It is said: "If you want to preview how your 'hottie' SO will age, ... look at her biological mother"
The most alluring woman I've ever known but wasn't 'sufficient' for her wander lust in her 20's is now 60 and as expected has gained about 35 lbs, on her 5'4" figure. (Back then, she herself remarked I treated her like a queen)
... Gravity has taken its toll on her breasts, tummy and buns. She writes me now as a regretful 'friend' having harvested the crop of her 'wild oats' and bemoans she's feeling 'broken'.
I always WILL LOVE her til I die; she rocked my world but I am under NO obligation to ruin my present life's committed relationship to a GOOD woman whom loves me.
She's lost one brother to drugs and reckless lifestyle on his motorcycle and estranged her other.
She and her own two brothers headstrong behaviors bred forward from her father, who despite with a bronchial CPAP oxygen inhaler in one hand was a two pack a day smoker till he died from lung cancer. (Sammy Davis's "I did it MY WAY...")
The son she had with the guy she dumped me for and married, by negligent birth control, who then abandoned her two years into their marriage and that son is now engaged with his high school sweetheart. (PLEASE don't breed 'true')
My own ego chafes as I fight my inclination for the proverbial 'I TOLD YOU SO! And, this DIDN'T have to be like this!" And I bite my tongue, reminding her I pray for her, nightly.---
'Karma can be a bitch with teething puppies' :'(
How come no one ever brings up how common bestiality is in animation? Who Framed Roger Rabbit, Sonic the Hedgehog, Family Guy with Brian Griffin... I mean, it really does get overlooked, doesn't it? Or do we assume Roger and Jessica have a sexless marriage?
Anyway, I don't care too much about looks, as long as her heart is still there and sex is still semi-regular. So don' you fret your pretty little head, @Daniela1982. I'll still love you even when your ass has gotten fat, "not in a good way," and your perky D's have become floor dusters! Just take a cue from Pierce Brosnan and his wife, Keely Shaye.
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Just depends on how much she let herself go , if she had no desire to feel good about herself and got lazy as fuck and didn’t care about herself then that would be a turn off , I would try to help her stay focused and help her get out of that rut she is in , but if she didn’t make any attempts to do that after I told her she is getting overweight , then that just tells me she doesn’t care about me either , Yes we all change and get older and are bodies change , but that isn’t an excuse to just give up on yourself , so if she put weight on I would still love her and try to help her get back on track and support her , but if she completely gave up and didn’t give a shit then that would be a turn off to me and I would probably start losing attraction towards her , if I got lazy and gained weight I would want her to support me and get myself back on track as well , Relationships are team work and love only comes when 2 people support each other through good times and bad , if she ran out and cheated on me cuz I gained 20 pounds then she is a selfish piece of shit person and I would be glad she wasn’t by my side anymore , But if she supported me and said baby you are putting on weight I would respect that and tell her ok I am going to get myself back in gear cuz I want to look good for you like how I want you to look good for me , so if I see her making attempts to get back in shape then I would totally support her a 100 percent
When I got with my wife she was a knockout. She had the most rocking body absolutely perfect in my eyes of course we didn’t get together as soon as we met a little bit of time between first meeting and actually hooking up but I fell in love with her the second I laid eyes on her and she was 9 months pregnant just about 2 days from having my future adopted daughter anyway pregnant I fell for her absolute knockout we hooked up fast forward a marriage and a few years and she put on a few pounds or so and I always saw as I first saw her the love of my life as the weight fluctuates I loved her the same as a matter of fact when she got pregnant with our daughter (I have 4 daughters that I love and raised all the same) and she gained a good amount of weight i gained weight right alongside her. I fell in love with the spirit I saw inside my wife her outer beauty was just a bonus. When I met her I went from having a lot of top shelf girls I messed with and only interested in the sex to being a responsible dad not overnight but I knew what I wanted
Your incredible!
If I were a man that would be an issue for me. I would have the same issue man did that to me. I met you when you were up keeping yourself whats the problem now? I plan to not slack off after marriage and children, I would not feel good if i dont look my best. That is why its good to plan things out and get into good habits now so that in the feature it wouldn't be an issue.
The biggest hurdle is maintaining you weight after having children. During a pregnancy you get certain cravings that you can't always control, like craving a Pepsi, or pickles, or ice cream. Then these things you continue to eat after birth. Some can stop and others can't. It's like a guy turning to flab after staking steroids and then stopping, if they can.
