Yes. That's how it's supposed to start anyway. Because you need to know whether or not you're compatible. Hobbies and common interest is not what makes a relationship or marriage. You got to think of it like a feeling or the very top layer of the cake. But the foundation has to be there. Without a foundation then there's nothing to build on or stand on.
You need to know whether or not is he sexually active. He need to know if he is how many he been with. You need to know if he got tested. Needed to know what he wants to do with his life. You need to know where he sees himself going eventually. You need to know whether or not if he's stable in all parts of his life. You need to know what kind of family background he comes from. What kind of friends he had, the kind of friends he presently have now. Whether or not he wants to get married or have kids. So you got a lot you got to figure out. You don't want to wait until you're dating and then you want to break up with a person that you could just weeded out a long time ago.
Remember, you got to be objective about this. You don't want to get caught up with the emotions in the hide and then you get to mostly invested then if you end up in a situation where it becomes talk but you won't be able to get out of it cuz you're too invested. To guard your heart, to guard your mind, to protect your emotions, and to be able to fully give all of you to that one person you truly want to be with, start off at friends first. Continue to build and cultivate that friendship. That will determine whether or not if you truly love each other.
It depends, me and my current partner we where Friendsemies, we hated each others guts lol... but we somehow fell in love during a fight and after that we just kissed and here we are after 7 years being still in a stable relationship ( with ups and downs but who doesn't have those lol) ...
I think it doesn't matter how you meet, if you where friends first, enemies or strangers... when the spark comes it's there and you can feel it LOL
no, no, and hell no. It's been proven many times the best thing you can do is see them only as a romance option or a friend, usually not both. People mix up acquaintances with friends so often these days. I usually dont decide if I want to commit to someone until the 4th or 5th date after i've had them sent through the filters to see if there's going to be any long term ramifications first. I dont consider this friendship as I make the intentions known up front that I see them or want to see them only in a romantic way. The amount of time I spend on her as a friend is time I could spend cultivating something with someone else and life is too short with a busy work life.
You should be friends forever , not just driven by sexual attraction, so being friends is important, but don't get stuck in friend zone too long if you both want more
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If you asked me that at the beginning of this year I would have said "Yes" but I am currently in a relationship in which I am extremely happy and we get along very well. That relationship started quite quickly. We texted for few weeks, it was very fun and flirtatious. Then we went out together. Whithin about seven days from our first date we were already on our third date and then we decided to be officially boyfriend and girlfriend. Those dates were amazing and long lasting (surprisingly long lasting).
First date started at 5 pm and ended 1 am, second one from 6 pm to about 3-4 am. Third one even longer.
So now thinking about that I think you don't necessarily have to be friends first.
For me I mean that's the only way that I can do it you have to have that initial Bond or. At least I do. When I get into a relationship I get into it. But I get into it because of the Bond that I have and the intensity that it brings in that I feel from it and that I feel from her at the same time when I can find that person we're usually friends first
Yes. You need to get to know them better. I believe once you're friends and gotten to know each other, trust can form.
Just wait to see if you actually like that person or not or if the other party feels the same or not.
It's a good idea, but I think people change so much when romance gets involved that the way somebody acts as your friend isn't necessarily indicative of the kind of romantic relationship you will have with them. Being friends first is a good idea, just don't have any preconceived ideas.
Nothing wrong with getting to know each other more. By the sounds of it you are more than friends already if you have a connection.
In an ideal world this would be the way to go. However in my experience when women say “friends first” they really mean “friéndzone forever”. The only exception is when they see their guy friend getting romantic attention from someone else. Funny how jealousy motivates women.
You should ALWAYS start off being friends first. For at least a minimum of two years. Then after that, have a more serious conversation about advancing, if the two of you feel you are ready and still find romantic interest in each other.
I like flirty friends. My wife and I were flirty friends for over a year. There is a different dynamic than just friends without being flirty. We touched each other a lot and kissed and danced and she kissed me before we went out.
Every female who has ever said to me that she wants to be friends first, has always ended up dating the first hot guy that comes around. A lot of times it depends on your looks because that's what gets you in the front door.
No, you should just grab a girl you see on the street, rip her clothes off and start fucking her right there.
Absolutely. I never got this idea that you can't date your friends. Why not? You already know you get along at a certain level, which is better than someone you just met.
It's a good idea to know who he is first.
Blind dates are an oxymoron.
Yes don’t see why not it might even build a stronger bond
Here is my advice, don't date someone you wouldn't be friends with.
Yes because once people's comment then friendship becomes best friends
No, you should be enemies first. Dear god this is dumbfounding.
Depends on the situation honestly. Every relationship is different.
I like it, because you already passed the shared interests phase.
Sure, it can be a fine way to get started.
Yes because it is the best way to get to know someone
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