I find vagina weirdly ugly which stops me from getting into relationship?

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As weird as it may sound but I find vagina to be quite werid , ugly and am somewhat disgusted by how it looks although I haven't seen one in reality yet.
I find EVERYTHING else about female body to be highly aesthetic, beautiful and charming though.

My dislike towards vagina stops me from getting into relationship because everytime I think of getting into relationship the thought of vagina enters into my mind that after sometime in the relationship or maybe after marriage I would have to see her naked , see her vagina and even have sex with her... which sort of disgusts me. Although I do want to be romantically involved with a girl and I do not want to end up all alone for my life.

How to overcome my dislike and repulsion from vagina, look past this and get into a relationship?

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

You claim you're not gay...
You claim you're not asexual
You claim you want a wife...
You seem to be trying to say you are not sex repulsed but you said in your post "even have sex with her... Which sort of disgusts me..." So clearly you are contradicting yourself
You don't know what is up or down right or left or if you are coming or going... How can anyone help you if you yourself cannot get your own facts straight...
You reject everything everyone has offered...

Well... I'll give it a shot...

Stop looking at porn! It seems the porn is messing with you. Since you haven't had a real girl whatever porn you are watching is screwing you up.
If you honestly want to be with a girl you are going to have to stop thinking about what's in between her legs! That's your main problem. We women are more than just a pussy for you men to F! ck. You need to see the rest of the girl.
You need to look for a girl who makes you laugh and smile when you are having a hard day. You need someone smart and a problem solve. Someone compassionate and patient (with your issues she will have to have patience in abundance)... First find a girl who completes you... Stop thinking about the SEX that's what is ruining you.
You are only focus on the physical!
Get your head straight and out of the filth!
Fall in love with a girl and the sex will not be a challenge.
True love sees past the physical.
Besides you don't even have to look.
Just call yourself shy and keep the damn lights off... Trust me once your penis finds entrance to the proper place with a woman you are head over heels in love with you won't be thinking... You'll be lost in sweet passionate feelings.

MedAsianGirl · Accepted Answer

What if you just don't look at it first when in reality?

Like when you're about to have sex with a girl, you use your finger to find it and feel it, instead of using your eyes to look for it?

Then maybe when you're comfortable enough with touching and having sex, you can try looking at it again and see if anything changes?

Petermorgan34 · Accepted Answer

Well from reading your question it seems you may be asexual or you just are nervous about sex. I am assuming you are a young man who is just coming into the world and experiencing many firsts and are nervous.(We have all been there). Relationships are not just about sex, they entail emotional connections, and loyalty too. Perhaps you may just need to start when/if you get a partner at square one. Once you see one in real life you probably will learn it is what it is.(A helpful way to think of it is as a girl might think a penis is gross but still love and lust over her male partner.) Besides you most likely won't look at it during sex as your field of vision will usually be on her vs your dick/her vagina. You could also be closet gay which is ok too what ever makes you happy man.

Buckzor · Accepted Answer

Is it EVERY vagina? Or just some?

Are they vaginas you've seen only in porn? What's the common factor (s), aka is it the labia, the overall shape, colour?

I think it depends, I genuinely think some vaginas look better than others (don't hate me for the opinion - i'm sure women think some penis look horrible too).

dustybiker · Answer

Sounds like you over-think and you’ve given yourself a difficult problem to overcome. You either choose to move past it (with respect to her while doing so) or you die without ever having had sex. I suggest you talk to your doctor about it. Don’t be embarrassed, they’ve always heard worse.

MrKinktastic · Answer

Sounds like there’s a decent chance your gay and having a bit of jealousy issues. It’s a normal part of figuring it all out.

YollyM · Answer

The vagina is not meant to be looked at, it's meant to be eaten like groceries😂 or f*cked/made love to just like a... Vagina and to give birth. It's not pretty , it looks weird just like the penis😬. You might be gay or just scared to embarass yourself because of being inexperienced, you'll have to figure it out 🤷

Poppykate · Answer

I think you are putting too much pressure on yourself! You have never seen one in person. Is there a way for you to see one in person? Perhaps a friend may let you look and help you overcome your problem? 🤔 it almost sounds like you have a fear of vaginas? Maybe try some therapy?

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I hate labelling people however, that post comes over as Gay or Asexual. there is also a possibility of Demiromantic  I would consider seeing a sexual counsellor and discuss this.

Anonymous · Answer

So you're 26 and have never seen one in person? No judgement just asking But in all seriousness- I've never found dicks to be that attractive either and have only found 1 that I actually liked. But when you are attracted to someone I guess it changes your whole view. Like you might not like vaginas in general but could like it because it is hers (whoever it may be) and you're so attracted to her.

Anonymous · Answer

I can see you are not gay if you were gay you would have known by now?
But I think you are for sure Asexual !!
Maybe you are not interest in sex currently. It might hit you later. But don’t think too much about it..
Who knows somedays you will like a cute girl and like her so much and not care about her cookie

Anonymous · Answer

You might be asexual or sex repulsed. People think that those who are asexual cannot be in a romantic relationship or be intimate, but that’s wrong. I’m asexual and I still have relationships that are purely romantic. I like to cuddle or hold hands as my love language is touch. I just don’t really do the sexual bit, depending on my partner (sometimes sex is important in a relationship for others).

15_Debo · Answer

WEll I find your brain ugly... how can u find it ugly? Dickhead😒

NathanDavis · Answer

try therapy, hypnotism maybe... maybe they can dig you out of some weird-deeply-hidden-vagina-nightmares you have in your subconscious

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Try eating her out. Feels amazing. Tastes good too.

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

That's kind of a long winded way of coming out of the closet

t-8900 · Answer

I'm the opposite, it's the part of the body I'm most attracted to on a woman tbh.

Guardian45 · Answer

I have never NOT liked ALL of women's bodies. I believe you have endured some mental trauma or in denial that you're gay. Seek professional mental health counseling

Shy_Steve · Answer

I have never heard of a straight Guy not wanting to see a vagina. We all have insecurities about our private parts but most of us do not let it dictate our relationships.

JosyJosy · Answer

RIP to the girl who likes you but also loves receiving oral

rienna888 · Answer

Yeah, some are nice though. My vaj is ugly but my boyfriend finds it pretty.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, don't sweat it. You don't like vagina, so what? Some married women don't like sex. You can find yours among some of them.

mobiusforniner · Answer

This is a really, really weird question.

Ninani · Answer

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