Well I guess everyone is different. If you dont give into the cravings nothing with will happen to the baby or you. Women who seriously exercise during pregnancy look great after after. That is why it's alway good to exercise and eat healthy in general (before, during and after pregnancy) so that weight and health would not be an issue. People with self control get the mainly get best results.
As for men, what are their excuse for not up keeping themselves? From my observation men and women who use to workout for years and stopped dont get out of hand and slowly gain weight. Then when they start to work out they bounce back after six months to a year or so due to muscle memory.
Once the person is really trying I have no problem but laziness is a no go.
only if she’s showing effort to correct it. nothing wrong with bigger women but if i met you a certain way that means i was attracted to that. i know some changes can’t be controlled with age but that’s us growing together. if she’s just not taking care of her body anymore it will definitely hurt our relationship. i can completely love her BUT i can’t control what i’m attracted to and attraction is a major part of healthy relationships. i believe we both should try our best to continue the same work we did to get each other to keep each other.
Just because I love you doesn't mean I'm a doormat. I have self respect & that means I won't let you play me for a fool. Unless you have a real medical issue that wasn't cause by being fat and lazy... then you have no excuse to become a fat pig.
A guy like me makes it 100% clear long before even being engaged that if you get lazy and fat without a really good reason, you're getting dumped. I'm totally fit and always have been and I expect her to put in a reasonable effort. If she gives up on that she's also giving up on the relationship. Imagine if a man said to his wife: I'm going to quit my job and live at the homeless shelter because it feels GOOD. It makes me forget all the BS in my life. 99% of women would leave him within 1 week. That's like a woman stuffing her face & swilling booze endlessly.
I don’t think I would throw in the towel but I would catch in her descent out of her healthy lifestyle and see if I can do something to help assist her. I wouldn’t just marry on looks alone. You have to have a sexy mind too which means personality and intelligence.
Yes, love has everything to do with it. We all lose our looks and our bodies start to sag as we get older. But if we open our hearts, minds and stay open to life, we can become more beautiful inside. In my opinion, it would be a shallow person who would get divorced over weight gain. Maybe they did not really love the woman and were looking for an excuse?
me i dont give a damn i guess bc im not like most guys but im not foolish enough to think looks last forever so fat or burn of it she lost a leg or arm im stick with her and dead her man, i'm old school but i believe if two are in love then there nothing they can't over come together
I still would date her, I don't care for her weight but I would try to convince her to start diet, I don't care for her becoming her old weight I just don't want her to risk catching diabetes or worst. I want her to be healthy, the same is with me if I turned insanely fat and look unhealthy I would want my future girl to tell me about starting a diet.
The key word is MARRIED. My good friend married a woman who put on 150 pounds (yes, 150#) during their first ten years of marriage. She weighs over 300 pounds and they haven't slept in the same bed in 20 years.
Even so, they are still married. Why? Marriage is for better or worse... and it's too expensive to divorce her fat ass. This guy has so many side chicks that I can't keep them straight.
Did he ever get her to try and stay fit or did she just let herself go?
The the first ten years he bought her gym memberships which she never used, a cycling machine which she never rode (too boring) and then an actual bicycle which she refused to ride (she was too embarrassed to peddle around outside because she's-- fat). Exercising machines? all gathering dust. Diets? name one she hasn't tried- she couldn't stick to any of them. Nagging her about her weight? it only made her cry... and then eat even more. Ten years was enough, so he moved out of the bedroom and into the guest room, and hasn't left since.
Some just can't seem to break old habits, such as loving food. You can lose weight if you really want to bad enough. I lost 55 pounds and went from 190 to 135 but, believe me, it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do.
This is why you choose someone with an active lifestyle and a healthy diet.
If your partner isn't willing to go running with you while you're dating them, end the relationship. And if they drink soft drinks and refuse to eat salads, end the relationship.
Also, if she has an obsession with baking cakes, pies, and cookies, end the relationship.
It depends on why she became fat, and how it affects the relationship, of course she will become unattractive with aging, and so will I, but you don't become morbidly obese all of a sudden, and sexual attraction is not the only problem here, when I become old I'll soon forget about sex, I'm just not interested in taking care of someone that doesn't care about themselves.
