For better or worse. And I have the scars to prove it. Anyone marrying someone just for their good looks is not in it for the long term. Good looks get you noticed. You had better have something more about you to keep their interest. Character, behaviour, values, integrity, loyalty, warmth, truth.
Went from Jessica Rabbit to large Marge in no time it seems, my ex wife used to fluctuate quite a bit, I wouldn’t say anything but if she got too big I would be concerned about her health and get her to change things but it would be bad to leave her for that unless she doesn’t care about anything
Yeah well, how do you turn a fox into an elephant? Marry it.
Part of the game, kiddo. No one stays young and healthy forever, but minds and hearts meld together forever, for a select few.
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I stayed, but it was miserable. I tried everything, but she just didn't care. Then I found out she cheated, and that was it. Looking back, I should have divorced her much sooner. A woman who gets fat after marriage doesn't respect or care about her husband, so that whole "for better or worse" thing is foolishness. Recognise when a marriage is one-sided and get the hell out early. Or even better, don't marry at all. The concept of human ownership is outdated and needs to die
@Charliefretz329 that's what marriage started as, and what it still represents to this day. You "belong to each other", and there are penalties for doing things your spouse considers a violation of that ownership. You are no longer your own person, your own master. Of course, we use language that romanticizes it because we don't like to think of it in those terms, but that's what it is. You can call it a partnership if you want, but that's just a more palatable way of saying you don't get to make decisions on your own anymore
And the crux of the matter lies in the penalties for each party. If the man cheats, his wife has the upper hand in divorce court. If she cheats... well... she still has the upper hand in court. So there are no penalties for her. She'll still get your children, spousal support, half of your life earnings, child support, etc. Its a lose-lose contract for men and a win-win for women, which when you boil it down, means that she owns you. And men buy $10,000 dollar trinkets and get down on their knees and beg for it. We're fools
depends on what the reason is why she turned fat, if it follow up numerous pregnancies and this results in you having the wonder of children broguht to your life, then you stick with that chick...
if she grows careless and turns fat out of laziness and eating crappy food , then gtfo..
Both partners should make an effort to stay in shape. Either by controlling eating habits or working out or both. Getting married is not a get fat free card.
Everybody ages. Some change is normal. If she went from fit...130 pounds and gets to 220 and she isn't even the same person... something better change.
Of course I would stay and together get back into shape. I mean that is kindvof point of marriage... To stand together in both the good and the bad times.
Here’s the thing, I would leave. But not right away and not for the fact that she became fat. It’s because that’s typically a mental health thing. I would try to get her help but if she didn’t make any progress or try to even help herself then I would leave. I’m not going to waste my time and my happiness trying to help someone that doesn’t want to help themselves.
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it depends but part of the equation is that women file for divorce at a higher rate than men so they are not respecting the "For better or worse" agreement for what ever reason. That makes me not want to get married but if I did it would make me reconsider For better or for Worse
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I'm gonna keep myself fit and healthy through our marriage no matter how hard life gets, it's gonna be 50% for my own health and 50% for keeping her happy, if she's gonna ignore that fact and just go and fatten herself up selfishly, I won't let it slip and I'd try my best to make her change that behaviour before ultimately making a huge problem about it.
Yes I would stay with her and help her in regaining back her main image. Since we are one soul in a relationship supposed yo support each other no matter what. So I would stay.
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That depends. Was she with the guy because of his wealth, status? Was the relationship was a trade-off beauty with money? Does she possess any other qualities except looking hot? If you accept someone at their bad, they will be with you at yours too. If not they can leave. Too bad most pretty women always want to trade off beauty with status money.
If it was a conscious decision not to take care of herself after the ring goes on? No, I wouldn't. Taking care of and respecting your own body is important to me and putting on weight because "now we're married" isn't acceptable.
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For better or worse. And I have the scars to prove it.
Anyone marrying someone just for their good looks is not in it for the long term.
Good looks get you noticed. You had better have something more about you to keep their interest.
Character, behaviour, values, integrity, loyalty, warmth, truth.
Went from Jessica Rabbit to large Marge in no time it seems, my ex wife used to fluctuate quite a bit, I wouldn’t say anything but if she got too big I would be concerned about her health and get her to change things but it would be bad to leave her for that unless she doesn’t care about anything
Yet she is an Ex for some reason.
