a relationship. Whether the reasons are legitimate or not, I don't know, but there certainly are legitimate reasons to day that.

spartan55 · Answer

Hahahaha really? He means he can't be in a relationship right now WITH YOU. (Or any other time for that matter)  I seriously didn't know this one was still used.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It means they either don't want to date you, or they are commitment phobic, or they are trying to alter themselves into a version of themselves that will attract who they like, and haven't finished that transition yet.

Starrisunset · Answer

Maybe he's coming out of a bad relationship or he has a really busy schedule and wouldn't have much time for dating. It could also be a polite way of declining a relationship with you.

padreflint · Answer

Maybe he's just come out of a relationship and needs time to deal with it or maybe he's extremely busy in his life right now.

Blackcupcake · Answer

Maybe not available because they’re busy, other priorities, not emotionally available, trying to work on themselves before pursuing a relationship... Could mean a lot of different things

TikiTook · Answer

It could have a plethora of reasons but it all means the same - they can’t give you a relationship right now

Anonymous · Answer

If they already got to know you then it likely means they don't care enough about/are not sufficiently into you to make you a high priority in their life. But they probably will go for something casual if you are game ;)

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

It means what it says it means or it could mean they don't want you and is letting you down (rejecting you) easily as they could. Just stop pursuing.

lorenzomichael · Answer

It simply means that that in no uncertain way do they want to be comitied to a relationship. It's like looking at a restaurant menu and the waiter comes over and you say give me a few more minutes. Get it?

Alejandro3000 · Answer

It means they don't want to be in it with you and likely are finding someone else. Typical bullshit people say when they can't be honest.

Alyssa11 · Answer

It means they don’t want to be in a relationship with you.

fish_in_a_barrel · Answer

for me, it would more than likely be that i am not a loving, caring person. i might like someone, but i know i can't respect my partner enough to be with them.~.

Pterodon · Answer

It means “I’m not interested in you and never will be unless you just want to fuck”

1EVDriver · Answer

No desire for your baggage I’ve got my own to deal with.

Miah02 · Answer

Something in they life is too complicated for them to be in a relationship

Kaneki05 · Answer

Mean's exactly that. If you don't know English i suggest English lessons.

Doflamingo1 · Answer

Sounds like disrespect. Diet, and workout if the meme made you sensitive

Alpha09 · Answer

Exactly that. And sometimes it means not with you. Either way it's not a green light.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

It means at this current juncture, I cannot set time aside to get involved with anyone.

Xavi349 · Answer

Either they are pursuing someone else or they don't find you attractive

Iron_Man · Answer

A lot of the times that means I’m not that interested in you. But the person I find very attractive I got plenty of time for you

StrongbadSquarepants · Answer

In my experience, it usually means that I can't make you the primary focus of what's going on in my life right now, and I'm not going to be able to meet any additional expectations that you may have.

Anonymous · Answer

totally depends on attitude. It can be I don't want to be in a relationship with you but it is not easy to say. It can also be there is a problem which make me unable to be in relationships

Tunasub · Answer

I can't be in a relationship right now seems pretty cut and dry to me...

kinkyguy45 · Answer

Probably that they are healing and vulnerable from another relationship and just want casual friendship or sex with no commitment

LivingExample · Answer

It may mean they have some Issues going on and a relationship would take away from them dealing with them.

Anonymous · Answer

They're not interested in you but don't want to say it so bluntly.

NerdDG · Answer

That they don’t want to have a relationship while suffering from breakup?

Still-alive · Answer

i usually take this as "i don't want a relationship with you"

Shamalien · Answer

Hard to tell, it either means what it says or they don’t like you enough

NightHawk99 · Answer

That's an attempt at rejecting someone without hurting them.  Yes... I've tried it...

MrJMM · Answer

I am not going to be interested in dating anyone anymore so just fucking leave.

OnTheLevel · Answer

It means he doesn't feel like dealing with the drama of a relationship at that point in time.

Nazgol · Answer

That they're a damaged case and require time to move on and heal

michael1469 · Answer

Hmmm tough to say... but i think it means... i can't be in a relationship right now.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It is a way of letting you down gently.

slatyb · Answer

It means "I won't be in a relationship with you."

dudeinohio · Answer

Polite way of turning you down in most cases.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It means they're full of shit.

havingfun101 · Answer

Commitment is a trap fellas

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Not ready or not interested

msc545 · Answer

Involved with someone else.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

It means he just wants to fuck you.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

That they are full of shit

jamezsexton · Answer

Their married

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