Is it best to be friends first?

[SamIAm28]

Right when I punched out of work, I went to the deli to get some Irish potato salad. Standing right next to me was this girl and she was just happening to wear a Breaking Bad shirt. And coincidentally, I was wearing a Los Pollos Hermanos shirt. I even mentioned it to her and we briefly chatted but I didn't stay to talk because I was afraid. So I just said "I'll see you around" and she said "it was really nice talking to you". I feel like I blew it. I would've loved it if I kept talking and maybe asked for her number, but maybe thats not the right thing to do since I've heard that most relationships start as friends. I've never had a girlfriend and mostly avoided the opposite sex my whole life because they say you should "stop looking". Thats what I dont understand. Should I be friends first before I date someone? How long should I wait to ask someone out? Of course one step at a time. If I did ask for her number then I would've gotten to know her better and maybe ask her to coffee or an activity. I just don't want to put the girl on the spot and if she said no, it would make me think I did something wrong. How did you meet your boyfriend/girlfriend? Were you friends first? Is it like in those romantic comedies (When Harry Met Sally, 10 things I hate about you, Adventureland etc.) where they ALWAYS start out as friends? I wish I could read the female mind. Im also afraid to get "friendzoned" if thats even a real thing. Im 28 now so how about life start happening for me or else someone's going to end up like something from Schindler's List.

[SandandWaves]

i think it is Very important to be friends first before dating. It would have been ok to ask if you can give her your number.

I wasn't looking when I met my first true love

[SamIAm28]

Then how do you be friends first without falling into the friendzone? You don't want to be dishonest and pretend to be her friend even when you like her.

[SandandWaves]

you get to know each other. take her out...

[Anonymous]

Shoudl've asked for the number, but no worries. All men are intimidated by pretty girls.

That casual confidence is your greatest asset. Use it next time. With practice, you'll land a few numbers per week. Just be calm, fun, and witty. And again, PRACTICE.

[slatyb]

After a pleasant conversation, it's fine to ask a woman for her number. If I were you, I would give her mine "I would love to see you again, text me if you are interested. Here's my number."