My vagina is ugly?

[Anonymous]

So I've recently gotten into a relationship with the man of my dreams but I'm too scared to have sex with him.

I get really bad ingrown hairs down there (genetic trait unfortunately) and have folliculitis down there. So therefore have a lot of scarring and irritated ingrowns and it's quite dark. I've tried EVERYTHING but nothing seems to work, and doctor's always say there's nothing they can do and I should "stop shaving" when I can't even remove the hair from there in the first place as it won't come through, hence the ingrown hairs and discomfort.

I have an ugly vagina and I hate myself for it. I don't understand why I can't just be normal like other women and have a normal vagina they doesn't look like I have terrible acne down there. I know my boyfriend senses I'm insecure about my vagina but I feel like if I tell/show him he'll think I'm gross.

I know my boyfriend really wants to do something soon, and I really want to too, but I'm so scared he will take one look at me and never want to touch me again. Especially since right now I have multiple sore ingrown hairs which will not go away.

What should I do?
And no I do not have any STIs

[Massageman]

Know that your vagina does NOT define you. Your reaction to the situation CAN.

If he's any sort of guy that you would want, he will accept you as you are.

Practical hints - - -
Minimizing genetically inherited, infected hair follicles in the pubic region includes practicing proper hygiene, including regular washing with gentle soap and hot water. Do not share towels, and change your shower washcloth often to prevent bacteria buildup.

It’s especially important to practice good vaginal hygiene during your period. Not only do hormonal shifts cause the skin to be more sensitive, but there’s also a higher population of bacteria that can infect hair follicles and chafed skin.

Use an exfoliant recommended by your dermatologist — do not use facial products on the vagina unless prescribed. If you choose to shave, use a sharp, clean razor and change it frequently, or switch to an electric razor. You may also wish to consider alternative hair removal methods, such as waxing, depilatories, or laser hair removal.

These procedures remove the entire hair from the root. When the hairs grow back, they’re typically finer, with a smooth tip instead of the blunt, rough tip that shaved hairs have, reducing instances of ingrown hairs.

Genital folliculitis is generally mild and easily preventable with proper hygiene and care. However, it's important to note that certain STIs can look very similar to a folliculitis bump or vaginal acne. If you're sexually active, consider seeking medical attention to check up for a more serious condition.

good luck!

[Wharvey98]

Have you looked into laser hair removal. I know it’s impractical in some cases. But depending on the number of ingrown hairs you have it could work for you. Also, I’d suggest explaining what’s wrong to him. If he’s the right kind of guy he’ll role with it. If he doesn’t then he’s not someone you want to be having sex with. Also dim lighting/ no lighting is an option. And I've never heard a guy comment about the appearance of a woman’s vagina. Typically men don’t care as long as your healthy and willing.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

That boy's "other head" doesn't have eyes. All that "other head" wants to do is get in. So, just relax and let those raging hormones have their way.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

[nerms123]

Just trim. Don’t shave. Do a gentle skincare routine on it and have sex in dim lighting. Chances are he really won’t care

[KatherineJ]

I don’t think he’s going to care as long as he gets to put his dick in you. (Use protection)

[Ripper_E]

You have no pubic hair? If all of them are ingrown then that entire area would be swollen and probably infected. Or do you simply have a lot of ingrown hairs?

I can't say much because i can't see it, but you have to trust your partner. Besides, if sex is the issue, I doubt he'd be thinking about that if he's inside you.

[Asker]

Most of them are ingrown, very short and fine hairs grow at the top, the bottom is a lot more normal and hair grows regularly there. It is quite sore and scabby at times especially when I'm nearing my monthly period

[Anonymous]

go see a doctor dumb ass. and no need to be insecure since since guys are all doesn't mind what shape it is. it's just us, freaking out almost everything. my guy said that I'm just being too much and exaggerating a lot. lol

[Asker]

You obviously didn't read what I said lol

[GermanGuy87]

just show him and act like nothings wrong. He probably won't care

[JohnAlaska43]

Try waxing that may help.
If you haven't done so.

[scooogy]

So in general it's about hair down there?