No way, once married, forever married, that's my rule!
Except if she cheats than it's over and it might turn out ugly because as much as i'm good, i can be bad!
Physical looks do matter to me but not as much as the inside beauty, especially in a marriage i need tk be comfortable and happy and a love that lasts forever...
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Well first off I will always believe in physical fitness so if my girl start getting fat than I will ask her to workout with me but if she constantly refuses despite doctors telling her that she needs to for her health than I will leave because she has gotten lazy and unhealthy. She doesn’t want to change for the better and their for is considered toxic and that’s just gonna lead to bigger issues that i don’t want
I’m against marriage but I don’t have a problem with long lasting relationships of the type you are describing. I don’t think the body changes that we all go through will affect my feelings or my attraction.
Becoming fat isn't about the better or worse. It's by purpose becoming the worse. And that isn't fair. So everyone that dumb their lazy partner is actually doing the right thing. Be cause they have stopped caring about the relationship. It's not about sickness, growing old or poverty like when those words was written. And obesity basically didn't exist.
Barring any medical conditions, it depends on the couple.
Personally, I hold my fitness to a high standard and the future life I am committed to is one where both my partner and I are down to put in the effort to stay strong, healthy and sexy.
If she knows that going in and agrees, then she understands that letting herself go violates an important agreement of the relationship. It shouldn't be much of a chore either.
Yeah, I'd leave if my partner let themselves go.
We don't stay the same, but we have complete control over what we eat and lifestyle. You don't become overweight or fat in a short period of time. If she took care of herself in the past, she can take care of herself in the future. No excuse for that.
I personally would always wanna look my best for my man and expect the same in return though
I have stayed with my partners through all of their different bodily changes in the past.
If she's gonna have your baby, she's likely gonna get bigger so it's expected.
Went from Jessica Rabbit to large Marge in no time it seems, my ex wife used to fluctuate quite a bit, I wouldn’t say anything but if she got too big I would be concerned about her health and get her to change things but it would be bad to leave her for that unless she doesn’t care about anything
Yet she is an Ex for some reason.
Both should stay in decent, healthy weight.
Women have their babyweight periods, that should be later normalized, with the guys help and support too.
Both should find it fun to stay active with their lifestyle.
The deal is in sickness and in health, for richer of poorer.
So then you are a "stay", not an "exit"?
Yeah well, how do you turn a fox into an elephant? Marry it.
Part of the game, kiddo. No one stays young and healthy forever, but minds and hearts meld together forever, for a select few.
For better or worse. And I have the scars to prove it.
Anyone marrying someone just for their good looks is not in it for the long term.
Good looks get you noticed. You had better have something more about you to keep their interest.
Character, behaviour, values, integrity, loyalty, warmth, truth.
I stayed, but it was miserable. I tried everything, but she just didn't care. Then I found out she cheated, and that was it. Looking back, I should have divorced her much sooner. A woman who gets fat after marriage doesn't respect or care about her husband, so that whole "for better or worse" thing is foolishness. Recognise when a marriage is one-sided and get the hell out early. Or even better, don't marry at all. The concept of human ownership is outdated and needs to die
Human ownership? Interesting comparison
@Charliefretz329 that's what marriage started as, and what it still represents to this day. You "belong to each other", and there are penalties for doing things your spouse considers a violation of that ownership. You are no longer your own person, your own master. Of course, we use language that romanticizes it because we don't like to think of it in those terms, but that's what it is. You can call it a partnership if you want, but that's just a more palatable way of saying you don't get to make decisions on your own anymore
And the crux of the matter lies in the penalties for each party. If the man cheats, his wife has the upper hand in divorce court. If she cheats... well... she still has the upper hand in court. So there are no penalties for her. She'll still get your children, spousal support, half of your life earnings, child support, etc. Its a lose-lose contract for men and a win-win for women, which when you boil it down, means that she owns you. And men buy $10,000 dollar trinkets and get down on their knees and beg for it. We're fools
That’s true for many! Good explanation
Im sorry that happened to you!
depends on what the reason is why she turned fat, if it follow up numerous pregnancies and this results in you having the wonder of children broguht to your life, then you stick with that chick...
if she grows careless and turns fat out of laziness and eating crappy food , then gtfo..
Both partners should make an effort to stay in shape. Either by controlling eating habits or working out or both. Getting married is not a get fat free card.
