Well if this is your first time doing this you can do it two different ways you can either think ahead can understand that the guy either likes you more than that and wants to go because of different reasons but he's going to want something. Or if you don't want it to go that way you set ground rules. We have all been through this where a cuddle has turned into something more or the guy wants something more and then has a pissy fit when the girl says no. When I was younger I have had friends like that and I wanted something I I was led to believe that there was more there but I learned a couple quick. And it wasn't until then I started looking at girls a lot deeper and having a lot more respect for them and just about that time there was a girl that liked me and she wanted to do more than cuddle and she would not stop touching me and it pissed me off and that made me think at that moment this is what girls are talking about when guys are bucking aggressive and that made me realize there are boundaries that you just do not cross. I have more girls that are friends than guys that are friends and that friendship with a girl is usually because we like each other but you have to understand that there's a difference is both people and how they understand and look at the relationship no I could go out with many girls right now my friends and I could cuddle and I could get laid. But in my heart I know that if we ever got into a relationship he would never ever work for long. Of time and that respect did I have for that person makes me not even want to go there I would rather be her friend than to use her to get laid and Say Goodbye as a friendship it's just not cool if not right so both people in your case you and your friend have to both understand this and ask yourselves what's more important. And that goes for no matter what type of friendship you have with the person you have to look at it and be honest a year down the road five years down the road would you still be together
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First, if you are in a relationship and want to cuddle with some other opposite sex person... no no! I'd question the character of anyone even wanting to do that and if you did I'd say you really aren't good boyfriend or girlfriend material. But if you want to cuddle with another man bring it up to your boyfriend and see if they are ok with it. If not and you still plan to do it you two should break up.
If you are single it is fine to cuddle but the they you describe still sounds weird.
If 2 friends are just hanging out and one leans against the other and they started cuddling organically that is normal. I had a senior class trip to Florida and several vans went down and a few times my female friend sitting next to me cuddled as we were sleepy several times. But to actually specifically schedule a friend date to come over to where you live to actually cuddle. That sounds weird. To make a specific date to meet up alone to cuddle. You two sound like a friends with "benefits" type of thing rather than 2 friends who were organically hanging out and then just started cuddling.
Yes, friends can cuddle! I am very cuddly with my female friends and i dont really have much male friends but not all my male friends can cuddle with me, especially the ones that may have a crush on me, they can't. Just because I would allow some of them to cuddle, doesn't mean they have the possibility of sleeping with me.
Friends can hug, not cuddle. Cuddling is overstepping friend boundary. Why can't you just play video games and enjoy each other's company without cuddling? And who first suggested the cuddling?
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How will you respond when he is spooning you from behind and you feel him getting a boner? If you think that won't happen, you are not very experienced with guys.
Yeah, I knew a guy who said he was "just friends"with the chick he stayed with, then said they "just cuddled" sometimes.. yeah no they were having sex.. most times cuddling leads to other things, to me that's an intimacy that shouldn't be shared between just friends... And if you're boyfriend is okay with it, probably because he's probably "cuddling" other females, or will now seeing you're doing so with another guy.
Yes of course. I've done so with many just friends without it meaning anything.
You see i am a very not conservative person so i don't see anything about been open with friends as weird.
Friends can also have sex with each other without it meaning anything. But that's a different topic it's similar in the way but...
For example cuddling wouldn't be classed as cheating. But sexual acts would be. So that's a key difference if your friends with someone but not single.
If single you can do literally anything with a friend and it not mean anything. When with someone not really. But usually non-sexual acts aren't classed as cheating so any of that with friend should be fine.
That been said partners right there own terms so who knows with all that.
Also don't be shocked though if the guy cuddling you does like you in a minor crush way. Just due to how one normally naturally happens when there is a fair bit of openness. But this crush never has to lead anywhere or mean anything.
I've cuddled friends and thought about them as i wished i was with them. But i've never made it awkward or made anything out of it. Since i don't make first moves and especially not in that position however some made them to me first and i returned the favour.
At the end of the day the simplest way to sum it up. Is you can do whatever you want with a friend with maybe only limits depending on status of taken or not and what set rules that taken status has.That’s an excellent question and the answer is: yes! More people should feel free to cuddle. Some people are worried that guys might pressure a girl into sex when they are cuddling. That’s a valid worry and if the intentions are clearly stated but you feel unsafe, maybe you can get out of the situation. But if you trust your friend to accept your boundaries, you should absolutely go for it.
You can be just friends with other genders. This is not just friends. What is being described here is being with two men and getting gratification on two different levels. It’s not possible to just cuddle a friend. It breaks friends boundaries. All which is fine, if all are fine with it.
Sure you can cuddle, but after that he’s going to want more from you rather he says it or not. That’s crossing the line of friendship boundaries because cuddling brings connection and bonding which can awaken emotions.
No. I mean technically yes because a spouse is supposed to be your best friend... but no, in the sense that cuddling is something a couple typically does, and regular platonic friends don't.
That said, worthwhile relationships start out as just friends who broke that rule, So if the idea of being his girlfriend sounds ok to you, I wouldn't overthink it.I would never be able to do that. But some people are naturally outgoing and free in their affections, so it doesn't have to be weird. I would only do that with a girl if we were close in another way. Although even if you are good friends I can't help but think that the guy has at least thought of pounding you from behind when spooning.
It sounds very cozy. This is my first time hearing of someone scheduling "cuddle time". It seems like it would be very enjoyable though.
I'm the most sincere guy you'll ever meet, I can platonically hug a female friend of mine without any problems.
But I'd be lying if I said cuddling with her won't spark some non-friendly thoughts and feelings in my head as well as physical effects.You're just fooling yourself if you think he doesn't expect anything to come out from this. Your kind of behavior is the reason some guys say we women "lead them on".
What? Hell, no. Then what's the difference if he is a boyfriend?
Yes only if they are both :
1- stright ladiez
2- gay gentlemen
😁That will end up both of you on the bed... There's no real friendship between men and women. If man say you're my friend then he's probably 6+ figure and knows very well he has many other options but if things heat's up then nature have its own way keep eye on your pants
If he’s gay, I guess.
If he’s not? Then what the fuck is going on?
Just keep things platonic
Things can get complicated really quick when “friends” cuddle……..Be warned: This is how it always starts. My ex and I started out the exact same way. I went to visit her one time as a friend and right before I left she was very affectionate. The next time I came down we spent most of the time cuddling and started dating afterwards. You might rationalize it as just friends but it's not. If you don't want a relationship, now is the time to draw the line.
Nothing better then a good cuddle, my friends are huggers so having a good bear hug is securing.
Hugs yes, cuddles no. Cuddles have a different type of intimacy to yh m and I think that it would lead to something more just by the nature of how our brains tend to work
Yes, however I would "establish" this with him before hand that this is ALL that's happening (if that's what you want). Some guys will take it as an "invitation" for more maybe? Or question it at least.
I had female friends and sometimes we would cuddle a little or maybe hold hands at the movies. Sometimes it would make me a little confused about the relationship.
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