Both should stay in decent, healthy weight.
Women have their babyweight periods, that should be later normalized, with the guys help and support too.
Both should find it fun to stay active with their lifestyle.
The deal is in sickness and in health, for richer of poorer.
So then you are a "stay", not an "exit"?
I see what you just did there. Yes, I am a stayer.
Yeah well, how do you turn a fox into an elephant? Marry it.
Part of the game, kiddo. No one stays young and healthy forever, but minds and hearts meld together forever, for a select few.
I stayed, but it was miserable. I tried everything, but she just didn't care. Then I found out she cheated, and that was it. Looking back, I should have divorced her much sooner. A woman who gets fat after marriage doesn't respect or care about her husband, so that whole "for better or worse" thing is foolishness. Recognise when a marriage is one-sided and get the hell out early. Or even better, don't marry at all. The concept of human ownership is outdated and needs to die
Human ownership? Interesting comparison
@Charliefretz329 that's what marriage started as, and what it still represents to this day. You "belong to each other", and there are penalties for doing things your spouse considers a violation of that ownership. You are no longer your own person, your own master. Of course, we use language that romanticizes it because we don't like to think of it in those terms, but that's what it is. You can call it a partnership if you want, but that's just a more palatable way of saying you don't get to make decisions on your own anymore
And the crux of the matter lies in the penalties for each party. If the man cheats, his wife has the upper hand in divorce court. If she cheats... well... she still has the upper hand in court. So there are no penalties for her. She'll still get your children, spousal support, half of your life earnings, child support, etc. Its a lose-lose contract for men and a win-win for women, which when you boil it down, means that she owns you. And men buy $10,000 dollar trinkets and get down on their knees and beg for it. We're fools
That’s true for many! Good explanation
Im sorry that happened to you!
depends on what the reason is why she turned fat, if it follow up numerous pregnancies and this results in you having the wonder of children broguht to your life, then you stick with that chick...
if she grows careless and turns fat out of laziness and eating crappy food , then gtfo..
Both partners should make an effort to stay in shape. Either by controlling eating habits or working out or both. Getting married is not a get fat free card.
Like in Monopoly? Pass refrigerator and collect 200 calories.
Hahaha, exactly!
Everybody ages.
Some change is normal.
If she went from fit...130 pounds and gets to 220 and she isn't even the same person... something better change.
Of course I would stay and together get back into shape. I mean that is kindvof point of marriage... To stand together in both the good and the bad times.
Here’s the thing, I would leave. But not right away and not for the fact that she became fat. It’s because that’s typically a mental health thing. I would try to get her help but if she didn’t make any progress or try to even help herself then I would leave. I’m not going to waste my time and my happiness trying to help someone that doesn’t want to help themselves.
it depends but part of the equation is that women file for divorce at a higher rate than men so they are not respecting the "For better or worse" agreement for what ever reason. That makes me not want to get married but if I did it would make me reconsider For better or for Worse
I'm gonna keep myself fit and healthy through our marriage no matter how hard life gets, it's gonna be 50% for my own health and 50% for keeping her happy, if she's gonna ignore that fact and just go and fatten herself up selfishly, I won't let it slip and I'd try my best to make her change that behaviour before ultimately making a huge problem about it.
Being unfit and being obese are two different things. Idc if you stop being fit but if you become obese then idc to stay.
Yes I would stay with her and help her in regaining back her main image. Since we are one soul in a relationship supposed yo support each other no matter what. So I would stay.
That depends. Was she with the guy because of his wealth, status? Was the relationship was a trade-off beauty with money? Does she possess any other qualities except looking hot? If you accept someone at their bad, they will be with you at yours too. If not they can leave. Too bad most pretty women always want to trade off beauty with status money.
If I really liked her and thought she was the one, then probably, as much as becoming really fat, wouldn't be ideal.
Well, I’m not sure, I guess it depends on how fat she got to be honest. The before and after pictures in your question look rather drastic/extreme.
Yeah i would be there coz i married her... and like she is my wife... not a girlfriend or just a need of time relationship...
If it was a conscious decision not to take care of herself after the ring goes on? No, I wouldn't. Taking care of and respecting your own body is important to me and putting on weight because "now we're married" isn't acceptable.