Like in Monopoly? Pass refrigerator and collect 200 calories.
Here’s the thing, I would leave. But not right away and not for the fact that she became fat. It’s because that’s typically a mental health thing. I would try to get her help but if she didn’t make any progress or try to even help herself then I would leave. I’m not going to waste my time and my happiness trying to help someone that doesn’t want to help themselves.
Everybody ages.
Some change is normal.
If she went from fit...130 pounds and gets to 220 and she isn't even the same person... something better change.
Of course I would stay and together get back into shape. I mean that is kindvof point of marriage... To stand together in both the good and the bad times.
it depends but part of the equation is that women file for divorce at a higher rate than men so they are not respecting the "For better or worse" agreement for what ever reason. That makes me not want to get married but if I did it would make me reconsider For better or for Worse
I'm gonna keep myself fit and healthy through our marriage no matter how hard life gets, it's gonna be 50% for my own health and 50% for keeping her happy, if she's gonna ignore that fact and just go and fatten herself up selfishly, I won't let it slip and I'd try my best to make her change that behaviour before ultimately making a huge problem about it.
Being unfit and being obese are two different things. Idc if you stop being fit but if you become obese then idc to stay.
Yes I would stay with her and help her in regaining back her main image. Since we are one soul in a relationship supposed yo support each other no matter what. So I would stay.
That depends. Was she with the guy because of his wealth, status? Was the relationship was a trade-off beauty with money? Does she possess any other qualities except looking hot? If you accept someone at their bad, they will be with you at yours too. If not they can leave. Too bad most pretty women always want to trade off beauty with status money.
If I really liked her and thought she was the one, then probably, as much as becoming really fat, wouldn't be ideal.
Well, I’m not sure, I guess it depends on how fat she got to be honest. The before and after pictures in your question look rather drastic/extreme.
Yeah i would be there coz i married her... and like she is my wife... not a girlfriend or just a need of time relationship...
If it was a conscious decision not to take care of herself after the ring goes on? No, I wouldn't. Taking care of and respecting your own body is important to me and putting on weight because "now we're married" isn't acceptable.
Yes no matter how fat she become I will still love her we are one and I will also help her to reduce weight by going to gym with her because love conquer all things
Did I marry her for her looks or because of love? If only for her looks, then probably I’m out, if there were some substance behind the relationship then I’ll stick by the lady.
No hot babe. - just my wife for 40+ years and we both have aged a bit.
Gravity has not been a friend.
It never is or never will. 40 years! That is quite an accomplishment. Congrats!
Shows that relationships must be magnetic - (opposites attract).
You don't just up and dump someone over that. Granted I might only be able to have vanilla sex in the dark with them after if I'm being honest. It depends on how big we are talking.
If it goes over a certain limit, I will definitely become serious and have a straight up talk about it and hopefully get her to start something, if she doesn't put in effort and becomes an obese whale, I could leave her over it.
I did stay with her. She is still the same woman I fell in love with. I married her for her personality and we are still together after almost 27 years of marriage.
Poor roger. I would suspend a Twinkie from a piece of bamboo, and get her to chase me down the street to try and catch it.
Kind of like a horse and a carrot dangled in front of it?
Yeah, only difference is it’s a twinky
I married a hot babe and she turned thot. So we had to end the relationship.
Absolutely not marrying a fat girl is worse than getting cancer
That I doubt. You don't die from a fat girl.
I would try to work with her to stay attractive for me. But if she doesn't want that, that means goodbye for me.
She needs to lose weight. I hold myself to a certain physical standard and if the woman I married loses those standards then we can work on them.
The wedding vows are for better or worse; not through thick or thin.
Getting fat is a choice.
So yep, she makes that choice and refuses to correct it, I am out.
I'd be cheating on her once she got fat! Hoping she would get skinny again from the jealousy
I dont expect her to be perfect, but I do expect her to respect her body and health.
The mind is important, but can't just let go and stop caring completely. If we're gonna live a long time I'll need her healthy.
I would marry someone beautiful in the inside because outside appearance change, the inside never changes
The inside can change indeed. Just not as much as the outer hull.
Yeah i guess
I would stay but ladies don’t stay with me long anyways.
Nah. Not even looks. Lazy gluttons who dont care are unacceptable.
Depends on many things. Take look on pierce brosnan
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